Reflections of My Life

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They are just from duckduckgo wanting me use their browser. Right now I only use them as a search engine. Well it doesn't feel free to me if I have to accept their ads in order to use it.
 

I need to order groceries this morning. I will try to time the delivery to early afternoon. Hopefully it will be warmer by then. I am hoping we don't get any more snow by then too. I want to combine my trip out to the dumpster with the grocery delivery. That would work for me.

The new manager told me she will be here two days a week unless it snows. She lives quite away from here and does not like to drive on bad roads. That tells me she is another useless manager. Just here to collect rents and recertify tenants. At least the maintenance man comes here about 3 days a week. He is needed more than the manger is anyway. He lives just down the street.

So today other than ordering groceries I am not sure what I will be doing. I have laundry to do so maybe at least one load. I try to do it in small loads but I got backed up again. I was doing it by hand in my bathroom but hanging damp clothes around my apartment makes it too cold in here. So that is a good thing to do in hot weather but not now.
 
katlupe said:
It is cold but sunny so far. I would unblock my window, at least one, because of the sunshine but it is so cold when I do. Then the heater runs more. So I will not do that.

Yesterday I ordered groceries for my son from Walmart. For about 3 hours the status of order said, "Looking for a driver". Finally it said, "Driver heading to the store". It was really cold out and a Sunday so I guess nobody wanted to work. Finally got it and he needed the food. He goes through everything. Even when I say I need groceries I have food in my refrigerator, freezer and cupboards.

I guess that is why he thinks I am a store. I try not to share my food with him unless I have no choice. I buy him enough food but he does not eat healthy. Has certain foods he wants every time. I gave up trying to talk to him about food or money. Being his mother, I cannot eat if I know he does not have anything to eat. My friend thinks if I just say no food if you ate all of your food before the end of the month that will work. No it won't and she is not a mother so doesn't understand.

More coffee now.........
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kat,

Would your son be able to learn to use a local food pantry or senior nutrition site when he runs short of food.

It may sound like tough love but I worry about what might happen when the day comes that he can’t rely on his Mom and needs to function independently.
 
Aunt Bea said:
kat,

Would your son be able to learn to use a local food pantry or senior nutrition site when he runs short of food.

It may sound like tough love but I worry about what might happen when the day comes that he can’t rely on his Mom and needs to function independently.
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He knows how to use the food pantry. It is right up the street from our building. The biggest problem he had with them is you can only go there once a month and they would tell him not to come back. He did not understand.

I worry about him too. But when someone will not go to a doctor it is difficult to get them any help. A lot of people with mental problems refuse to deal with doctors.

If I die first, he will be set up with a social worker who will take charge of his money. They give their client so much money each week after their bills are all paid. Then he would have to buy food with that money. Probably his tobacco too. Right now I buy big bags of it for the whole month (cheaper that way). Just would not be able to buy groceries from a grocery store. Dollar Tree and smoke shop. Not a good way to shop but that is what he would have to do.

The biggest problem I see with people who live here is not having transportation to go to the grocery store. Grocery delivery is great for someone like me who knows how to do things online. But a lot of people that live here don't know how to do it with a phone. If I had a vehicle I would take some of them shopping when I was going.

The lady upstairs wanted me to buy a phone for her from Walmart. When I said I would need her credit or debit card to do it.........she had neither. She wanted me to put it on my credit card and she would give me the cash. I could not do it at this time because I have just enough in my checking account to cover some bills. My credit cards I will not use for anything. I know it sounds mean but if she gave me the cash to pay back the credit card I would end up spending it. It is not like I can walk to my credit union and put the cash in and then pay the credit card.
 
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katlupe said:
He knows how to use the food pantry. It is right up the street from our building. The biggest problem he had with them is you can only go there once a month and they would tell him not to come back. He did not understand.

I worry about him too. But when someone will not go to a doctor it is difficult to get them any help. A lot of people with mental problems refuse to deal with doctors.

If I die first, he will be set up with a social worker who will take charge of his money. They give their client so much money each week after their bills are all paid. Then he would have to buy food with that money. Probably his tobacco too. Right now I buy big bags of it for the whole month (cheaper that way). Just would not be able to buy groceries from a grocery store. Dollar Tree and smoke shop. Not a good way to shop but that is what he would have to do.

