Seniors Here Who Live Alone, Would You Have Someone Share Your Home With You If You Could?

I wouldn't take in anyone to share my home. Living alone suits me. I appreciate my privacy and freedom, and I enjoy my own company. I don't dislike people at all, but am a bit of a loner and couldn't stand it if I didn't have my alone time.
 

Do what you need to do. I know a woman who takes in people 2-3 times a year. One was a veterinary student who was doing an internship at a nearby feedlot. She stayed throughout the summer, paid rent, worked all kinds of weird hours so she really wasn't around much. The second one was a physicians assistant who could not find any empty apartments. She also worked most of the time, paid rent etc. She stayed until she could get her own place. The woman has remained friends with both of those. She doesn't want to live with someone full time but she does enjoy the company when she has it and the extra income has been a blessing at times for her.
 
Radish Rose, your grandson sounds like a mature considerate young man.
Living alone is my situation and I like the freedom it gives me. Trouble is as my Essential Tremor shaking has gotten bad enough to where I'm unable to do things like change ceiling lightbulbs & other things that may seem minor but are major when you shake too much to do them, it would be helpful to have a "steady" person living with me. My children help out with those things, but I hate to ask them because I worry that when I need help with something it might come at a time they have something of their own they need to take care of at the same time. They still come to help though.
 
My husband decided we should not be together about 40 yrs ago and I NEVER wanted to re-marry, lived with a great guy for a while but he wanted marriage and I did not, so he had to move on. Legal papers again, no way. I don't get lonely as I've been alone so long, and when I have visitors I'm happy when it's over and I can go do my "thing"..whatever that is at the time. Lived a good creative life and it's not over. Love Freedom.
 
I'm not single, but if I ever were I'd likely prefer living alone. My husband and I are such a good match; we pretty much do our own thing and luckily our "own thing" often involves each other. ;) He does not hover, nag, judge or cling, which I heartily appreciate. I'd hate to have to learn to coexist with another person, though any of our children or grandchildren are certainly welcome to come and stay if they need to.
 
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I don't get lonely as I've been alone so long, and when I have visitors I'm happy when it's over and I can go do my "thing"..whatever that is at the time
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Exactly how I feel. After my divorce after four years of marriage I did look for a 'soulmate', but never found him. I quit looking when I was 59, when I realized I was too old to adjust to living with a mate and the marriage would never work anyway. I felt such a relief after that realization and it was like I had been freed from prison, of the pressure to find that soulmate. I've never regretted my decision.
 
I think that soulmate is overused, misused...I thought I found the right one but was I mistaken. Parents hung in to the end as that's what they did back then, and many do that today. In spite of what they live with and go thru etc.
 
Well fmdog, freedom from love (in someone) does bring freedom to be oneself without being held back by any disagreement over your desires to accomplish whatever, by a Love. And when long enough free from Love, the more that freedom is satisfying. What you've never had, you don't miss--at least you're not aware of whether or not you miss having a Love. :)
 
I've lived alone for 15 years and can't imagine having someone else living in my home. The only exception would be if a child or grandchild needed a place to live.

Brent
 
My first 18 years, I lived at home. My next 5 years, I lived on campus. After that, I was in the military for 30 years. It wasn’t until I was 54 that I lived alone. I worked at the Pentagon for 5 years and the last almost 3 years, I have lived alone with no job.

To fill the time, I volunteer, take part in some of the HOA activities, there’s 5 of us that play poker every Wednesday night (not high stakes), date a little and whatever else pops up to my liking. I go to bed when I want and get up when I want. From being in the military for so many years, my sleep is broken. I sleep a little now and a little later. I may have gone to bed at 10, slept for 3 hours and then we get an alert to scramble. That can happen at any time when you belong to MWSS.

Tomorrow night I am really excited about. I was invited to a New Year’s Eve Party, which I was going to pass on, but I ran into a beautiful woman I worked with at the Pentagon and asked her if she would be interested in going with me. I hadn’t seen her for about a year. The couple that invited me live in Georgetown, which is a very elite area in Washington. She is bi-racial and I always had a bit of a crush on her. She looks like she’s 20, but she is 48, which is 13 years younger than me. I found out there’s another single man coming to the party and is a bit of a racist. If that surprises you because he works at the Pentagon, that always surprised me. Here is her picture. Keep in mind that I dated her twice before and both times we went out for dinner and drinks and she was carded both times.
 
