Reaching out when a friendship ends badly

PVC said:
Try TruePeople.com, it's not 100% accurate but it's free and has lots of info on the person. Once I recognize their age and names of relatives and old addresses I usually know I have the right person.
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I'll give it a look, but, last names likely have changed, we're talking decades since I last spoke to either of these friends. Still, it won't hurt to give it a shot.

Much appreciated. :thanks:
 

AprilT said:
I'll give it a look, but, last names likely have changed, we're talking decades since I last spoke to either of these friends. Still, it won't hurt to give it a shot. Much appreciated. :thanks:
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Marie above gave the website URL. My daughter is listed under her current last name and a former married name. If you know the name of a parent or sibling, you can try that and click on ''relatives'' if your friend is listed there. Good luck!
 
Marie5656 said:
Unfortunately, or fortunately the brakes got put on the re-connection. What broke up the friendship was that I was falsely accused of things I did not do. I had proof and documentation that I did NOT do these things. BUT her brothers decided for her that I was wrong, and I was lying when I said I did not do these things. So..her brothers influenced her again and she backed out.

I am fine..moving on.
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Well, kudos for giving it a go Marie, that's all you could have done. It might be fortunately that the brakes were put on the re-connection, so you didn't invest any more time or emotions in the relationship, then have her break it off again or start with false accusations again. You're a smart gal to just move on. :sentimental:
 

Marie5656 said:
Unfortunately, or fortunately the brakes got put on the re-connection. What broke up the friendship was that I was falsely accused of things I did not do. I had proof and documentation that I did NOT do these things. BUT her brothers decided for her that I was wrong, and I was lying when I said I did not do these things. So..her brothers influenced her again and she backed out.

I am fine..moving on.
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The fact that you would even consider providing documentation and proof in order to re-establish a friendship is bizarre.

You should stop blaming the brothers.

Again...
Your (ex)friend ALLOWED this to happen...more than once.
 
SeaBreeze said:
Well, kudos for giving it a go Marie, that's all you could have done. It might be fortunately that the brakes were put on the re-connection, so you didn't invest any more time or emotions in the relationship, then have her break it off again or start with false accusations again. You're a smart gal to just move on. :sentimental:
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Qft.
 
HI Marie,I'm sorry this didn't happen.Its too bad she listened to her brothers and couldn't decide on her own to renew your friendship. I wonder if they have some kind of hold on her,meaning 'listen to us,we know what's good for you'.Its her loss, not yours.You tried and that's the important thing,glad that you are moving on Sue
 
Reconnecting, successful or not is to your benefit. The process is almost like grieving, and if _your_ side of the bonding was strong is exactly like grieving. But grieving also puts closure to memories and closure is a healthy thing.
Good fortune to you going forward.
 

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