The biggest problem I see with people who live here is not having transportation to go to the grocery store. Grocery delivery is great for someone like me who knows how to do things online. But a lot of people that live here don't know how to do it with a phone. If I had a vehicle I would take some of them shopping when I was going.

The lady upstairs wanted me to buy a phone for her from Walmart. When I said I would need her credit or debit card to do it.........she had neither. She wanted me to put it on my credit card and she would give me the cash. I could not do it at this time because I have just enough in my checking account to cover some bills. My credit cards I will not use for anything. I know it sounds mean but if she gave me the cash to pay back the credit card I would end up spending it. It is not like I can walk to my credit union and put the cash in and then pay the credit union.
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I understand.

I’ve tried to help a couple of people by using my credit card and it always turned out badly for me.

I suppose that it comes under the general heading of no good deed goes unpunished.

Still, you hate to give up on people.
 
I don't know if it an aging thing or what but I used to enjoy walking outside in the snow. Now I look out my window and dread the idea of going outside in it. Even for just a few minutes. Well I have to do it today. So will dress as warm as possible. Grocery delivery and going to the dumpster too. I promised myself a pumpkin latte (keto version with coffee not expresso) when I return.
 
I had the same issue with duckduckgo. They hound you to make them your default browser. I just went back to Google. Let them spy on me I don't care. LOL

I don't hang my laundry all over. I put it in to soak and have a plunger just for that purpose to agitate it some. Let it soak for an hour or two and then I dump the water and add fresh water and a little fabric softner and agitate it again and leave it for another 30 min.

Then I dump the water and rinse the clothing good and wring it out by hand as best I can. Put it on plastic hangers and hang them on the grab bars in the shower. If I have a lot of laundry I have one of those folding drying racks and I drape or hang everything on that and leave it in the tub. By the next day it's dry enough to lift out of the shower and set in the bedroom by a heat vent.

Then I can shower. I use the drying rack when I have to wash sheets.

I'm glad I could make you smile. I missed ya yesterday.
 
You know, I think life is like a television series. It is on every week or daily (soap operas) and you look forward to it. You get to know the stars as the characters they play. Not who they are in real life. In fact, many times I am disappointed seeing them in interviews because the character they play is completely opposite of their real selves.

When the series ends and the show is gone it is something I miss. Like now what am I going to do or watch? Sometimes though you get to know the roles they play so well that when the writers change (or they run out of ideas to write) the last season or years of the shows don't hook you like the beginning did. The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel was like that for me. Northern Exposure also. The characters did things that was out of character for them. I kept saying "she would not do that".

That is what happens in real life too. People change and sometimes the changes are so profound you do not even know that person anymore. Sometimes it is due to becoming single again. Or being sick or in pain. Or being hurt by someone. Maybe the other people in your life don't know these things are happening to you so they do not understand.

Books are different because they tell you what is changing the person and why. I always like books better than the movie about the book. I was nicer before I started having so much trouble with my legs and knees. Now I keep to myself more because of it. To the outside world they probably think I am not sociable. It is true now. I want to be home right here sitting at my computer all the time. Just taking one day at a time is all I do.
 
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I hate complaining about anything. But this morning, my neighbor down the hall was out in the hall on the phone and very upset. It seems her apartment has flooded due to the guy upstairs above her let his toilet overflow. Now they tell me he accidentally broke the handle off his toilet???? She called maintenance and the maintenance man said he could not come here because he was at the doctor's office. The fireman came and I guess they turned off the water in his apartment. He is not home.

Some people said we will have to leave our apartments while this is fixed????? I have no place to go.

Now when I first moved here my apartment had water dripping from the apartment above me. The lady there had let her kitchen sink overflow. Did not turn it off. Water dripped into my bathroom and kitchen. Did not ruin my apartment except on the ceiling area. I put buckets under the leak and that took care of it. The apartment next door to me was damaged worst. They had to remodel the whole living room. But our maintenance man back then came here immediately when Sonny called him for me.

Everyone here is very upset. I will stay calm until I see what is done about this. I think what I read on HUD's website before is if the management won't do anything about something like this we can call a plumber and take it out of our rent. But.........a plumber won't take on a job like this unless someone can pay him and nobody here has that kind of money.
 
katlupe said:
I hate complaining about anything. But this morning, my neighbor down the hall was out in the hall on the phone and very upset. It seems her apartment has flooded due to the guy upstairs above her let his toilet overflow. Now they tell me he accidentally broke the handle off his toilet???? She called maintenance and the maintenance man said he could not come here because he was at the doctor's office. The fireman came and I guess they turned off the water in his apartment. He is not home.

