Over 80, Is it better alone or with someone?

[Alligatorob]

Still 10 years short of 80, and my wife is pretty healthy. But this is still a good question to ponder. At some age it happens to almost half of all married people.

Marriage is more than a formality. If you're not the legal spouse, someone else is the next of kin.

Good point, the legal aspects of marriage are a related but different issue from relationship things. Something we all should be planning for.

 

[Gaer]

Not 80 yet, but it's getting closer and closer.
If I were ill, I would want to be alone.
But, I feel great, so I'm open to all possibilities.
Loving life either way. Love being alone and
would love a big, hunky man hanging around.

 

[mrstime]

I'll be 83 in a couple of months, DH and I were married 65 years June 10th this year. If he goes first I would not consider another. Where would I find a man who would put up with me? Then I would be totally uninterested in another man anyway.

 

[Tabby Ann]

I think many elderly people would enjoy having a casual companion nearby who could share conversation, dinners and mutual help and support as able. However, there aren't reliable networks and places for the elderly to meet each other. The standard suggestions made by seniors who aren't elderly don't take into consideration that those with mobility issues cannot run out and join most of the local clubs including the senior citizens clubs which are poorly equipped to provide services and social recreation for the elderly. Dating sites are notorious for scammers and liars and senior forums like this have such far flung members it's difficult to find anyone in your area.

 

[Tabby Ann]

Curious....When did 65 become a octogenarian?

65 isn't an octogenarian. It's a senior citizen at best. And some senior citizens are as clueless about the aging process after 80 as teenagers. But they always want to jump in and say what they would do in the future and what their elders should do.

 

[Manatee]

Manatee--I'm not sure how many octogenarians have responded. I'm not there yet so I'll refrain from answering. Are you considering remarrying or just curious?

My wife of 63 years has been in a nursing home for a year and a half. I am not looking to replace her, but her prospects are not good.

In 12 years I will be 100, if I am still around.

 

[funsearcher!]

I am not 80, not for quite a few more years.
Lived alone after I was divorced, which was fine until I retired and Covid shutdowns came.
I have a female roommate now.
If I had a relationship going forward, I would have to see how it felt with the man, being together or apart would just depend on our relationship. Don't know until I live it.

 

[Nathan]

Over 80, Is it better alone or with someone?

Good question, food for thought. I've got ten years[hopefully] to ponder that, couldn't really say right now
with any certainty.