Romantic or Creepy?

Just read the below at a Dear Abby column. How would you handle something like this? I disagree with Abby about telling him her age, I doubt that her age has anything to do with it, obviously he admires her but does not want to contact her face-to-face. Is he shy or a stalker? Opinions?

I would just leave him a note in the small cup and say to stop doing it, that I have a partner and it's bothering him.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

DEAR ABBY: In the past three weeks or so, a man has placed a flower blossom in a small cup on the edge of my patio. This has happened 18 times. The flowers are, seemingly, from surrounding yards. I live in a golfing community, and many golfers pass by daily. Once, he left a golf ball as well. As I was looking out one day, I saw a man wearing a red shirt, tan cap and shorts. His cap was pulled low, so I couldn't see his face. He looked to be middle-aged, and he walked away quickly. He has never tried to make contact with me. My partner is not happy about this, and I'm afraid if he catches the man in action, he may cause a scene. I don't know if I should be flattered or afraid. Also, the man might be shocked to learn that I'm 85. (Well, yes, I am kind of flattered.) What to do, Abby? -- SECRETLY ADMIRED IN FLORIDA

DEAR ADMIRED: Here's what I'd do. I would accept the compliment, but I would also leave a note on the edge of the patio addressed to Secret Admirer. In it I would say that I'm 85 years old and, while flattered, I'm not available -- so please stop leaving gifts on my patio.
Perhaps the threat of violence to his person might make him stop.
 
My first thought when I read the letter was that she should install some cameras. Another thought, since the creep seems to be middle aged, is that perhaps he thinks some other woman lives in that house, it's the wrong patio.
Installing security cameras would be a good idea. There's no way of knowing what the guy is up to.
 

I specifically don't like the '18 times' thing. That pretty much leaves "playful" out of the equation. The OP doesn't not mention what type of "cup" is being used. If it is her own cup, I would remove it. I note a big 'note' person, what can you put in a note that he doesn't already know. I wouldn't give him any information as your age or living arrangement, anything. I would continue to ignore the flowers. If any other developments occur, I'd be at the police department, and raise hell if you have to.
 
Someone's been leaving little notes behind my door during this virus thing. An Easter egg, with "thinking of you", in it and a measuring cup with an "I hope you're well," note inside. I think a neighbor is just being nice and I'm not bent out of shape about this. Now if I received diamonds!!! Woo woo. I'd be a very happy lady. 😄
 
Check it out, I hope. I often wonder how many cut-up or even full bodies end up in the trash and no one ever sees it, since they use machines to pick up those trash bins, everything is automated. In the refuse station they crush the trash into tightly compact cubes and put into trucks to take to dump sites, takes up less space.
Here, they don't take bodies to the trash dump. They make Soylent Green out of it.
 
Someone's been leaving little notes behind my door during this virus thing. An Easter egg, with "thinking of you", in it and a measuring cup with an "I hope you're well," note inside. I think a neighbor is just being nice and I'm not bent out of shape about this. Now if I received diamonds!!! Woo woo. I'd be a very happy lady. 😄
Sounds like your neighbor wants to borrow a cup of sugar.
 

Back
Top