Pedophilia is a sickness and if you don't have that you may not judge about it

We're speaking of evil and it has been around for thousands of years.
Anyone who takes away the innocence of children is a sick and evil person.
I don't know the answer except we need to guard our children as best we can. Teach them skills to fight and cope.
When my kids were small, 2/3 to 5 years old, I told them to never take candy from a stranger, but I also didn't want to give them a trauma, so that's all I said. Why? They're bozo's. Just don't do that. I guess it didn't sound like a severe warning cause then they played child lurer. The 5 year old happily: I'm the child lurer! To his toddler brother: Come here little one! I have candy!
 
We're speaking of evil and it has been around for thousands of years.
Anyone who takes away the innocence of children is a sick and evil person.
I don't know the answer except we need to guard our children as best we can. Teach them skills to fight and cope.
Prevention is Always the best option. It's a hard subject to approach a child with for many.
But hearing it from a parent seems the most effective way to get a child to believe it.
Schools wait too long for a child to have the knowledge and method to know what to do.

I was in that era of the strong teaching of "Mind the Adult" and that is what guess I thought I had to do.
I did not know I could say no when my body was telling me "This is not right".
 
I can’t speak with authority about conditions two centuries ago, but in more recent times it’s hard to see the Church as an effective safeguard against child abuse. The widespread revelations that emerged in the 1980s and beyond made clear that serious harm had occurred, and the institutional response often compounded the problem. Rather than confronting the abuse directly, Church leadership frequently denied allegations or reassigned offending priests, which allowed the misconduct to continue out of public view. Whatever the situation may have been in earlier eras, today I wouldn’t consider the Church a reliable refuge in this regard.
This is from 2018.

https://nos.nl/op3/artikel/2246515-waarom-seksueel-misbruik-bijna-altijd-in-het-biechthokje-blijft

Why sexual abuse almost always stays in the confessional
Within a few months, multiple sexual abuse scandals within the Catholic Church have come to light. For instance, it emerged this week how 300 priests were able to abuse over a thousand American children for years. Clergy knew about it, but no one said anything.

This is partly due to the sacrament of confession: everything discussed or happening during confession must remain between the penitent and the priest. Even if abuse takes place there.

The Vatican established this in a secret document, the crimen sollicitationis, in 1962.

In the crimen sollicitationis, sexual abuse is described as an extremely pernicious sin. But if it happens, it must be resolved within the church. The church has its own legal code and legal system for this purpose.

The Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, a high court of the church, then determines what punishment a priest receives for the abuse. The church judges sexual violence very differently than a secular court does. A priest can receive forgiveness by praying or by showing lifelong repentance to God.

Priests, for example, have sex or have a partner in secret.

Vatican expert Stijn Fens

Every cleric involved in this process must remain silent forever. A cleric may not report a colleague to the police if that colleague has abused someone. If the cleric does so, *he* is expelled from the church, *not* the person being accused. If you violate this rule, only the Pope can forgive you.

Confession remains sacred
The sanctity of confession will not change anytime soon, thinks Vatican expert Stijn Fens. "Politicians in Australia (where it recently became known that an archbishop concealed that a priest had committed abuse) also said: let the church lift that secrecy of confession when it concerns grave sins. But the church is not going to do that."

Furthermore, secrecy is ingrained in the culture, and you don't change that just like that. Church historian Peter Nissen says that a large percentage of all priests do not adhere to celibacy. "Priests, for example, have sex or have a partner in secret. When they see that their colleagues are committing abuse, they cannot say anything about it, because they themselves are vulnerable to blackmail."

At the same time, Fens observes that there is more transparency within the church. Most cases coming to light now date back years.
 
When my kids were small, 2/3 to 5 years old, I told them to never take candy from a stranger, but I also didn't want to give them a trauma, so that's all I said. Why? They're bozo's. Just don't do that. I guess it didn't sound like a severe warning cause then they played child lurer. The 5 year old happily: I'm the child lurer! To his toddler brother: Come here little one! I have candy!
Yup. Happy children playing. They do know there are child lurers though and that's good. Kids need a healthy fear of strangers.
 
Yup. Happy children playing. They do know there are child lurers though and that's good. Kids need a healthy fear of strangers.
Yes. My parents warned me too. In the 70s I could just walk to school alone at 6 years old. Once a woman asked me to go with her cause she had candy. I said no and walked home. My ex as a small kid met one in a swimming pool, also a woman. He also got warned. Nothing happened.

But when my son was 7 and went to an old grandma, a few houses away from my ex, for fysiotherapy and I was at work and he couldn't join, he called her that he couldn't come. Let him come alone! Nope. He's old enough. He has to come alone!! No way. She was offended to the bone and I had to find another one. We were maybe too extreme, but nothing ever happened.
 
Following psychological and psychiatric examination, it appears that the resident of The Hague suffers from, among other things, an autism spectrum disorder and a pedophilic disorder. As a result, he is barely able to resist his urges. Without treatment, the risk of recurrence is assessed as high. The experts therefore recommended TBS (Treatment Order for Mentally Ill Offenders) with compulsory hospitalization. The court adopted this recommendation.

The medical community classifies alcoholism as a chronic, relapsing brain disease, characterized by an inability to control or stop drinking, but the legal system treats driving under the influence as a crime -not an uncontrollable symptom of a disease. When the alcoholic is intoxicated and gets behind the wheel of a car, and kills someone, he is not simply sent for treatment, or a rehab program - he will pay for his act as a criminal offense.
 
I will argue a point about this.... and it covers may forms of abusive personalities.... Many have grown up witnessing some kind of abuse and they accept it as normal so there is nothing wrong. The can gets kicked down the road.
I know of an 18 YO that hooked up with a 13 YO.... Married 78 years before Great Grandpa died.
there used to be a member of this forum... she was an American from Texas .. and she was married off at 13 to her Husband who was much older than her... and she had children by him...

She's no longer with us, she died in her 60's ... R.I.P our friend @Ina
 
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