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senior chef

senior chef

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Back in the 80's-90's I was married to the love of my life.
One thing I could never understand about her was that she'd NEVER leave the house without "putting on her face" as she called it.
Example: We lived only a block or so from a tiny corner cafe that made a great weekend breakfast. Certainly nothing fancy about that cafe. Well, occasionally I had a taste for someone else, besides myself, to cook for me. Let's say it was a Saturday morning and I asked my wife if she'd go with me to that cafe.
BUT, we could not go until she "put on her face". Usually, that took a minimum of 30 minutes.

Anyone have any idea why she felt such a need ? Especially as we were only going to a tiny cafe for breakfast ?
 

People have different standards. I don't wear makeup, but I can relate.

A friend used to spontaneously invite me to a cafe. I'd be in my grubby house clothes, maybe my body was not totally clean. She'd say, "Oh don't worry, you look fine." But to me I didn't look fine for going out in public. Meanwhile, my "good" clothes would be someone else's unpresentable clothes.

Would you go out unshaven, in work clothes, or in slippers? Maybe you would. These are just examples. You probably have your own standards.
 

I have worn make up since the age of 12, it’s always fascinated me maybe as I’m an artist and a bare face is like a blank canvas, the slightest touch of blush to the cheeks and maybe a little mascara can brighten the plainest of faces

Like your wife senior chef, I never leave home without it, same as brushing my teeth, taking about five minutes it’s just a part of my morning routine

If it makes a woman feel good about herself and boosts her confidence, why not ?
 
I couldn't stand being with someone who spent ages doing make up. You're still the same person underneath.

When I was working, I often had to go into the 'clean rooms' where computer disks were manufactured. No make up of any sort was allowed.
I could never understand the women who worked there coming out at lunch time, putting on makeup and having to wash it off an hour later!
Maybe it's a case of low self confidence or insecurity - having to wear a mask to hide behind.
 
Capt Lightning said:
I couldn't stand being with someone who spent ages doing make up. You're still the same person underneath.

When I was working, I often had to go into the 'clean rooms' where computer disks were manufactured. No make up of any sort was allowed.
I could never understand the women who worked there coming out at lunch time, putting on makeup and having to wash it off an hour later!
Maybe it's a case of low self confidence or insecurity - having to wear a mask to hide behind.
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I think this is, at least so far, the best answer. :)
 
Capt Lightning said:
I couldn't stand being with someone who spent ages doing make up. You're still the same person underneath.

When I was working, I often had to go into the 'clean rooms' where computer disks were manufactured. No make up of any sort was allowed.
I could never understand the women who worked there coming out at lunch time, putting on makeup and having to wash it off an hour later!
Maybe it's a case of low self confidence or insecurity - having to wear a mask to hide behind.
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There is that, but there is also the issue of personal standards. It took me eons for me to realise that I did not have to iron every piece of outer clothing. Same with always being seen fully made up but I still have my own personal standards of presentability.
 
Wren said:
I have worn make up since the age of 12, it’s always fascinated me maybe as I’m an artist and a bare face is like a blank canvas, the slightest touch of blush to the cheeks and maybe a little mascara can brighten the plainest of faces
Like your wife senior chef, I never leave home without it, same as brushing my teeth, taking about five minutes it’s just a part of my morning routine
If it makes a woman feel good about herself and boosts her confidence, why not ?
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I've had these arguments before, and oddly can agree with everyone's point of view above.
I know men who make the way they present themselves a priority, and spend a lot of money on a hat that makes a statement, and bespoke suits, and will admit to feeling good in certain shoes or clothes as well.
However 95% of the time I wouldn't even look in the mirror when I go out, so it isn't a priority, and an argument to be considered is whether looking good really equates with boosted confidence, let alone happiness, when there can be so many other things that can make your life more fulfilled, content (and happy), that looking good alone won't do.
 
Wren said:
I have worn make up since the age of 12, it’s always fascinated me maybe as I’m an artist and a bare face is like a blank canvas, the slightest touch of blush to the cheeks and maybe a little mascara can brighten the plainest of faces

Like your wife senior chef, I never leave home without it, same as brushing my teeth, taking about five minutes it’s just a part of my morning routine

If it makes a woman feel good about herself and boosts her confidence, why not ?to
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Ditto. It's just something I do for myself to tell the world that I matter to ME. :giggle:
 
When I was married, my wife wouldn't leave the house without makeup, either. Her complexion was very light & she had some blotches on her face that her doctor told us were "Hematomas" caused by birth-control pills.
And, to leave for work at 8:00 am, she had to get up at 4:30 am. She spent an hour in front of the makeup mirror.
 
I shower regularly, am well groomed, have nice clothes, but totally low maintenance. I don't wear makeup. It clogs the pores and that doggone mascara can get gunky and leave something in your eye that feels like a boulder and it's a pain in the tail.

No makeup for me. I have a wash and wear hair style and that's it.

I did get behind a beautiful lady at a Dollar General store who had perfect clothes, perfect hair, perfect nails, perfect eveything and she smelled like a sweaty locker room combined with major cigarette smoke.

Yikes!!
 
Capt Lightning said:
I couldn't stand being with someone who spent ages doing make up. You're still the same person underneath.

