Placing items in people's coffins

I've never done that to anyone's coffin. I've probably gone to my last funeral so its fair to say I never will.
 
I personally haven't, but have seen it done.. When my 2nd husband died, his daughter was pregnant, and it would have been his first grandchild. She put a picture of the baby's ultrasound in his coffin.
 

I've never seen this done, except for once when a family put a rosary in the coffin with their mother. In the last few years, I have very rarely seen an open casket. I go to as few funerals as I can, though. Funerals, themselves, are going out of fashion around here -- more often it is a private burial and a memorial service later, or private cremation and a memorial service later.
 
I have seen family members place a memento in the coffin and if it comforts a grieving person
then I think it's fine for them to do so.

I left my Mom's wedding ring on her finger. She was married young and never took off her ring
and I certainly was not going to remove it from her finger. It went with her and I think that would
have been what she wanted.
She had already given me her engagement ring but never said she wanted anyone to have her
wedding ring.
 
Good God!!!! NO!!!
Its a dead person in there, nothing you put in there will bring it back. I'm going to be cremated if you want to leave me anything a pitcher of water and some marshmallows might help .
 
At my husband's funeral the funeral director gave me a sheet of paper and told me to write my husband a letter and to pass it around for others to put their thoughts down. When it was finished he took it and rolled it up and put it in a small cylinder. On the outside of the coffin was a spot to insert the cylinder. It was a hard letter to write but everyone wrote how much they would miss him and the favorite times they had.
 
I haven't seen it done, but why not if it comforts somebody who has just been bereaved.Most people now are cremated though so no point putting anything in the coffin( I thought you called it a casket in the U.S. .)
 
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A lady here in Aus lost her 20 year old son in a car accident, And she insisted her son be buried with his mobile phone just in case he woke up.....She continually phoned his number untill the battery went flat ........She was on our current affairs program.....I do hope she has been able to move on or received counselling
Its very hard to loose someone especially when young and many of us understand that..
 
When my Dad passed away all the grandchildren were heartbroken and each one of them placed something in his coffin for him to feel like they were always with him and then when My Mom passed away they did the same thing. I think it was their way to cope with our loss.
 
yes, when my Dad died he was buried with photos of his family and a scarf in his footy team's colours. It was just symbolic and was the last thing we could do for him. We also buried him in casual clothes.......he had to wear a suit and tie his entire working life and he hated them.
 
Italians are superstitious and the older Italians believed that is was necessary to put favorite things in a coffin, so the dead person would not feel a need to come back. Like cigarettes, pictures, rosary beads, articles of clothing. My ex's father even put a bottle of wine in his mother's casket. My grandfather was different....when he went to the funeral home to make burial arrangements he told the undertaker that before he was buried he wanted all of his clothing except for his socks and underclothing removed. But, he did not specify who they were to be given to. Perhaps he thought he was coming back and would need them LOL
 
oakapple said:
I haven't seen it done, but why not if it comforts somebody who has just been bereaved.Most people now are cremated though so no point putting anything in the coffin( I thought you called it a casket in the U.S. .)
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When you are cremated as I will be you do not have a coffin or casket (we call the either). You probably will have picture at a memorial service and sometimes the urn with the ashes.
 
The ultimate final say would be the bill collector who dies and his deadbeat nemesis goes to his service and sticks a IOU in the coffin!
 
I'm not sure what you mean by "believe" in it. Certainly not in the sense that it will serve the departed in some after life, as per King Tut. I had a very close friend die when we were in our early twenties. We had both worked at putting out a monthly newspaper for our church. I was alone with our minister at my friend's coffin in the church. He took me over to the office where we put out the paper, took a copy of the latest issue, and tucked it inside of my friends jacket. A nice gesture that seemed appropriate and strangely satisfying for ourselves, but certainly nothing magical about it.
 
mitchezz said:
yes, when my Dad died he was buried with photos of his family and a scarf in his footy team's colours. It was just symbolic and was the last thing we could do for him. We also buried him in casual clothes.......he had to wear a suit and tie his entire working life and he hated them.
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Excuse me, but Lol! I wore a suit and tie all my life and hated every minute of it. I have one suit and tie left. I want it burned when I burn. I love what you did!
 
Lynk said:
At my husband's funeral the funeral director gave me a sheet of paper and told me to write my husband a letter and to pass it around for others to put their thoughts down. When it was finished he took it and rolled it up and put it in a small cylinder. On the outside of the coffin was a spot to insert the cylinder. It was a hard letter to write but everyone wrote how much they would miss him and the favorite times they had.
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I think it was really presumptuous of him to do that. Everyone grieves in their own way. He put additional stress on you at the worst possible time.
 
My father was a cigar smoker, I buried him with 3 cigars in his suit pocket. After the funeral, my son reminded me that I forgot matches!!!
 

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