Polygamy Should Be Legalized For Everyone Over Age 80!

All of the women I have dated for more than a few weeks have been somebody’s mother. I finally decided that for me what worked best was to limit myself to women who had children. We just go along better. Perhaps that is a fault in me. I don’t know.
 
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I don’t see the benefits of myself having more than one wife.
Had to lay down the law about criticizing my driving once it got to the point where she didn’t like anything I did or said.
We are both a lot happier since she learned to have a better attitude.
Can you explain how having more than one wife would benefit yourself or them.
I think that my wife and I have more love and respect for each other now that we are older and don’t have all of the demands that went with the rat race.
Like somebody said why marry if you just want to cohabitate!
 
Islam permits polygamy, but does not necessarily encourage it. It was permitted because during the holy wars, many Muslim men were killed, leaving women and children without resources and support. The Quran mentions "the orphans" many times. Men were allowed to take more than one wife so they could support families left destitute due to the deaths of spouses.

I was in a polygamous marriage. I wouldn't have married (our) husband if that weren't the case, since really....I'm not the marrying kind. Also, I got anxiety when he spent too much time here, so imagine if I had a 24/7 husband. I was in a traditional marriage once and you couldn't pay me to do that again! My co-wife. who actually suggested I'd be good for him, was one of the nicest people I've ever known. She and I were in our late 40's when I married him. Both of them were slightly older than me. The arrangement worked for well for me since I was still involved with my career, caring for my elderly mother and hate to cook (my husband took me out to eat several times a week).

I stalled the marriage for three years because I was afraid of what people would think. At the time he proposed, I was just getting into Islam and didn't know of any other polygamous marriage, certainly not in our town. I took that time to read Islamic books about it and found it wasn't as odd a choice as I thought. Several professional women had made that choice. I even read a book called Man Sharing (by a non Muslim female author) who addressed the need due to a shortage of Black men in our communities.

My husband was well known and for the most part, well liked. My family "fell in love" with him and her family liked me. My husband and I actually took a day trip to the Poconos with one of her sisters and we had a lovely day. Along with her sisters, I was at my co-wife's bedside daily as she was dying from cancer. Young Muslims who were thinking of taking additional wives often sought counsel from my husband, who was an Imam/Sheik. He warned them that its a big responsibility and not for the faint of heart. And for him...imagine having two menopausal wives! :LOL:🤣 May they both Rest in Paradise.
 
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OneEyedDiva said:
Islam permits polygamy, but does not necessarily encourage it. It was permitted because during the holy wars, many Muslim men were killed, leaving women and children without resources and support. The Quran mentions "the orphans" many times. Men were allowed to take more than one wife so they could support families left destitute due to the deaths of spouses.

I was in a polygamous marriage. I wouldn't have married (our) husband if that weren't the case, since really....I'm not the marrying kind. Also, I got anxiety when he spent too much time here, so imagine if I had a 24/7 husband. I was in a traditional marriage once and you couldn't pay me to do that again! My co-wife. who actually suggested I'd be good for him, was one of the nicest people I've ever known. She and I were in our late 40's when I married him. Both of them were slightly older than me. The arrangement worked for well for me since I was still involved with my career, caring for my elderly mother and hate to cook (my husband took me out to eat several times a week).

I stalled the marriage for three years because I was afraid of what people would think. At the time, I was just getting into Islam and didn't know of any other polygamous marriage, certainly not in our town. I took that time to read Islamic books about it and found it wasn't as odd a choice as I thought. Several professional women had made that choice. I even read a book called Man Sharin (by a non Muslim female author) who addressed the need due to a shortage of Black men in our communities.

My husband was well known and for the most part, well liked. My family "fell in love" with him and her family liked me. My husband and I actually took a day trip to the Poconos with one of her sisters and we had a lovely day. Along with her sisters, I was at my co-wife's bedside daily as she was dying from cancer. Young Muslims who were thinking of taking additional wives often sought counsel from my husband, who was an Imam/Sheik. He warned them that its a big responsibility and not for the faint of heart. And for him...imagine having two menopausal wives! :LOL:🤣 May they both Rest in Paradise.
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Lovely story about the expansive quality of love, @OneEyedDiva. Thank you for sharing it. :)
 
Veronica said:
Mitch. Does your wife know you have your eye on a couple side chicks? And do you realize that men dont always die first.
You could end up being the housemaid for the group if they all get sick.

And consider that some of us can be quite feisty. So instead of being the king of the castle
surrounded by your concubines you could end up being the palace slave. :D

While this sounds fine and dandy for you men, wheres the benefits for us women. I think I will pass. Men my age are old. :D
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You all are "cracking me up" I am setting here reading this and almost crying from laughing...so hard! Thanks for the 'gigs'
 
RedAlert76 said:
Actually I don't know why anybody even bothers to marry in this day and age.
It doesn't seem to hold the same value as it once did
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It's probably what each generation values. Just recently I saw a program called: "Inside The Ambulance." If you click on that link you will need to click again on Episode 3. One of the patients that the ambulance attended was that of a 95 year old woman who had taken a tumble. She still lived at home with her 95 year old husband.
Why I suggested that it was generational, the two of them had become a widow and widower in their early sixties. How they met escapes me, but I did smile when they insisted that it was marriage first, then live together. Us old-uns have values!
 

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