applecruncher
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CR hasn't gone away; look at his profile. He was skulking around SF at 8:44am this morning. In fact, green dot indicates he's on the site right NOW.
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Retired And Applying To Rent An Apartment?
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I agree Bea, I don't understand why seniors on SS can't rent an apartment these days. I can't see lying on the application, but if CR and his wife want to do that, I'm sure they won't be the first or last to fudge on something like that.
I initially skipped over this thread because it's been decades since I've lived in an apartment, so I'm out of the loop when it comes to 'applying' for one. Back in the day you used to give your information, place of employment, etc. pre-pay for the first month's rent, and give one (or two) month's rent as a security deposit. No background checks or anything like that in the olden days. If you didn't pay your rent you were kicked out, and if you did any damage they kept your deposit. Different times now, maybe they need to crackdown on potential renters? Is there a shortage of apartments in certain areas, waiting lists, etc?
C'est Moi
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Makes me wonder why anyone would want to post about doing something that is essentially cheating and then says everybody does it. I'm thinking there is guilty feelings there. Otherwise why post something like that. I don't get it. Maybe to feel vindicated and not so bad? I'm thinking he really does feel guilty about it.
ClassicRockr
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Actually, NOT gone (yet, anyway) and NOT guilty either. What’s that old saying folks, “sometimes, gotta do whatch gotta do”. We all have our reasons for things we do, or say, and many times, don’t care what others think.
Only way we can and will look at it.
So how far would you say anyone should one be able to take that point of view and behavior that "you gotta do whathcha you gotta do"? Is there a point where one has to not cross the line? That kind of thinking is nothing but a slippery slope. That's really what a lot criminals in their deeds feel the say way. Very dangerous way of thinking. Would you want everyone to feel the same way about their behavior and maybe some day you might be the victim of that kind of thought?
applecruncher
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uhoh......this will most likely continue for ....never mind.
Bye! :whome:
Bye! :whome:
ClassicRockr
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Well, read here what Seabreeze wrote: "
I'm sure they won't be the first or last to fudge on something like that." and she is 100% right.
To what extent is "fudging" okay with you? Where do you draw the line, and how are you able to even draw the line, when cheating is absolutely fine with you? And who others are you using to define the line over right and wrong for you. These are part of the questions that you have decided not worth for you to answer. Tells me a lot of what you think about morals. And the scary part is that you don't think you did anything at all wrong. So you think everyone else are just fools when they don't lie? You're so special?
ClassicRockr
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We have morals, but there are those times when people just have to fib about something. I think Seabreeze understands, but I really don't understand why others don't. It's like folks here have a halo over their head and Angel wings. None of us are perfect.
I had to do what I had to do to get a job...…...end of that story.
Wife and I wrote down what we had to in order to obtain an apartment, since we didn't have jobs...…..end of this story as well.
You have your reasons for not doing certain things and we have our reasons for the things we deemed necessary to do. That's fair enough. In my book anyway.
What I did and what we did worked for us...……..others don't have to do, but we chose to. Doesn't make us bad, just means that we needed, and got, what we needed.
No, it is not right and I'm not going to say it is because you think it is. What kind of world would it be if everyone thought it's perfectly fine do things like that. And it wasn't just "a lie", it was behavior! The world is already enough of a hell hole as it is.
ClassicRockr
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Not everyone will agree with you and the same goes for us.
Or, another saying, “to each their own”.
Guess you don’t know how much of society cheat and lie about things all the time. People sell cars all the time and when asked some questions about the car, they can easily be told lies about the condition......but, the seller sells the vehicle. Ever bought a “lemon” for a car from a used dealership? Many have.
To a point, people who work in sales have to lie in order to make a living. A camera sales person will tell folks just how good a certain camera is, but one the consumer starts using the camera.....problems start!
If a background check comes back “ok” concerning an apartment or job where a lie was put on the app, good for person that got the “ok, you’re hired” or “ok, you got the apartment.”
For whatever reasons, the person had to do whatever they had to do to get the job or apartment. Horray for them!
Well, I’m now DONE with this thread. Continue replying, but for me, done!!
Shalimar
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What I find distressing is when a poster tweaks morality to fit their needs, yet, on another forum, slams a poster who, in pain, reaches out for guidance. Yes, I can understand that the poster probably strayed, but perhaps there were extenuating circumstances. It seems hypocritical, and lacking in compassion to be overly judgemental and refuse to extend any empathy.
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+1, Olivia.
ClassicRockr
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Wasn’t going to reply anymore, but your reply compelled me to.
Big, MAJOR different between what we done and cheating on your spouse with absolutely no remorse.
Your right, had no compassionate at all for what she was doing. Shalimar, would you cheat on a spouse??
She knew what she was doing and was looking for complete acceptance of doing it.
The way I see it, anyone can not like what we’ve done, but they weren’t in our situation.
People, like that lady, always look for compassionate and sympathizing people to validate what the do. We really don’t need validation. We know what we done and would do it again if the need called for it.
Are we hipacrates? Call us what you want, that’s your right. But, we still like Trump
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Shalimar
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I don’t think we truly know whether the lady feels remorseful or not. I do know that Jesus forgave the adulteress. No, I would not cheat on a spouse, nor would I lie to get an apt, etc. I would understand that people in extreme situations/pain make poor choices, I am not in
their shoes. I may not agree with them, but I do feel compassion for their pain. I do not believe she was looking for
validation, but advice on how to change her life. Condemnation is not helpful, often it pushes people to suicide, rather than to
improve their lives. As for you liking Trump, I don’t understand what that has to do with this subject. In my book, your political beliefs are your own business.
mimento mori
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No, you are not Hippocrates (the philosopher) but there might be a little hypocrite in the way you explain things.
Every time you have little too much fun with the soap in the shower, it's a form of cheating.
Every time you look at a young lass more than a couple of times and wondered...…..it's a form of cheating.
Worse, every time you profess to be a believing individual and condemn another, you're condemning yourself as well.
I looked at the thread in question and what I saw in your writing was utter nonsense and it was you, and not her who should have run off in shame!
Trump has nothing to do with your inability to have a little compassion about another nor does he have anything to do with your somewhat narcissistic values.
S. Freud would have a wonderful time examining you and since I do believe this to be the case, my couch is always available to you for a minimal amount of $.
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