Romance in your senior years.

jujube said:
From my experiences, dating in the senior years is not for the faint-of-heart.

I wasn't meeting Mr. Right, but I was meeting Mr. Wrong, Mr. Given-Up, Mr. Broke, Mr. Lying-Through-His-Teeth, Mr. Looking-for-a-Nurse, Mr. Looking-for-a-Purse, Mr. Still-Married-But-My-Wife-Doesn't-Understand-Me, Mr. I'll-Never-Trust-a-Woman-Again, Mr. My-Kids-Don't-Want-Me-To-Date-and-They'll-Throw-Every-Obstacle-In-The-Path, and several of their cousins.

I finally had a date with the right one and 14 years later, we're happily unmarried.
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I sure hope I don’t encounter so many frogs before I find my prince. Oh and the kids don’t want me to date is real. Living it and I haven’t even got on a dating app yet. Sigh
 

I dated this guy of and on for many years. I was at one time crazy about him. As soon as he said he was looking for someone to take care of him, I realized I didn't like him that much. :giggle: He's now a part of my past.

Nothing wrong with having a friend w/benefits, it's a mutual understanding for the both of us. No one gets hurt or expects anything more.
 
Nathan said:
Yes, winking can have several different meanings. I use the ;) emoji frequently here, as I do the :cool: emoji. Maybe I should stop, I have never used it to be flirtatious...ever.
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I generally use the winking emoji here when I am kidding or being funny to clarify that whatever I just wrote was not serious. Sometimes when things are written they can be misinterpreted, especially with my dry sense of humor.
 

My 42 year old handyman flirted with me. I do look young for my age. It was fun while it lasted but I had to pretend I didn't notice and gently let him know how old I am. Then he was amazed that I could do things like set up my roku and hotspot, etc. He didn't think we old codgers could do things like that. All in all, he was not embarassed because I let him know gently without confronting it directly and I was flattered.

A male friend would be nice. A friend with benefits might even be nice. But I am not going to allow it to become anything other than casual and would certainly not want to live together.
 
I have several friends that are single woman. I help them as much as possible, no side benefits, simply a trusted friend.
It's shameful to stereotype others. If I was a curmudgeon I could assume that these lady friends only used me has a handyman or a bodyguard.
People of either sex can be takers, thankfully I have a much healthier mindset and don't feel that everyone is out to use and abuse me.
 
Many know that my hubby and i have a hobby of SOCIAL ballroom dancing ..….No …nothing like you see on dancing with the stars, ……we are Social dancers

My point is that more than half the 50~ 60 people who attend the same venues we go, to are men and women who have lost their husband / wife and have coupled up with others initially as dancing partners, then many have formed a loving relationship.

it’s loverly to see them with a new loving caring partner , many live in the same retirement villages ,some still live in their own homes but spend a week swapping from one home to the next ,that way they still keep some independence by having their own income seperate but still living in a semi permanent relationship.

The couple’s we chat to don’t mention anything about being a nurse to each ,they are happy and content to be able to assist each other if needed.

it puts a smile on our face everytime we see the couples walk into the hall hand in hand in some cases it’s assisting each other but they still manage to dance, one such couple is a man who’s 96 (beautiful dancer) he’s just lost his drivers licence and they were devastated they would not be able to get to a dance , but another couple put their hand up to take them to the venues for the dances

We have dancers from about 70 to 100 years old .( the 100 year old was forced to give up dancing about 6 months ago due to his wife of 78 years having a fall and cracking her hip )

So no way would I think all senior singles out there are just waiting to pounce on a purse or a nurse , loneliness is shocking and many who suffer from lack of championship die much younger then a person in a relationship .
I was on my own for about 14 years before meeting my husband in 1986 even tho I had young children they don't fill the void of a loving partner.
 
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Gardenlover said:
I have several friends that are single woman. I help them as much as possible, no side benefits, simply a trusted friend.
It's shameful to stereotype others. If I was a curmudgeon I could assume that these lady friends only used me has a handyman or a bodyguard.
People of either sex can be takers, thankfully I have a much healthier mindset and don't feel that everyone is out to use and abuse me.
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that's good to know.. I'm looking for an investment of a $1 Million to start a senior centre for people under 90 in my area... you could become a multi millionaire so I'm told..
 
oldaunt said:
No dear, THIS lady. Why does it bother men so much when a woman has no interest in men any more? And men a JUST friends is nearly as rare as unicorns. Men so seldom can see that. You may exist, but I don't know any.
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Doesn't bother me. I have a handful of lady friends. I enjoy talking to them and joking with them. I make tea for a couple of them, when they visit me. I don't think there's anything wrong with me because I can think of a woman as a friend.

But I could be wrong. 🙃
 
Murrmurr said:
Doesn't bother me. I have a handful of lady friends. I enjoy talking to them and joking with them. I make tea for a couple of them, when they visit me. I don't think there's anything wrong with me because I can think of a woman as a friend.

But I could be wrong. 🙃
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Not a thing wrong with that, but you really are a rarity. I have had a couple male friends, but they were both gay.
 
Murrmurr said:
I have a handful of lady friends. I enjoy talking to them and joking with them. I make tea for a couple of them, when they visit me. I don't think there's anything wrong with me because I can think of a woman as a friend.
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Yep, same here. During the Covid lockdown myself and my two dear lady friends, who were Yoga & fitness trainers became business partners, and conducted fitness classes at a local church. We worked together, laughed together and cried together...and had coffee together. We have since gone our separate ways but stay in touch. I miss them and the times we had.
 
Sippican said:
I think, just my opinion, it would be awkward to ask.
It would come across as confrontational.
If it were me, I would only answer that it was just a common gesture. He doesn't know if you would be offended by it or not, so he would take the safe way to answer.
Unless, you are looking for more of a relationship with him? If you are not, then why ask the question. It shouldn't matter why he winked.
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I'm not going to ask, it sounds way too forward and plus it might have been something he wouldn't remember. Thanks for the input.
 
DebraMae said:
I generally use the winking emoji here when I am kidding or being funny to clarify that whatever I just wrote was not serious. Sometimes when things are written they can be misinterpreted, especially with my dry sense of humor.
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I'm too old to stop and triple-think every action first. You win some, you lose some. I'm not out to hurt anyone and my conscience is clear.
 
fancicoffee13 said:
I'm not going to ask, it sounds way too forward and plus it might have been something he wouldn't remember. Thanks for the input.
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Good. Don’t start a problem that may not be there. He really could have an eye problem. I knew a fellow who winked all the time and didn’t know he was doing it. Or he may not even realize he did it. Or he may just be think of it as a friendly gesture.
 
Opps...when I packed up stuff for the give away truck..I think that [Romance]was tossed in...heck I haven't used it in so long I figured...what the heck...toss it on out, oh well I still have my record collection...heheehehehe!!!
 

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