Boon54
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LOL. I wouldn't know. Apparently, all parties agree to it.In a marriage polyamory is just a euphemism for adultery.
LOL. I wouldn't know. Apparently, all parties agree to it.In a marriage polyamory is just a euphemism for adultery.
I’ll have to look that one up too.What does that mean???
I'm told that the Chinese symbol for "trouble" is two "women" symbols under the symbol for a roof.Worse scenario for any man,for sure is two women or more together under the same roof. Not good, not good at all.
Lovely story about the expansive quality of love, @OneEyedDiva. Thank you for sharing it.Islam permits polygamy, but does not necessarily encourage it. It was permitted because during the holy wars, many Muslim men were killed, leaving women and children without resources and support. The Quran mentions "the orphans" many times. Men were allowed to take more than one wife so they could support families left destitute due to the deaths of spouses.
I was in a polygamous marriage. I wouldn't have married (our) husband if that weren't the case, since really....I'm not the marrying kind. Also, I got anxiety when he spent too much time here, so imagine if I had a 24/7 husband. I was in a traditional marriage once and you couldn't pay me to do that again! My co-wife. who actually suggested I'd be good for him, was one of the nicest people I've ever known. She and I were in our late 40's when I married him. Both of them were slightly older than me. The arrangement worked for well for me since I was still involved with my career, caring for my elderly mother and hate to cook (my husband took me out to eat several times a week).
I stalled the marriage for three years because I was afraid of what people would think. At the time, I was just getting into Islam and didn't know of any other polygamous marriage, certainly not in our town. I took that time to read Islamic books about it and found it wasn't as odd a choice as I thought. Several professional women had made that choice. I even read a book called Man Sharin (by a non Muslim female author) who addressed the need due to a shortage of Black men in our communities.
My husband was well known and for the most part, well liked. My family "fell in love" with him and her family liked me. My husband and I actually took a day trip to the Poconos with one of her sisters and we had a lovely day. Along with her sisters, I was at my co-wife's bedside daily as she was dying from cancer. Young Muslims who were thinking of taking additional wives often sought counsel from my husband, who was an Imam/Sheik. He warned them that its a big responsibility and not for the faint of heart. And for him...imagine having two menopausal wives!May they both Rest in Paradise.
You are welcome, my friend. Thank you for "saying" thatLovely story about the expansive quality of love, @OneEyedDiva. Thank you for sharing it.![]()
Ever notice the continuous reference 'at our age' when we were younger' we are not old, we are 'chronologically gifted'
it takes time to perfect the 'cream of the crop'![]()
"Chronologically gifted" Love the term and the "cream of the crop" thing as well..
Some more than others...!Oh, come now, Pepper. At this point in life, we're all a little off. lol
You all are "cracking me up" I am setting here reading this and almost crying from laughing...so hard! Thanks for the 'gigs'Mitch. Does your wife know you have your eye on a couple side chicks? And do you realize that men dont always die first.
You could end up being the housemaid for the group if they all get sick.
And consider that some of us can be quite feisty. So instead of being the king of the castle
surrounded by your concubines you could end up being the palace slave.
While this sounds fine and dandy for you men, wheres the benefits for us women. I think I will pass. Men my age are old.![]()
It's probably what each generation values. Just recently I saw a program called: "Inside The Ambulance." If you click on that link you will need to click again on Episode 3. One of the patients that the ambulance attended was that of a 95 year old woman who had taken a tumble. She still lived at home with her 95 year old husband.Actually I don't know why anybody even bothers to marry in this day and age.
It doesn't seem to hold the same value as it once did