People that ignore, interrupt or talk over you during conversation

[StarSong]

I will interrupt, when someone is talking to me. Why? I have something to say and don't want to forget what I'm going to say. If a person thinks that is rude, only have two words to say........"oh well!".

Just remember, I don't want to forget the comment I want to say!

I agree. The natural flow of conversation often includes interruptions with questions and meandering to new topics. If there's a point that desperately needs to be made, one can always say, "Let me just circle back for a moment to add...." and then wrap it up with action words.

 

[twinkles]

i have that problem here where i live---i can be talking to my daughter and her husband walks in the room and talking over me(so piss on them) she will come back and ask me what i was saying and i just tell her i forgot

 

[dobielvr]

i have a sister that likes to look at her phone while I'm talking, so i just dont talk to her anymore..lol

 

[grahamg]

I will interrupt, when someone is talking to me. Why? I have something to say and don't want to forget what I'm going to say. If a person thinks that is rude, only have two words to say........"oh well!".
Just remember, I don't want to forget the comment I want to say!

I do that, (well both things you mentioned).
I think I'm sharing nuggets of information I've acquired, that might be of some use, (plus when thwarted, and you've forgotten whatever it was, that is so frustrating! ).

 

[grahamg]

I was listening to newstalk radio the other day and a caller came on and the discussion was opposing views between the host and the caller. Of coarse it was radio and people's voices can fool you but this caller, who was male, sounded relatively young. I could be wrong. But he kept saying "my point is..." yet never stated or got to his point. It was ridiculous to be almost funny. I also know this host is not young himself but he had a good grip on the conversation. It ended without going anywhere.

I think some of those guys who deal with radio phone ins are quite amazing in the way they deal with all sorts, but I imagine there is a process of filtering out the most difficult customers(?)

 

[Kadee]

When our world was “normal“ we’d mix with on average 60+ people twice a week
at our social outings of ballroom dancing .

Now Ive never been one to speak about aches / pains / surgery list / medications even at the doctors ..he will ask about any previous surgery sometimes and I say I don’t remember dates ...or care to ....
I don’t dwell on stuff.

Anyway we get an odd one at the dances who like to tell you about all the meds / surgery / and no one wants to hear that sort of stuff ..so many don't take the time to speak to people who
want to talk about personal stuff like that cause they know what’s going to happen ......
so I cut a conversation short if someone is wanting to talk about those subjects

 

[grahamg]

When our world was “normal“ we’d mix with on average 60+ people twice a week
at our social outings of ballroom dancing .

Now Ive never been one to speak about aches / pains / surgery list / medications even at the doctors ..he will ask about any previous surgery sometimes and I say I don’t remember dates ...or care to ....
I don’t dwell on stuff.

Anyway we get an odd one at the dances who like to tell you about all the meds / surgery / and no one wants to hear that sort of stuff ..so many don't take the time to speak to people who
want to talk about personal stuff like that cause they know what’s going to happen ......
so I cut a conversation short if someone is wanting to talk about those subjects

Great to go dancing once again one day,.....anyone for a waltz when we can?

 

[Kadee]

Yep I’ll swap,a dance ...... we quite often swap dance or two with other friends
I stick to a new vogue/ saunter or blues ( no waltzing in them ) cause no one dances a waltz the same as your partner your used to dancing with .
@grahamg

 

[fmdog44]

It has been pointed out recently that men more often interrupt women when they are speaking than men. This happened during the vice presidential debate. It happens every time you see several people talking on a panel. Joe Scarborough does it a lot and Chris Mathews was the most famous interrupter of all on MSNBC.

 

[Della]

I am encountering this more and more and find it one of my new pet peeves. I can hardly start a conversation when the other person turns away and starts talking with someone else, seems to zone out, interrupts with something totally irrelevant to the topic of conversation, or just starts talking like I wasn't already saying something. Anyone else have this problem? What should I do when it happens?

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I could have written Debodun's post myself, it's been my pet peeve for years, and I don't think it matters one bit whether the person talking is older, boring or repetitive -- interrupting, talking over, or turning away when someone is mid-sentence is RUDE. Maybe they don't know how hurtful it is, but it's the same as saying, "I think you're boring and unimportant."

I know I'm a good listener, everyone says so, and I've had to be because my husband is the most talkative man in the world. He comes home and starts telling me about his day while I'm fixing dinner and is still going without pause when dinner's over and I'm drying the last dish. He does taxes for people and I've heard about every single one of them, believe me all taxes are boring. So when he finally winds down and I get to tell him about my day and he turns and walks away in the middle of my first sentence -- it's aggravating.

It's also aggravating when I'm at the checkout line and I say, "How are you today?" and she says, "I have a headache," and I say, "Oh that's too bad, particularly since you have to work wi...." and by then she's turned away and started to chat with the bagger.

Yes, I've noticed that even when it's their choice of topic, some people don't want to listen to anything but their own voice.

