Rethinking Forum/Social Media

CallMeKate said:
I hope you'll be able to find what you seek. We like what we have here and the only "cent" we avoid is American partisan politics. Veiled sarcasm isn't a pretty look.
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It isn't meant as veiled sarcasm. It is choosing my words carefully to avoid posting what I (and others) are not allowed to post about.

And frankly, veiled sarcasm is all over the place.... lol
 
Who_so_ever said:
Seriously questioning being on forums (not just this one) and social media. I hadn't been active on any sites in several years. During my time away what seems to be 'acceptable' has changed drastically. Personal attacks, rudeness, stalking an individual's posts & comments to mock or berate them. The list goes on.

Am I the only one that feels this way? I doubt it.
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As already mentioned here, you do seem quite active. After now looking at your profile, I worked out that you are averaging around 19 posts per day, which is impressive in itself. And if you're contributing to other forums with a similar level of enthusiasm, that’s even more impressive.

I think when we become enthusiastically involved in something straight from the outset, it can significantly reduce the time of the honeymoon period, and as a consequence, we might develop a heightened sense of what we are experiencing, both the good and the bad.

With everything in life, it's good to pull back and take time to reflect, and ask others to help with that reflection.

Here is the thing though, I've noticed that in some threads, you have clicked 'Like' on comments that, to me at least, come across as veiled personal attacks or unnecessarily rude on their part. It highlights something we all do to some extent. Our thoughts on a lot of what we see in forums, print, and in real life are often influenced by how we perceive others -- how we 'perceive' their tone, their words, and our own personal standpoint. Not all our thoughts and perceptions, one way or another, are based on what might be the true reality. Especially in 'discussion forums' where many people can see reality as being different from what others 'think' they see.

Then we have the ones in forums who are significantly more balanced in their posts than others, only then for some to cherry pick something from that post that they don't like and attack that. Instead of taking the whole thing on balance.
 
Who_so_ever said:
It isn't meant as veiled sarcasm. It is choosing my words carefully to avoid posting what I (and others) are not allowed to post about.
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So is your only complaint that we (thankfully) don't get into the ugliness of partisan bickering? Because that's not a bad thing. That said, there are plenty of forums that allow it but you're not going to find participants sitting around holding hands and singing Give Peace a Chance. (Although there are probably forums for that, too.) It's the nature of the beast. I really *am* sorry that you don't seem happy with us. 🥺
 
Who_so_ever said:
After checking, the main site I was thinking of does have an ignore feature. Which may help. Unfortunately it seems to be overrun with people who are the exact opposite of what I believe and stand for. Maybe not such a good "fit".
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I've never used it myself, and don't see any reason to. But if you feel you need to use it then I would recommend you use it sparingly. You only have to look around parts of this forum to see how the more prolific users of 'ignore' are then unable to follow the thread, and end up repeating things others have said as though it's now being said for the first time. And then say things that are completely out of context with the rest of the thread. It starts to get and look embarrassing.
 
Someone on another forum I am on once told me that the reason I was challenged all the time was because I always gave an opinion.

He said a strongly offered opinion will always get an argument. So I avoid doing that because its not worth an argument.

I post only internet content like music, fun facts, funny cartoons and memes. That way if somebody has a problem, its not with me personally.

The other main issue is young people. Theyve been conditioned to believe that the whole country needs fixing and its their job to change it one person at a time.
 
CallMeKate said:
So is your only complaint that we (thankfully) don't get into the ugliness of partisan bickering? Because that's not a bad thing.
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I desire a place to discuss the laws and leaders in my country, period. Without the bickering would be great, but I know that won't happen. I am not complaining about this forum, I am simply looking for another to discuss interests that are not allowed here.
CallMeKate said:
That said, there are plenty of forums that allow it but you're not going to find participants sitting around holding hands and singing Give Peace a Chance. (Although there are probably forums for that, too.) It's the nature of the beast.
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Veiled sarcasm is not a good look, or so I've been told.

CallMeKate said:
I really *am* sorry that you don't seem happy with us. 🥺
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Good grief, bunch of sensitive people!! I like this site ok, or I would not have returned after my vacation.....

I simply have other interests that this site has rules against, so I would like to find one that I can give my 2 cents. Doesn't mean that I want to leave here.
 
OldFeller said:
Someone on another forum I am on once told me that the reason I was challenged all the time was because I always gave an opinion.
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Challenged is one thing, attacked and insulting another.
OldFeller said:
He said a strongly offered opinion will always get an argument. So I avoid doing that because its not worth an argument.

I post only internet content like music, fun facts, funny cartoons and memes. That way if somebody has a problem, its not with me personally.
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Sadly, that seems to be the way of it.... people can't simply discuss and not argue.
OldFeller said:
The other main issue is young people. Theyve been conditioned to believe that the whole country needs fixing and its their job to change it one person at a time.
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them and a certain group of people.
 
45 posts in just 2 hours and 20 minutes. That's impressive in itself. I feel like we’ve all witnessed something strangely compelling in this thread. It might go down in SF history as one of the more fascinating threads.

Something makes me think the momentum is about to slow down significantly though. Can’t quite think where that thought comes from. Maybe something hidden in my subconscious.
 
Reading the original post, it is alarming on how things get twisted. My understanding is that some posters don’t hold back regarding their replies and come across as aggressive and rude. However, once you are part of a forum and get to read posters responses, you quickly see that these rude replies are very limited.

You also have to factor in the different personalities of people – some are more placid, some are more vocal – you learn to pick your battles. I don’t take anything personally because I don’t know the people here personally – I can’t possibly know what is going on in their lives. On the whole, I absolutely love this forum. Keep looking for another forum if that is what will meet your needs, but also stay and post occasionally in this one.
 
hollydolly said:
it certainly might, if you've posted something serious..perhaps the death of a friend, or relative and you get those idiotic clown posting a laughing emoji..
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Actually, hollydolly, I posted the laugh emoji on someone's post saying her mother or someone else close to her had died--I'd meant to click on the hug emoji. She let me know, and I fixed it. I was mortified. Even thinking about it I'm again mortified.
 
Marcy Sheiner said:
Actually, hollydolly, I posted the laugh emoji on someone's post saying her mother or someone else close to her had died--I'd meant to click on the hug emoji. She let me know, and I fixed it. I was mortified. Even thinking about it I'm again mortified.
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Worry not, Marcy... I've done the same and didn't see it until the next day. I was appalled... but that can happen when I use my tablet, the fingers just hit the wrong thing on that tiny keypad sometimes. @Marcy Sheiner
 
Marcy Sheiner said:
Actually, hollydolly, I posted the laugh emoji on someone's post saying her mother or someone else close to her had died--I'd meant to click on the hug emoji. She let me know, and I fixed it. I was mortified. Even thinking about it I'm again mortified.
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yes that's a genune mistake but when you have someone you have on ignore doing it...you know they're doing it on purpose
 

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