When I was working, I often had to go into the 'clean rooms' where computer disks were manufactured. No make up of any sort was allowed.
I could never understand the women who worked there coming out at lunch time, putting on makeup and having to wash it off an hour later!
Maybe it's a case of low self confidence or insecurity - having to wear a mask to hide behind.
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Maybe it is Capt, or it could just be part of the feminine mystique, something else that seems to be disappearing these days.....
 
Wren said:
Maybe it is Capt, or it could just be part of the feminine mystique, something else that seems to be disappearing these days.....
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Feminine mystique? No kidding! All you have to do is watch a couple of Paternity Court or Judge Judy episodes and figure out that's gone.
 
Pookie said:
I shower regularly, am well groomed, have nice clothes, but totally low maintenance. I don't wear makeup. It clogs the pores and that doggone mascara can get gunky and leave something in your eye that feels like a boulder and it's a pain in the tail.

No makeup for me. I have a wash and wear hair style and that's it.

I did get behind a beautiful lady at a Dollar General store who had perfect clothes, perfect hair, perfect nails, perfect eveything and she smelled like a sweaty locker room combined with major cigarette smoke.

Yikes!!
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Nothing says "Sexy" like the wonderfully-intoxicating aroma of.......tar.
 
Pookie said:
I shower regularly, am well groomed, have nice clothes, but totally low maintenance. I don't wear makeup. It clogs the pores and that doggone mascara can get gunky and leave something in your eye that feels like a boulder and it's a pain in the tail.

No makeup for me. I have a wash and wear hair style and that's it.

I did get behind a beautiful lady at a Dollar General store who had perfect clothes, perfect hair, perfect nails, perfect eveything and she smelled like a sweaty locker room combined with major cigarette smoke.

Yikes!!
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Obviously wearing make up does not guarantee high standards of hygiene, any more than not wearing it, some peoples personal habits leave a lot to be desired...

Maybe the lady in question spent so long applying hers she had no time to shower Pookie !
 
Wren said:
Maybe it is Capt, or it could just be part of the feminine mystique, something else that seems to be disappearing these days.....
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Whatever my ex-wife's reasons for needing make-up, it had nothing to do with the feminine mystique.
In all of the years we spent together, I can't recall a single time I ever saw her engaged in house-keeping/cooking etc. Oh yeah, now that I think about it , I do recall seeing her load the dishwasher a time or two.

(As a professional chef, my primary household responsibility was the kitchen. I shopped for the food, cooked it, and cleaned up after)
 
senior chef said:
Back in the 80's-90's I was married to the love of my life.
One thing I could never understand about her was that she'd NEVER leave the house without "putting on her face" as she called it.
Example: We lived only a block or so from a tiny corner cafe that made a great weekend breakfast. Certainly nothing fancy about that cafe. Well, occasionally I had a taste for someone else, besides myself, to cook for me. Let's say it was a Saturday morning and I asked my wife if she'd go with me to that cafe.
BUT, we could not go until she "put on her face". Usually, that took a minimum of 30 minutes.

Anyone have any idea why she felt such a need ? Especially as we were only going to a tiny cafe for breakfast ?
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It's "our generation"!
 
ive never worn alot of makeup , because i dont know what to wear lol

when i was younger i wore mascara and rouge , the small slab of paris rouge ,
everyone said i looked like a painted doll lol

i still dont know much about makeup, but wear a foundation called intelligent which adjusts itself to my own colouring
and lipstick, but only wear it when going , which is not very often now ...
 
win231 said:
When I was married, my wife wouldn't leave the house without makeup, either. Her complexion was very light & she had some blotches on her face that her doctor told us were "Hematomas" caused by birth-control pills.
And, to leave for work at 8:00 am, she had to get up at 4:30 am. She spent an hour in front of the makeup mirror.
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that's like one of my sisters'... since we were teens she's been someone who will take literally hours to put make-up on.. for example, on a Friday night when were young, we'd get home from work and start getting ready for going dancing.. I'd be scrubbed, made-up, and dressed in an hour.. she would take a cuppa tea.. her cigarettes.. and disappear into her room, sit in front of the mirror at around 6.30pm, and be ready to go out at 9pm... she would have everything on.. .and then there was the hair..

I wear make-up, but it takes me less than 10 minutes to apply it.. I don't wear foundation..just a little colour to my cheeks, some lipstick, and some clear mascara, and I'm good to go..
 
Pinky said:
There are different levels of what one would call "applying makeup". I apply eye-liner and lip gloss when I'm
going out. Some women apply more, some apply less.

Whatever makes one feel they look their best, is okay with me.
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I've taken care to make sure I find myself presentable when meeting and greeting the day. This means enhancing pale eyelashes, a bit of lip color, blush, and eyebrows someone can see, not pale red or blond.
If a person takes the time to brush their hair, good hygiene, teeth and pleasant to look at themselves in a mirror, not to mention shoes not scruffy, blouses tucked in, buttons and jackets done right, I would say they take pride in doing this for themselves first and foremost.
I don't do this for others, I want to be self confident for myself. If 20 minutes a day does this, it's 20 minutes well spent, don't you think? The rest of the day is spent being attentive to others and your surroundings.
 
I've always been one that did not go out without full makeup, I've recently discovered CC cream that is a sunscreen with very light foundation that I use just for quick trips to the store....it goes on nicely and looks good.
 

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