Some people said we will have to leave our apartments while this is fixed????? I have no place to go.

Now when I first moved here my apartment had water dripping from the apartment above me. The lady there had let her kitchen sink overflow. Did not turn it off. Water dripped into my bathroom and kitchen. Did not ruin my apartment except on the ceiling area. I put buckets under the leak and that took care of it. The apartment next door to me was damaged worst. They had to remodel the whole living room. But our maintenance man back then came here immediately when Sonny called him for me.

Everyone here is very upset. I will stay calm until I see what is done about this. I think what I read on HUD's website before is if the management won't do anything about something like this we can call a plumber and take it out of our rent. But.........a plumber won't take on a job like this unless someone can pay him and nobody here has that kind of money.
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I would be amazed if any apartments that were not directly impacted would need to be evacuated.

We have real sewage backups and leaks in the basement of this old building and they don’t raise an eyebrow.

It surprises me that there are no people in tyvek suits and masks performing the cleanup, disinfecting the area, etc… but it’s just business as usual.

If they do need to evacuate or find temporary housing it seems like the city, the Red Cross, etc… would provide relocation assistance.

If things do get difficult, contact the media and let them run a piece about senior citizens, at Christmas, etc…

Above all, don’t make yourself sick over something that might happen, it will all work out.
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You all are right! These people over react to every single thing. The three of them that came to my door about this are always upset about something. They hate it here so I can't see why they stay here. They say they are moving but never do.

I researched online about what to do if your apartment gets flooded. The only problem is the apartments that are flooded from above and the actual apartment that caused the flooding. Another thing is that this guy who lives in the apartment that caused the flooding was homeless before moving here. He keeps to himself. But I think he probably did not know what to do. If he had turned off the water at the back of the toilet it may not have been that bad. But he left his apartment.

Another thing I see with some of these people is how they always tell you the worse cases about whatever is their issue. Then when it is all over with.........don't hear another word about it.
 
Sonny is having a horrible issue with his ear. Itching like crazy and has eczema inside it. He has called his doctor numerous times. Went to the walk in clinic. They did give him an antibiotic and something else. Just have to wait till it works. I have not heard from him today yet. Probably did not get much sleep last night and maybe getting some this morning. He has so many different health issues. And he goes to the doctors all the time and takes tons of meds.
 
katlupe said:
Sonny is having a horrible issue with his ear. Itching like crazy and has eczema inside it. He has called his doctor numerous times. Went to the walk in clinic. They did give him an antibiotic and something else. Just have to wait till it works. I have not heard from him today yet. Probably did not get much sleep last night and maybe getting some this morning. He has so many different health issues. And he goes to the doctors all the time and takes tons of meds.
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My ear itches really bad.i shampoo with equate dandruff. I get really inside the ear canal and let it sit in there a minute than rinse out.it has helped me.
 
fatboy said:
My ear itches really bad.i shampoo with equate dandruff. I get really inside the ear canal and let it sit in there a minute than rinse out.it has helped me.
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I will tell him in case he has not done that yet. It comes and goes. He can go months without it and then it comes back. Doctors cannot figure it out.
 
The rest of my day, after the excitement over the flooding of an apartment on my floor, quieted down. I was thinking that the people who get so stressed and excited over things are all much younger than me. I feel like most of the time I am really laid back. I was a bit stressed while my bunny boy was in the process of dying but since then I have no stress really.

Since I do not have a car I don't have the stress some people have because they have to clean the snow off so it can be moved and the plow can get in there. I know my friend gets really stressed over it. The guy who used to do it for her moved a few months back. Or just having to drive somewhere on bad roads. So thankful I don't have to do that anymore.

Having a budget that I write out every month also helps me have no stress. Before I moved here in 2018, as I said before, I had no money and no budget. It would stress me out terrible. I kept thinking I could end up homeless if our house went into foreclosure. I still don't know if the husband has paid on it or at least caught up on it. Now I just don't think about it and when I talk to him I do not ask.
 

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