psychology today, why do Gen Xers and Millennials hate Baby Boomers?

Mr. Ed

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Heading: Baby Boomers believe they were and remain a kind of chosen people.

This is a direct result of their shared experiences of having been born in postwar America and being part of or exposed to the counterculture. Generational (and generalized) traits include an orientation toward prosperity and abundance; a consumerist ethos; a comfort with peer pressure; an acceptance of great expectations; an acquaintance with social and political turmoil (the civil rights and feminist movements, Vietnam, assassinations, Watergate); an idealist philosophy; a rebellious streak and a distrust of institutions; a generally liberal social attitude; and being natives in the analog world and immigrants to the digital world.

Because of these traits and having spent their formative years in what was unarguably a special time and place from a historical perspective, baby boomers believe they were and remain a kind of chosen people.

Many Gen Xers and Gen Y-ers (millennials), however, perceive baby boomers in much less flattering terms. Boomers hogged the economy and the world’s resources for their own financial gain and/or consumptive habits, I’ve been repeatedly told. They are often seen as greedy and wasteful, with no regard for what future generations will inherit. To put it another way, they’re frequently viewed as dinner guests who’ve eaten and drank pretty much everything set out on the table, leaving only scraps for those who came later to the party, even their own children. In short, the sorry state of the world, including global warming, is considered to be largely their fault.

Generational hostility is nothing new. There is in fact a long history in America of a younger generation differentiating and distancing itself from their parents’ generation. (It actually goes back to the 18th century.) As a people, we are very much interested in making our own mark, blazing our own trail, and doing things our own way. From this respect, it was inevitable that Gen Xers would set themselves off from baby boomers as a cohort and attempt to carve out their collective identity. The same was and remains true for millennials and Gen Z.

That said, there seems to be a special effort being made by many Gen Xers and millennials to create a contentious relationship with baby boomers. This can be expected given the general sentiment held by the former generations towards the latter, as explained above.

Ageism, too, is behind the current wave of boomer bashing. Because ageism, like discrimination based on race, gender, sexual orientation, and physical ability, is deeply rooted in the United States, younger adults tend to view older people and the aging experience itself in negative terms. We are a society obsessed by youth, making it seem natural and sensible to dislike people in their third act of life. Many younger adults make an unconscious or conscious effort to avoid older people in social settings and at work. Baby boomers are the focus of this antipathy and are commonly seen as in physical and cognitive decline and as no longer relevant.

Baby boomers will thus be most attracted to those brands that do not define the group or individuals in terms of age, especially older age. They will prefer those brands that reinforce the idea that boomers are essentially the same people they used to be when they were younger, except that they now have a broader perspective from having spent more years on the planet. Defining brands in generational terms is just as divisive and limiting as defining them by race or gender.

Those marketers who decide to consciously address baby boomers should in their messaging celebrate their proud past, recognize their meaningful and purposeful present, and anticipate their still relevant future.

There you have it, Boomers Rule
 

My niece recently wrote a long scathing rant on FB entitled "ok boomer" basically blasting boomers for the things you mentioned. She is Gen X. It was not directed to me personally but it did kind of hurt my feelings because a lot of us are not greedy and wasteful and only think of ourselves. However, sometimes I do wonder where all the old idealistic hippies went. I do think a lot did sell out.
 

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"The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers." -- Socrates

Obviously, the generation gap is nothing new. Remember how we rebelled?

One thing I've noticed is how friendly and respectful many young people are and they will become better citizens as the mature along life's path.
 
My niece recently wrote a long scathing rant about "ok boomer" basically blasting boomers for the things you mentioned. She is Gen X. It was not directed to me personally but it did kind of hurt my feelings because a lot of us are not greedy and wasteful and only think of ourselves. However, sometimes I do wonder where all the old idealistic hippies went. I do think a lot did sell out.
I've heard selling out now called buying in which is even worse. Ugh.
 
To me the idea of "hating" another generation, race, religious group and their beliefs, gender, etc, etc, etc., is simply counterproductive for all concerned. The word "hate" seems to be applied to most anything these days, and I don't understand why. Not getting along with somebody does not constitute hate, yet it seems that way if we read the media these days. There is hate, there is dislike, but they are not the same. I would hope that younger generations don't actually hate us boomers and vice-versa.

I can't keep track of the all the labels somebody has given o the various generations. However, I can say that when doing contract engineering, I don't detect any sort of hate between the younger folks and myself, and that includes those still in college working as interns.

It does seem to be true that there is often friction between generations due to different value systems and views of the world. I spent some time as an engineering manager and had to take a 12 session class, stretched over a 12 week period. One session was about the different generations and how whatever was going on in their world while growing up, shaped their perspective. It was considered (and hopefully still is) important to understand these perspectives so we had a context for working with the various generations. Maybe that is what we all need.

Tony
 
I searched my whole body, and I couldn't find the tag that said I was a "Baby Boomer". And I've never seen a people tag saying, "Millenial- Do Not Remove Under Penalty Of Law". I think it's somewhat naïve to assume that most humans born between some arbitrary set of years are all going to think the same thoughts, act the same way, or believe the same beliefs. We all come out womb with the same ticking clock..
 
I searched my whole body, and I couldn't find the tag that said I was a "Baby Boomer". And I've never seen a people tag saying, "Millenial- Do Not Remove Under Penalty Of Law". I think it's somewhat naïve to assume that most humans born between some arbitrary set of years are all going to think the same thoughts, act the same way, or believe the same beliefs. We all come out womb with the same ticking clock..
Wrong. Though we are individuals, those who grew in a certain cultural and economic framework will similar general perspectives. For proof of this pay attention to the many threads discussing views of those of us who grew up in the 50s and 60s and how we seem to view life around us today.

We are not all the same, but there is a strong similarity in our respective outlooks as expressed in our posts.

Tony
 
There's lots of stereotypical hype whipped up by the Lowest Common Denominator press. People read that trash, believe it is the gospel truth and then quote it on social media.

Back in London where we lived, we became quite friendly with a young couple whose garden backed onto ours. One day the mother rushed her daughter round to my wife, the child had scalded herself. My wife, being a paramedic treated the burn then got Mother & daughter into her car and down to the hospital. The little girl was fine and later her mother brought a bouquet of flowers for my wife.

Chatting in our kitchen, our neighbour told us that she had posted a remark on social media that she now regretted. It was about childless couples, she couldn't see the point of getting married unless you had kids. Now, finding my wife was one half of a childless marriage, she felt a sense of guilt.

My guess is that the same is true of those who would denigrate others in general without ever knowing them as a person. Our press have a lot to answer for.
 
The only specific problem mentioned in that article was global warming, and that started at the turn of the 20th century, and was caused by the industrial revolution and internal combustion engines spewing massive amounts of particulate matter as well as greenhouse gasses into the atmosphere. Pollution isn't nearly as bad as it was before modern technology, much of which was developed by boomers.

Boomers are one of the greatest generations in history if you look at it from an objective point of view, rather than looking for someone to blame for all your problems and your apathy (and by "you," I mean the people whining about boomers). Just look at all the great music and literature that arose out of the '60s and '70s by boomers. The desktop computer was developed by boomers. Tim Berners-Lee, a baby boomer, developed the World Wide Web in 1989, which, along with the PC, resulted in the giant tech boom which continues today.

With every generation, you're going to have all types, good and bad. A hell of a lot of good came from boomers. It would be hard to make that case for some of the subsequent generations that can't even be bothered to vote and just want to whine about all their problems. If they're not happy, make some changes. Vote! Run for office!
 

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