Romance in your senior years.

From my experiences, dating in the senior years is not for the faint-of-heart.

I wasn't meeting Mr. Right, but I was meeting Mr. Wrong, Mr. Given-Up, Mr. Broke, Mr. Lying-Through-His-Teeth, Mr. Looking-for-a-Nurse, Mr. Looking-for-a-Purse, Mr. Still-Married-But-My-Wife-Doesn't-Understand-Me, Mr. I'll-Never-Trust-a-Woman-Again, Mr. My-Kids-Don't-Want-Me-To-Date-and-They'll-Throw-Every-Obstacle-In-The-Path, and several of their cousins.

I finally had a date with the right one and 14 years later, we're happily unmarried.
 
Ha, ha! I have read all these comments and most of them are pretty bitter and there are a lot of anger. So sad and just too darn bad!

Me! I'm dating a nurse but not looking for a nurse. Actually, she is 3 years younger and has a heart problem. Me, I am a physically fit exercise nut that still loves hiking in parks and travel.

Maybe some day I might have to nurse my nurse but who knows? In the mean time like that old song says, "Ain't we Got Fun."

For the record, I like women a lot more than men. Men make wars and I'm a pacifist! Also, women are better in communication than most men. Sorry guys if this hurts but sometimes the truth really does hurt!
 

Would I like romance in my later years? Yes, I would. Romance in later years would be lovely. As I've said before numerous times on these boards, so that's no secret.

There wouldn't be any possibility of “benefits" with someone who was just a companion to do things with. I'm not letting a man smooch, etc., on me simply for his pleasure. That just ain't gonna happen. If all I wanted was a warm body to snuggle up to, I'd get a dog. It would be a lot less hassle. There would have to be more than just mutual romantic feelings, there would have to be a genuine intimate connection between us before I'd even consider any “benefits”.

Will I ever find romance at this stage of the game? If I leave the door open a crack to the possibility of it coming my way, who knows? I'm not holding my breath, but there's still a razor-slim chance because I'm not dead yet. Maybe Bella will get that “happy ending” after all. Stranger things have happened.
 
My wife and I have been married going on 53 years. Doesn't seem that long, but it is true. We still are romantic within our marriage and sexually active, just not as often...we have a very good doctor who helps elderly keep things working, one way or another!

We also are best friends; she is the closest friend I have ever had...we have three great kids, who have blessed us with six grandkid and so far, one great grandson....

Sorry, I brag so much, but this has been a life accomplishment that we both have worked hard at for a long time.
 
Packerjohn said:
Ha, ha! I have read all these comments and most of them are pretty bitter and there are a lot of anger. So sad and just too darn bad!

Me! I'm dating a nurse but not looking for a nurse. Actually, she is 3 years younger and has a heart problem. Me, I am a physically fit exercise nut that still loves hiking in parks and travel.

Maybe some day I might have to nurse my nurse but who knows? In the mean time like that old song says, "Ain't we Got Fun."
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Yes, bitterness and anger, maybe because they made poor choices and blame the other party. If in the future I find myself alone, I would not allow myself getting sucked into a relationship where I would (yet again) be considered to be servant-handyman and general beast of burden.
Friendship would be great, romance would be fine, independence is paramount.
Packerjohn said:
For the record, I like women a lot more than men. Men make wars and I'm a pacifist! Also, women are better in communication than most men. Sorry guys if this hurts but sometimes the truth really does hurt!
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I get it, most of my friends are women, and they are much more communicative than men, that's just a plain fact, I don't think any men take offense there. ;)
 
oldaunt said:
Friends are nice. But men have such a hard time being JUST friends with women. They all want 'benefits'. That said, I have a brother and a dog.
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There's nothing wrong with that if the lady gets equal benefits.

The only time there's an issue is when a man can't take NO for an answer. Those guys need to fall off the planet, they're giving the rest of us a bad rep.
 
fancicoffee13 said:
I hear that some do this. However, the first thing that crosses my mind is caregiving, etc. Does anyone out there know about this in the positive realm? I don't mind being friends/close friends and being there for each other but not marriage. I guess it is because I have been hurt severely bad and scared to go there. But, I just got winked at tonight. We both go to the senior center.
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Ask him why he winked at you. Maybe he'll say he just wants to be friends, and maybe that's a lie. But it's possible it isn't; that the wink was just his way to invite you to have a conversation with him.

Take the invitation by asking him why he winked at you. And please don't tell me you're too shy. Get passed that and ask him. It will put him on the spot. He'll have to respond. And then you'll know your next step.
 
If romance comes your way and it makes you happy, enjoy it. In my opinion though, and I think it applies to all ages, don't get too serious too quickly and obviously, if someone winks at you one day and the next is telling you all about their finanical woes or the partner who doesn't understand them or the inheritance that is due any day or, it all seems too good to be true - run! run like the wind! ;) :)
 
Murrmurr said:
Ask him why he winked at you. Maybe he'll say he just wants to be friends, and maybe that's a lie. But it's possible it isn't; that the wink was just his way to invite you to have a conversation with him.

Take the invitation by asking him why he winked at you. And please don't tell me you're too shy. Get passed that and ask him. It will put him on the spot. He'll have to respond. And then you'll know your next step.
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Yes, winking can have several different meanings. I use the ;) emoji frequently here, as I do the :cool: emoji. Maybe I should stop, I have never used it to be flirtatious...ever.
 
Murrmurr said:
The OP? Yeah, I got that.

That's why I suggested she confront him...in a non-confrontational way. Otherwise, it's possible she'll lose the opportunity to make a new friend who's just a friend. We do exist.
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No dear, THIS lady. Why does it bother men so much when a woman has no interest in men any more? And men a JUST friends is nearly as rare as unicorns. Men so seldom can see that. You may exist, but I don't know any.
 
Murrmurr said:
Ask him why he winked at you. Maybe he'll say he just wants to be friends, and maybe that's a lie. But it's possible it isn't; that the wink was just his way to invite you to have a conversation with him.

Take the invitation by asking him why he winked at you. And please don't tell me you're too shy. Get passed that and ask him. It will put him on the spot. He'll have to respond. And then you'll know your next step.
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You're right, I'm not shy. I will ask him why he winked and see what he says. Thank you
 
As mentioned in the past, I am going on 12 years (next week) of dating the same woman.

We both agree to never get married, we like our independence, but also the convenience of being a couple.
We see each other on weekends (sometimes) and when we travel together.
 
I know some people who wink just in normal conversation to say things like "know what I mean?" Or "Yes, I agree with you." Just as a friendly gesture... but you're right... won't know until you ask. Do you know this guy and if so, would he know that you're still married?
 
fancicoffee13 said:
You're right, I'm not shy. I will ask him why he winked and see what he says. Thank you
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I think, just my opinion, it would be awkward to ask.
It would come across as confrontational.
If it were me, I would only answer that it was just a common gesture. He doesn't know if you would be offended by it or not, so he would take the safe way to answer.
Unless, you are looking for more of a relationship with him? If you are not, then why ask the question. It shouldn't matter why he winked.
 
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