Processing death it's ok

OK I do think about it. I mean, it is inevitable for us all. A part of life. But being a senior living alone, I worry about dying and no one finding me for a while. The morbid stuff.
In a way, I am with @Mr. Ed . It is inevitable. We have lived our lives. I for one have little left I feel I need to do, except live a comfortable life and to die without a lot of pain.
 

There is a Death Cafe group around here which I plan to participate in, and I am part of a Bookclub for Mortals which involves 4 books about end of life, organ transplants, healthcare choices.
The book I am currently reading is The Art of Dying Well, which is practical info about simplifying things and choosing how much medical intervention/test/treatments you desire.
 
Death has been my constant companion since I was very very little. I certainly have thought about it at times, mostly it's just there. When it comes to me personally I'm detached. Where it touches me emotionally is when I think of my wife dying alone or having to go through my passing.

When I was in the hospital for my bypass operation I was quite detached about it all. I actually had no fear, no emotion really, up until they just pushed me through the last set of doors on the way to the OR. What got to me was as I went through those doors, that was when my wife broke down and started crying.
 
I don't want to linger or have any heroic measures taken to prolong my life.
I say that now and hope I don't cop out and be talked into this or that treatment or worse yet have my kids hound me about it until I take my dying breath.
I've told them my wishes many times and hope they abide by them and its in writing.
As long as I can be assured that I will be given enough pain medications to keep me comfortable until the end I will be happy.
I also hope I have done a good job at keeping my affairs in order so my kids won't run into any major problems.
I've had a wonderful life and should it end tomorrow, so be it.
 
Paco Dennis said:
I am having a "Natural" burial. I will blend with the earth and become part of life in a new way.
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How did you arrange for that?

Marie5656 said:
being a senior living alone, I worry about dying and no one finding me for a while.
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I would absolutely love to go in that manner, the longer the better. Oh yes, that would be awesome.
Then discovered by a friend, neighbor or someone else of my choosing, my final wishes and trust already set in their hands.

The worst possible way would be a drug forced tortuous death in a typical barbaric medical institution, them taking
whatever pittance I had left to reward themselves for having gotten away with another successful murder. In such a case,
not only would I be tortured and murdered, but all choice of my death stolen from me, including whomever to leave an inheritance.
 
If someone else dies with me

If someone else dies with me
I shall not fear death to come.
Souls to call, be done, be quick,
But times two must line the scroll.

Devoid of Love this earthly life
Don't hermetic my heart alone.
Select at will, an endless list,
But paired names must grace my stone.

If lady fair akins my tomb
I will tease not caution death.
But to die alone would give me life,
And renew my living breath.

Don't mourn for Adonis or tear for me.
I'm safe in my marble tomb.
Just remember me, the mortal part---
And make certain there's air for Two!
 
John cycling said:
How did you arrange for that?



I would absolutely love to go in that manner, the longer the better. Oh yes, that would be awesome.
Then discovered by a friend, neighbor or someone else of my choosing, my final wishes and trust already set in their hands.

The worst possible way would be a drug forced tortuous death in a typical barbaric medical institution, them taking
whatever pittance I had left to reward themselves for having gotten away with another successful murder. In such a case,
not only would I be tortured and murdered, but all choice of my death stolen from me, including whomever to leave an inheritance.
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You touch on something so important, John, your words ring so true.

I often wonder about the many that end up suffering this fate, it's my worst nightmare as well.

I've always quietly said to myself, if I have to depart earlier than later account deteriorating health, then so be it, because earlier is better, and I want my mind right to the end.
 
Aunt Marg said:
That's what happened to me, Chic, to this day I am haunted by the premature deaths of those I was close to.
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I know. Accidents, suicides, sudden deaths. I've seen too much of it in my life. :cry: Hugs to you for going through this too. It isn't an easy thing and no one else really understands it.
 
chic said:
I know. Accidents, suicides, sudden deaths. I've seen too much of it in my life. :cry: Hugs to you for going through this too. It isn't an easy thing and no one else really understands it.
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Thank you so kindly for your words, Chic, and a warm hug for you. 🤗
 
I think it’s tragic that voluntary euthanasia is illegal in most countries and people like Laura have to travel to Dignitas in Switzerland to end her life. Not sure how I feel about this documentary, she’s a lot braver than I would be, wanting to die is not a normal emotion IMO. Her terror of facing the rest of her life in a nursing home motivated her to take this drastic step.

Laura’s Choice. Laura Henkel is eccentric, outspoken, feisty and 90 years old. She has decided she wants to end her life on her own terms and she asks her daughter Cathy and grand daughter Sam, both filmmakers, to make a film about it.

https://iview.abc.net.au/show/laura-s-choice
 
mellowyellow said:
I think it’s tragic that voluntary euthanasia is illegal in most countries and people like Laura have to travel to Dignitas in Switzerland to end her life. Not sure how I feel about this documentary, she’s a lot braver than I would be, wanting to die is not a normal emotion IMO. Her terror of facing the rest of her life in a nursing home motivated her to take this drastic step.

Laura’s Choice. Laura Henkel is eccentric, outspoken, feisty and 90 years old. She has decided she wants to end her life on her own terms and she asks her daughter Cathy and grand daughter Sam, both filmmakers, to make a film about it.

https://iview.abc.net.au/show/laura-s-choice
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You know nursing homes are the scummy institutes that they are when people would rather choose death over being bound and restricted to one for their last remaining days. :mad:

Lying in ones own filth and waste, not bathed, outright physical abuse in some facilities, not fed, and when fed, fed garbage, junk, so that the operators and owners of such facilities can pocket even more profit!

This world has become one evil, sickening, and despicable place!

Even more heinous is our governing parties having full knowledge of the goings-on in care homes since Covid-19 spotlighted the weaknesses and opened the worlds eyes up to how our elderly are treated, and still, nothing has changed! :mad:
 
Maybe the reason certain countries prohibit assisted suicide is based upon loss of revenue. If a person is terminally ill, insurance companies and private parties pay for services rendered, care for the elderly and the sick are huge money makers for government spending.

If an average citizen who no longer has the capacity for a productive, meaningful life were able to according to his/her desire, and without hospitalization the cost of dying would be drastically reduced.

Have you noticed, there are no alternatives outside of the system? Because there are no other choices, each and every one of feeds the system because we are programed to propitiate the almighty system.
 
If I ever get to the point where I don't enjoy life anymore, I'm not going to sit around and hope that it gets better. If that happens, there won't be any of this "he tried to kill himself" talk. I've failed at many things in life, but I'm not about to fail at that. And I won't need some doctor to "assist" me. A shotgun blast to my head will assure that the job gets done.

I'm still fairly healthy and active, so it's possible that I'll live into my 90s and just die in my sleep. Time will tell.
 
There is a Mortician who has a channel on You Tube called Ask a Mortician. She covers many topics, in a respectful yet informational and interesting way. I have watched many of her videos. Here is one on Natural Burials, at that was mentioned in this thread.

 
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Irwin said:
If I ever get to the point where I don't enjoy life anymore, I'm not going to sit around and hope that it gets better. If that happens, there won't be any of this "he tried to kill himself" talk. I've failed at many things in life, but I'm not about to fail at that. And I won't need some doctor to "assist" me. A shotgun blast to my head will assure that the job gets done.

I'm still fairly healthy and active, so it's possible that I'll live into my 90s and just die in my sleep. Time will tell.
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Super unpleasant (to say the least) for whomever has to clean that up. Cleaning up after any death is not pleasant, of course; but after that kind of death? o_O
 

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