She talked me into it, (how did you pop the question?)!

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It demonstrates all you probably need to know that my future wife "talked me into proposing", (I know that sounds very wet, or unassertive on my part, but there you are!).

I hope you did a much better job when letting your future spouse know you wished to marry them, and maybe came over all romantic, down on one knee with a ring in hand etc.(?).

I've been looking through photograph albums, hence this came to my mind this morning. Not the wedding photo album, I delivered that album to someone who I think maybe disposed of it, and just one print now exists, (so far as I know). Loved seeing what a slim Jim I once was, and some of the holidays and other events I found recorded, I'd almost completely forgotten about.

Here are some more pitfalls to try to avoid:

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It may not have been romantic, but was practical. I got pregnant, and to my utter surprise I discovered modern me did not want a baby out of wedlock. I told him of this revelation. He didn't say a word but the next day had a calendar out and picked the most propitious date, which happened to be one of his two "lucky" numbers.

We were married by a judge with my new best friend & her boyfriend (who never spoke a word, ever, not kidding) as witnesses. Later that day we drove north (we were living in Wisconsin) to attend the wedding of one of his friends.

I'm not sure, I may be confusing the occasion, but I'm thinking we may have had one of our arguments later.

As I said, not romantic but practical. Never did stuff "real" girls did, which is why doing something "normal" like getting knocked up was a huge shock for me! Thought that stuff only happened to other people.
 
Pepper said:
It may not have been romantic, but was practical. I got pregnant, and to my utter surprise I discovered modern me did not want a baby out of wedlock. I told him of this revelation. He didn't say a word but the next day had a calendar out and picked the most propitious date, which happened to be one of his two "lucky" numbers.
We were married by a judge with my new best friend & her boyfriend (who never spoke a word, ever, not kidding) as witnesses. Later that day we drove north (we were living in Wisconsin) to attend the wedding of one of his friends.
I'm not sure, I may be confusing the occasion, but I'm thinking we may have had one of our arguments later.
As I said, not romantic but practical. Never did stuff "real" girls did, which is why doing something "normal" like getting knocked up was a huge shock for me! Thought that stuff only happened to other people.
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I agree with you, and was very amused by the guy who never chose to speak, (you couldn't fall out with him could you! :) !).
 

She talked me into it, (how did you pop the question?)!​


We were walking down a street in downtown Houston
Said 'wanna hook up?'
She said 'sure'
'Hungry?'
'Yeah'
'How 'bout a coney island?'
'Sure'
 
We were in Reno driving by a wedding chapel, she suggested we go in, so we did. An hour later we were married, ceremony by Reverend Bob, who I believe also sold used cars as a full time job. His leisure suit had seen better days...

About $100, included a limo ride to the courthouse to get the license (2 blocks), in a really old worn out limo. We passed on hiring a crowd, but could have gotten attendants, even parents if we wanted to spend the $.

I recommend it, much easier and cheaper than the alternatives.
 
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Alligatorob said:
We were in Reno driving by a wedding chapel, she suggested we go in, so we did. An hour later we were married, ceremony by Reverend Bob, who I believe also sold used cars as a full time job. His leisure suit had seen better days...
About $100, including a limo ride to the courthouse to get the license (2 blocks), in a really old worn out limo. We passed on hiring a crowd, but could have gotten attendants, even parents if we wanted to spend the $.
I recommend it, much easier and cheaper than the alternatives.
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Did they still say, "If anyone here present knows any just reason why these two people may not be lawfully married they must speak now"! (?). :)
 
Gary O' said:
She talked me into it, (how did you pop the question?)!
We were walking down a street in downtown Houston
Said 'wanna hook up?' She said 'sure'
'Hungry?' 'Yeah'
'How 'bout a coney island?' 'Sure'
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Marvellous to see how much of one mind you both were, or "she might have thought you were referring to something else", (like hitch up your trailer or summat!). :)
 
Rick and I were living together. One day he called from work on his break...a normal almost daily occurance. Anyway, while we were chatting he said "We should get married before the end of the year (this was October) so we can file a joint tax return". THAT was the proposal
 
Marie5656 said:
Rick and I were living together. One day he called from work on his break...a normal almost daily occurance. Anyway, while we were chatting he said "We should get married before the end of the year (this was October) so we can file a joint tax return". THAT was the proposal
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I think that's kind of sweet, actually. It's like, in his mind, he always intended to marry you from the start, and he was just taking the next logical step. He'd probably been thinking about it for so long he just skipped over the "proposal" part...it was already a done deal! (Of course he assumed you would have said "yes"!) ;)
 
While stationed in a small town at a radar site, started dating a lady.
Hit it off and things progressed.

