Online Dating Sites & Professional Match Making Services

I knew a pilot that wanted to have a "girlfriend" in each city where he flew into, so he joined a dating site. He put a picture of himself in his uniform up with his resume, so a lot of ladies were immediately attracted to him. He must have had over a 100 responses after just a few days. So many, in fact, that he scrubbed the idea. He said that he didn't have time to go through them all and make contacts and set up dates. He was also afraid that he would call them by wrong names, getting them confused with one another.
 

If so inclined, men have been having a "girl in every port" since time began... Perhaps the online "shopping" has made it more convenient, but it's certainly not a new phenomenon.
 
oldman said:
I knew a pilot that wanted to have a "girlfriend" in each city where he flew into, so he joined a dating site. He put a picture of himself in his uniform up with his resume, so a lot of ladies were immediately attracted to him. He must have had over a 100 responses after just a few days. So many, in fact, that he scrubbed the idea. He said that he didn't have time to go through them all and make contacts and set up dates. He was also afraid that he would call them by wrong names, getting them confused with one another.
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Maybe a few STDs as well!!
 

Sorry in advance if this is a little off topic :) however I would like some advise!! Kev who I mentioned in an earlier post on this subject who had just joined online dating site, came to my home yesterday to try to sort him out, His new " Love" had insisted he communicate with her through Yahoo,that sent Alarm bells ringing in my head.... However he is taken in by the photo of a 50 year old?? That looks more like a model in her 30's oh well some have all.the luck in the looks department ....He invited me to read her introductory letter to him where "she" mentioned recently moving to Sydney from England , after inheriting her parents home in the Sydney rocks area.. ( a very expencive area of Sydney) She mentions she only has two sisters however further down the poorly written letter, for a lady who claims to be well educated in England, "She" mentions a brother. I feel he has been taken in by a scammer, the whole letter appeared to be copied and pasted....I'd Iike to say to Kev Run as fast as you can he is a 52 year man, who looks more like a 60 year old.... What is the best advise I can give him . He is reasonably easy to get on with ..but I don't want to sound like his mother ...telling off a naughty child, it's not his fault. He has encountered a obivious scammer .. "She" had sent him 28 Emails in 24 hours ...I only skimmed over them most of them were contradictory
 
QuickSilver said:
If so inclined, men have been having a "girl in every port" since time began... Perhaps the online "shopping" has made it more convenient, but it's certainly not a new phenomenon.
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Ain’t that the truth. If a man (or woman) is inclined to mess around, they’re gonna find ways to do it. The internet may make it a bit easier and increase the volume of prospects but they were doing it with phone chat lines, pen pals, the personals in magazines & newspapers, ….whatever.
 
Kadee46 said:
Sorry in advance if this is a little off topic :) however I would like some advise!! Kev who I mentioned in an earlier post on this subject who had just joined online dating site, came to my home yesterday to try to sort him out, His new " Love" had insisted he communicate with her through Yahoo,that sent Alarm bells ringing in my head.... However he is taken in by the photo of a 50 year old?? That looks more like a model in her 30's oh well some have all.the luck in the looks department ....He invited me to read her introductory letter to him where "she" mentioned recently moving to Sydney from England , after inheriting her parents home in the Sydney rocks area.. ( a very expencive area of Sydney) She mentions she only has two sisters however further down the poorly written letter, for a lady who claims to be well educated in England, "She" mentions a brother. I feel he has been taken in by a scammer, the whole letter appeared to be copied and pasted....I'd Iike to say to Kev Run as fast as you can he is a 52 year man, who looks more like a 60 year old.... What is the best advise I can give him . He is reasonably easy to get on with ..but I don't want to sound like his mother ...telling off a naughty child, it's not his fault. He has encountered a obivious scammer .. "She" had sent him 28 Emails in 24 hours ...I only skimmed over them most of them were contradictory
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I believe you are absolutely right on and that he has met a scammer or worse. I think that for his own safety and security you should give him your honest opinion and let him do with it what he will.

The whole thing is happening WAAAY too fast to be legit, IMHO. The copy and paste thing is worrisome, also, as is the disparity between her claimed education and the letters. Also the request that he communicate with her on another website is a flag. Probably the next letter will be that she desperately wants to come meet him but needs money to do so, or some such. He needs to be very careful or he is in danger of finding himself with an empty bank account and a broken heart. Happens all the time.
 
Thank you , I will be talking to him latter.. Will gently ask a few questions ... He is not related to me, he had a notice on our one and only little supermarket notice board for someone to teach him the computer... He is very polite and caring and only recently returned to this area from interstate to care for his dying mother , who has since passed .
 
QuickSilver said:
As for looking for a mate in bars??? There's an old saying.. You don't pick peaches off a Lemon Tree.
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Hahaha. I never heard that one before.
Back to the original question, I've never used an online dating service. Aren't people afraid of others misrepresenting themselves in a way that could be potentially dangerous? Especially to a woman??
 