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My first 18 years, I lived at home. My next 5 years, I lived on campus. After that, I was in the military for 30 years. It wasn’t until I was 54 that I lived alone. I worked at the Pentagon for 5 years and the last almost 3 years, I have lived alone with no job.

To fill the time, I volunteer, take part in some of the HOA activities, there’s 5 of us that play poker every Wednesday night (not high stakes), date a little and whatever else pops up to my liking. I go to bed when I want and get up when I want. From being in the military for so many years, my sleep is broken. I sleep a little now and a little later. I may have gone to bed at 10, slept for 3 hours and then we get an alert to scramble. That can happen at any time when you belong to MWSS.

Tomorrow night I am really excited about. I was invited to a New Year’s Eve Party, which I was going to pass on, but I ran into a beautiful woman I worked with at the Pentagon and asked her if she would be interested in going with me. I hadn’t seen her for about a year. The couple that invited me live in Georgetown, which is a very elite area in Washington. She is bi-racial and I always had a bit of a crush on her. She looks like she’s 20, but she is 48, which is 13 years younger than me. I found out there’s another single man coming to the party and is a bit of a racist. If that surprises you because he works at the Pentagon, that always surprised me. Here is her picture. Keep in mind that I dated her twice before and both times we went out for dinner and drinks and she was carded both times.

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She's beautiful! Hard to believe she is 48!
 
Ruthanne said:
She's beautiful! Hard to believe she is 48!
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I’m almost embarrassed to be seen with her because I keep thinking other people that she us probably think she is my daughter. When I sent her picture to my best friend at the time, he accused me if being a cradle robber. If you heard her voice, that would be her give away. She talks with a very low pitch voice and she uses words that I sometimes have to ask her what certain words mean.
Llynn said:
No. There are times when I don't even like living with myself.
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Why??
 
Been There said:
My first 18 years, I lived at home. My next 5 years, I lived on campus. After that, I was in the military for 30 years. It wasn’t until I was 54 that I lived alone. I worked at the Pentagon for 5 years and the last almost 3 years, I have lived alone with no job.

To fill the time, I volunteer, take part in some of the HOA activities, there’s 5 of us that play poker every Wednesday night (not high stakes), date a little and whatever else pops up to my liking. I go to bed when I want and get up when I want. From being in the military for so many years, my sleep is broken. I sleep a little now and a little later. I may have gone to bed at 10, slept for 3 hours and then we get an alert to scramble. That can happen at any time when you belong to MWSS.

Tomorrow night I am really excited about. I was invited to a New Year’s Eve Party, which I was going to pass on, but I ran into a beautiful woman I worked with at the Pentagon and asked her if she would be interested in going with me. I hadn’t seen her for about a year. The couple that invited me live in Georgetown, which is a very elite area in Washington. She is bi-racial and I always had a bit of a crush on her. She looks like she’s 20, but she is 48, which is 13 years younger than me. I found out there’s another single man coming to the party and is a bit of a racist. If that surprises you because he works at the Pentagon, that always surprised me. Here is her picture. Keep in mind that I dated her twice before and both times we went out for dinner and drinks and she was carded both times.

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Your picture is missing.....haha
 
Yes. If I *could.*

But I can't afford to get "stuck" if the arrangement comes to an end for any reason. I'd be desperately searching for a new place or a new roommate. Been there too many times.

If I had lots of money and the prospect of being stuck wasn't so frightening, yes, I would.

I lived in a guesthouse/hostel, and that was fun and interesting. Until Covid disagreements, etc.

I don't want to be single, but that's how things ended up. I try to accept it.
 
Been There said:
I’m almost embarrassed to be seen with her because I keep thinking other people that she us probably think she is my daughter. When I sent her picture to my best friend at the time, he accused me if being a cradle robber. If you heard her voice, that would be her give away. She talks with a very low pitch voice and she uses words that I sometimes have to ask her what certain words mean.

Why??
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Her picture shows her flaunting her body (chest and legs) which makes one think she is easy. Sorry, but that's what I thought - just a woman's intuition. I don't think you'll have any difficulty with her. It's mostly your thinking that is in the way. If you feel uncomfortable, though, then you probably are right. But if you want to go as a colleague or friend, it might be easier for you to accept that. I don't see what the problem is.
 
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