I received a set of orders for a 4 year assignment to Europe.

That night I called her up to tell her the news and received a cold reaction.
She hoped I would enjoy the assignment and wished me well.

Not understanding her reaction and not really thinking, I said "But you're going with me!"

Silence...

Told her I'd be right over and long story short, did a formal proposal.

33 years of marriage and still remember I could have handled that night a whole lot better!
 
I met my Husband when I was 15yrs old. I had just broken up with a boy I was dating since I was 12yrs old. A girl I became friends with invited me to go to Bristol Pa with her and her friends. A boy got in the car and sat beside me. He was going to see his girlfriend in Bristol.


By the time we got there, he broke up with his girlfriend. He asked me to dance and they wee playing "Running Scared," he said I fit perfectly in his arms. Then he said when we get married he wanted to dance to that song. 5 yrs later we got married.
 
We were supposed to get married, but he got cold feet. I was very upset. I stayed, mostly unwillingly, for reasons I won't go into.

Three years later, I was washing the dishes and he was sitting on the couch. He said my name, which seemed strange, because usually he called me Honey or Dear.

I said, "Yes?" and he said, "Will you marry me?" I said, "No," and kept washing the dishes.

Later he asked me why, and I said the hope was gone.
 
NorthernLight said:
We were supposed to get married, but he got cold feet. I was very upset. I stayed, mostly unwillingly, for reasons I won't go into.
Three years later, I was washing the dishes and he was sitting on the couch. He said my name, which seemed strange, because usually he called me Honey or Dear.
I said, "Yes?" and he said, "Will you marry me?" I said, "No," and kept washing the dishes.
Later he asked me why, and I said the hope was gone.
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Sad twist at the end of your story but can see your reasoning.
 
Marie5656 said:
Rick and I were living together. One day he called from work on his break...a normal almost daily occurance. Anyway, while we were chatting he said "We should get married before the end of the year (this was October) so we can file a joint tax return". THAT was the proposal
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I had an offer like that but totally refused. I did much better later with someone else.
 
There are always decisions we make where we have to live with the consequences, (probably none bigger than who you marry and/or have children with obviously).
However, if we'd made a mistake, (or both those making their proposal of marriage and accepting it, must have gotten something wrong), what are we to think, of both our own error of judgement, if that its proved to be, and whatever your former partner was up to.
I somehow kidded myself that the "love" I felt, and assumed my wife had felt, meant something, or had to mean something, and be held on to and not violated.
Now this is a naive view isn't it, certainly if your partner doesn't hold anything like this naive view on marriage, and has a range of other ideas. Remember, as stated in the thread title and OP my ex. "talked me into proposing", as I recall, now does that make her more responsible, or just equally responsible for the "mistake" (if that is what we have to think it was now).
I'm probably over thinking things here, I made a choice, and it turned out not to be a happy one for either of us in the end. Even saying that I suppose, if either of you felt anything for the other when you married, this must be better than any of the possible alternatives, like not marrying for love, (and/or whatever else could be going on when folks get together in intimate relationships).
 
We were watching the Food Channel one day, and were watching Rachel Raye. Kathy happened to mention that Rachel got married on the Greek island of Santorini. I said, “Hey! We are going to go to Santorini on this cruise!”
Well, that got my wheels turning, and I Googled Santorini Weddings. It turns out it is a very popular place for weddings, and there are a number of wedding coordinators on the island. I e-mailed one named Anna, and she was very helpful with the information.
I then called Kathy, and told her my suggestion, and she started laughing. I asked what was so funny, and she said, “Do you know what my first thought was?” I said yes, I do, you thought,”What will I wear?” because you are a woman. And Kathy said, laughing, “You are absolutely right”.
After a flurry of e-mails, all the arrangements were made, and we will be met at the top of the tram by the wedding arranger and a car.
Our appointment was at 11, but we were not sure of how long the wait would be for the cable car. We arrived at the top in plenty of time, and looked around at some of the shops.

At 11 sharp, a lady showed up with a sign with our names on it and escorted us to the car. We were driven to the church of St. Irene, and waiting there was the photographer, the videographer, and the official who conducted the ceremony.DSC_0046.jpg
 

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