I have met people in the past through online dating services, no frogs but no princes either. Nothing wrong with any of the gentlemen, we just lacked sufficient commonality. I found their mind set too old for my taste. They were only in their fifties, hardly geriatric, yet seemed more interested in being coddled than anything else. Not my scene. The gentleman currently in my life, appeared across the produce section in the local supermarket. He is a lovely person, same age group as the guys I just mentioned but twenty years younger in outlook.
 
Abigail1509 said:
Hi everyone! :D I had an experience of online dating. I met a guy at https://kovla.com/, we communicated for three months but I didn't see him as my sweetheart - just friendship. I didn't have any feelings to him. He insisted on meeting in a real life, we started to date (as he thought - for me it was just spending my free time). But after a while he became very close to me... I really fell in love with him :love_heart: Now we are married for half a year and very happy together. So love from the first sight is not the only one possible variant to become happy - sometimes we need time to get used to person! I wish everyone here good luck and true love! ;)
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A very happy story, but not unique among SF members.
 
Kadee46 said:
I guess he will learn one day :shrug:, he just phoned me asking me to try to sort out his heaps of replies from the lady in question , wonder if she has told him yet about her sick relatives, or the money tied up in a overseas company that she needs his financial help with to release her millions.
I only volunteered to teach him to use the computer to use the Internet to search things like eBay, send and read email as I don't have the time to mess about trying to sort out the obvious day after day..
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From your standpoint 50 and never married? Caution, older bachelors are set in their ways and think singular not plural.
 
An update on Kev ...He wasn't convinced "She" was a scammer and kept talking on Yahoo ... Then she informed him she was on her way to Malaysia to buy jewellery to set up a shop in Sydney...Poor girl was robbed on "her" arrival in Malaysia and needed money.from him to pay her hotel, and phone bill ..........Now no one expected that outcome did they :yes:
Kev was up front and said sorry can't help you, he hasn't heard from "her" since ...I felt like saying "Told you so"but bit my toungue and just smiled ....
Here is the photo she sent him....
 

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Butterfly said:
If I were you, I'd advise him to be VERY careful, and not to divulge personal information, like his name, address, and certainly not that he has medical issues. He could be a perfect mark for someone seeking to do him ill.
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Shalimar said:
Kadee, I agree with Butterfly, regretably, there are predators of both sexes out there. He needs to be more circumspect.
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I agree with both of you, watch out for scammers and predators online.
 
Kadee46 said:
An update on Kev ...He wasn't convinced "She" was a scammer and kept talking on Yahoo ... Then she informed him she was on her way to Malaysia to buy jewellery to set up a shop in Sydney...Poor girl was robbed on "her" arrival in Malaysia and needed money.from him to pay her hotel, and phone bill ..........Now no one expected that outcome did they :yes:
Kev was up front and said sorry can't help you, he hasn't heard from "her" since ...I felt like saying "Told you so"but bit my toungue and just smiled ....
Here is the photo she sent him....
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She'll find another "mark" Kadee, good of you to help him, your smile said the words. ;)
 
Butterfly said:
If I were you, I'd advise him to be VERY careful, and not to divulge personal information, like his name, address, and certainly not that he has medical issues. He could be a perfect mark for someone seeking to do him ill.
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Totally agree. Especially if he is inexperienced with the ways of the internet.

Here's an old humorous but true saying:

"The internet: where men are men, women are men, and children are FBI agents"
 
Kadee46 said:
An update on Kev ...He wasn't convinced "She" was a scammer and kept talking on Yahoo ... Then she informed him she was on her way to Malaysia to buy jewellery to set up a shop in Sydney...Poor girl was robbed on "her" arrival in Malaysia and needed money.from him to pay her hotel, and phone bill ..........Now no one expected that outcome did they :yes:
Kev was up front and said sorry can't help you, he hasn't heard from "her" since ...I felt like saying "Told you so"but bit my toungue and just smiled ....
Here is the photo she sent him....
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So glad you were able to save him from this. People get bilked out of thousands of dollars with exactly this kind of scam -- BIG problem in foreign country, need $$ to help, will pay back, really love you, etc., etc., etc. According to what I've read, it is very common.
 
Actually, I find this scam so obvious, only a fool would fall for it - if someone was stuck in a foreign country with no money they would know to go to their embassy or better yet, call family. There is no reason to ask an online 'dating' contact for help with money,.
 
Someone I am close to has met a dear husband through the internet but also some great lady friends too. There are sites where you can get on just to meet "friends" and they have nothing to do with sex. I am happily married, but if I were single I would consider the internet.
 
I just wonder who the lady in the photo is:shrug::shrug: She may be quite an innocent person who has no idea her photo is being used as a obivious scam ....
hubby and I did look into photo matching sites with Kev...but they were fairly expencive to join and considering he didn't fall for the scam it's not worth paying out money to find out, just put it down to experience ............He did report it to the dating site .( the name she is using) . Not sure I can mention name of dating site??
 
People who fall for those scams are usually lonely, have little social interaction, and are new to the internet or new to dating sites. They want very much to believe that the other "person" is really interested in them.

It's very sad, really. And those who prey on the lonely souls are beneath contempt.
 

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