I've listened to many a friend ramble on about the same old things or strangers in the store telling me about their car trouble. I don't mind one bit giving them a few minutes of my time. I don't have anything so important to do that it's worth hurting someone's feelings, so that I can hurry back to it. So don't tell me it's my fault for being boring, chances are your own conversation is not as scintillating as you think it is. That doesn't matter. It's an important part of our social fabric to listen to one another and give others a moment of our time.

 

[officerripley]

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I could have written Debodun's post myself, it's been my pet peeve for years, and I don't think it matters one bit whether the person talking is older, boring or repetitive -- interrupting, talking over, or turning away when someone is mid-sentence is RUDE. Maybe they don't know how hurtful it is, but it's the same as saying, "I think you're boring and unimportant."

I know I'm a good listener, everyone says so, and I've had to be because my husband is the most talkative man in the world. He comes home and starts telling me about his day while I'm fixing dinner and is still going without pause when dinner's over and I'm drying the last dish. He does taxes for people and I've heard about every single one of them, believe me all taxes are boring. So when he finally winds down and I get to tell him about my day and he turns and walks away in the middle of my first sentence -- it's aggravating.

It's also aggravating when I'm at the checkout line and I say, "How are you today?" and she says, "I have a headache," and I say, "Oh that's too bad, particularly since you have to work wi...." and by then she's turned away and started to chat with the bagger.

Yes, I've noticed that even when it's their choice of topic, some people don't want to listen to anything but their own voice.

I've listened to many a friend ramble on about the same old things or strangers in the store telling me about their car trouble. I don't mind one bit giving them a few minutes of my time. I don't have anything so important to do that it's worth hurting someone's feelings, so that I can hurry back to it. So don't tell me it's my fault for being boring, chances are your own conversation is not as scintillating as you think it is. That doesn't matter. It's an important part of our social fabric to listen to one another and give others a moment of our time.

 

[Devi]

[This is long. Feel free to stop half way through, I wont know about it.]

I could have written Debodun's post myself, it's been my pet peeve for years, and I don't think it matters one bit whether the person talking is older, boring or repetitive -- interrupting, talking over, or turning away when someone is mid-sentence is RUDE. Maybe they don't know how hurtful it is, but it's the same as saying, "I think you're boring and unimportant."

I know I'm a good listener, everyone says so, and I've had to be because my husband is the most talkative man in the world. He comes home and starts telling me about his day while I'm fixing dinner and is still going without pause when dinner's over and I'm drying the last dish. He does taxes for people and I've heard about every single one of them, believe me all taxes are boring. So when he finally winds down and I get to tell him about my day and he turns and walks away in the middle of my first sentence -- it's aggravating.

It's also aggravating when I'm at the checkout line and I say, "How are you today?" and she says, "I have a headache," and I say, "Oh that's too bad, particularly since you have to work wi...." and by then she's turned away and started to chat with the bagger.

Yes, I've noticed that even when it's their choice of topic, some people don't want to listen to anything but their own voice.

I've listened to many a friend ramble on about the same old things or strangers in the store telling me about their car trouble. I don't mind one bit giving them a few minutes of my time. I don't have anything so important to do that it's worth hurting someone's feelings, so that I can hurry back to it. So don't tell me it's my fault for being boring, chances are your own conversation is not as scintillating as you think it is. That doesn't matter. It's an important part of our social fabric to listen to one another and give others a moment of our time.

What @Della said. I'll add: it's called "manners" -- the thing that makes our social interactions more pleasing.

 

[officerripley]

[This is long. Feel free to stop half way through, I wont know about it.]

I could have written Debodun's post myself, it's been my pet peeve for years, and I don't think it matters one bit whether the person talking is older, boring or repetitive -- interrupting, talking over, or turning away when someone is mid-sentence is RUDE. Maybe they don't know how hurtful it is, but it's the same as saying, "I think you're boring and unimportant."

I know I'm a good listener, everyone says so, and I've had to be because my husband is the most talkative man in the world. He comes home and starts telling me about his day while I'm fixing dinner and is still going without pause when dinner's over and I'm drying the last dish. He does taxes for people and I've heard about every single one of them, believe me all taxes are boring. So when he finally winds down and I get to tell him about my day and he turns and walks away in the middle of my first sentence -- it's aggravating.

It's also aggravating when I'm at the checkout line and I say, "How are you today?" and she says, "I have a headache," and I say, "Oh that's too bad, particularly since you have to work wi...." and by then she's turned away and started to chat with the bagger.

Yes, I've noticed that even when it's their choice of topic, some people don't want to listen to anything but their own voice.

I've listened to many a friend ramble on about the same old things or strangers in the store telling me about their car trouble. I don't mind one bit giving them a few minutes of my time. I don't have anything so important to do that it's worth hurting someone's feelings, so that I can hurry back to it. So don't tell me it's my fault for being boring, chances are your own conversation is not as scintillating as you think it is. That doesn't matter. It's an important part of our social fabric to listen to one another and give others a moment of our time.

OMG, Della, exactly what you said! I told someone a while back that if I ever wanted my huzz to leave the room or stop paying attention to me for some reason that all I have to do is open my mouth & start talking; he either leaves or picks up the remote & turns the TV up louder or starts staring out the window.

 

[hawkdon]

E G O........

 

[gennie]

Conversation should be equal give and take, I think.

However, some of those close to me (who have complained about me interrupting) will say what they want to say and walk away without waiting for a response.

Coincidentally, this is the same person who will interrupt me with an answer to a question I was never going to ask because they assume they already know what I am going to say.

 

[MarciKS]

[This is long. Feel free to stop half way through, I wont know about it.]

I could have written Debodun's post myself, it's been my pet peeve for years, and I don't think it matters one bit whether the person talking is older, boring or repetitive -- interrupting, talking over, or turning away when someone is mid-sentence is RUDE. Maybe they don't know how hurtful it is, but it's the same as saying, "I think you're boring and unimportant."

I know I'm a good listener, everyone says so, and I've had to be because my husband is the most talkative man in the world. He comes home and starts telling me about his day while I'm fixing dinner and is still going without pause when dinner's over and I'm drying the last dish. He does taxes for people and I've heard about every single one of them, believe me all taxes are boring. So when he finally winds down and I get to tell him about my day and he turns and walks away in the middle of my first sentence -- it's aggravating.

It's also aggravating when I'm at the checkout line and I say, "How are you today?" and she says, "I have a headache," and I say, "Oh that's too bad, particularly since you have to work wi...." and by then she's turned away and started to chat with the bagger.

Yes, I've noticed that even when it's their choice of topic, some people don't want to listen to anything but their own voice.

I've listened to many a friend ramble on about the same old things or strangers in the store telling me about their car trouble. I don't mind one bit giving them a few minutes of my time. I don't have anything so important to do that it's worth hurting someone's feelings, so that I can hurry back to it. So don't tell me it's my fault for being boring, chances are your own conversation is not as scintillating as you think it is. That doesn't matter. It's an important part of our social fabric to listen to one another and give others a moment of our time.

Otherwise some of us just quit talking altogether.

 

[MarciKS]

Ever think it might be you?

Could be the topic?



We geezers tend to repeat ourselves
Do any of them hold up their fingers?
Like three fingers represent the amount of times you already told 'em



We geezers tend to repeat ourselves.....selves......selves.....yawn

People that ignore​

Funny, I think deb has me on ignore

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Cute pic. I don't think topic has anything to do with it. We listen to other people's dumb crap with interest.

 

[rgp]

People just want to be heard. And they just cannot wait .

Trouble is one only learns by listening ........ one learns nothing by talking.

 

[officerripley]

I remember a boss I had years ago who would always interrupt me--not when I was just chatting about the weather or whatever, mind you, I'd be trying to talk to him about a work project--and one day, I finally got fed up and asked him to please not interrupt me. He frowned and said, "No please don't interrupt me when I'm interrupting you; I'm your boss and whatever I've got to say is more important than what you've got to say."

 

[Pepper]

I remember a boss I had years ago who would always interrupt me--not when I was just chatting about the weather or whatever, mind you, I'd be trying to talk to him about a work project--and one day, I finally got fed up and asked him to please not interrupt me. He frowned and said, "No please don't interrupt me when I'm interrupting you; I'm your boss and whatever I've got to say is more important than what you've got to say."

Not surprised at his reply.

 

[debodun]

I tend to interrupt people, but it's because I want to say something before I forget what it is. Funny how it's okay when I do it but it irks me when others do it to me.

Knock knock.
Who's there?
Interrupting cow.
Interrupting co..
MOO!

 

[hollydolly]

i have a sister that likes to look at her phone while I'm talking, so i just dont talk to her anymore..lol

That is the absolute height of rudeness IMO

 

[hollydolly]

I will interrupt, when someone is talking to me. Why? I have something to say and don't want to forget what I'm going to say. If a person thinks that is rude, only have two words to say........"oh well!".

Just remember, I don't want to forget the comment I want to say!

So you would be perfectly happy if someone interrupts you right in the middle of whatever you think is important to say , and starts to talk over you in case they forget what they want to say ?

 

[ClassicRockr]

So you would be perfectly happy if someone interrupts you right in the middle of whatever you think is important to say , and starts to talk over you in case they forget what they want to say ?

Wouldn't bother me, Holly. One thing I found out, all to quickly, was that basic "good manners and etiquette" were out-the-door onboard a Navy ship.............except, when it came to speaking to a Naval Officer.

If I have something to say, I will interrupt to say it. That's it.

 

[LindaB]

I am encountering this more and more and find it one of my new pet peeves. I can hardly start a conversation when the other person turns away and starts talking with someone else, seems to zone out, interrupts with something totally irrelevant to the topic of conversation, or just starts talking like I wasn't already saying something. Anyone else have this problem? What should I do when it happens?

I have one friend who does that constantly. I just let her hammer on...and on