Wayne
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I OFFER TO HELP OTHERS ALL THE TIME AND RARELY EVER REFUSED
Should Someone Help Another in Public
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Paco Dennis
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- Mid-Missouri
Of course it depends on the circumstance. Like I wouldn't help someone rob a store. 
But yea, when someone needs help I get involved and will do what I can to help them on their way.
But yea, when someone needs help I get involved and will do what I can to help them on their way.
fuzzybuddy
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- The Sticks, Northeast PA.
I'm a white haired, old geezer in a wheelchair. And some try to be helpful. Most people ask to help. I'm grateful. Thank you. But I've run into the ones with a pathological urge to help me, whether or not I want it. I've had people grab bags out on my hand when I'm loading the trunk, without asking. Please ask.
Raddragn
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- Washington State
Why would you not ask if you are able?
Although I would be glad to help in most situations, I learned to be careful & pick & choose which to avoid. I posted about this a few months ago:
Years ago, I was with a group of friends at a restaurant/bar. One woman in the group was a heavy drinker. Since I rarely drink, I don't have much knowledge about alcohol content. I counted 11 times the waiter brought her drinks that I later learned were "Brandy." I saw how little of it was in the bottom of each big glass, so i didn't think she was drinking much.
When we got up to leave around 1:00am, I saw that she was stumbling & having trouble walking & talking. Since I've seen what drunk drivers can do, I told her I would drive her home & take her to the parking lot tomorrow to get her car. Her home (where she lived with her parents) was 10 miles away.
A few minutes into the drive, she went wacko - accusing me of "trying something" with her. At first, I ignored her, but she got louder & louder & then started screaming "RAPE" out the window. I sped up to get to her parent's house faster. By the time we got to her parent's place, she had torn her blouse & scratched herself & was screaming hysterically. Neighbors started looking out their windows & two people started coming outside.
Thankfully, her parents (in their 60's) woke up & came & dragged her into the house & nodded "Thank you" to me; they had obviously gone through this many times before with her.
I sped away, worried that someone called police. I'm very lucky she was probably too sick the next day to file a police report, or I could have ended up bankrupt defending myself against an Attempted Rape charge.
I also later learned that I was even more lucky than I thought; there are men who spent YEARS in prison due to a rape conviction that was later proved to be false when the woman admitted she lied.
I NEVER let any drunk into my car again & never will.
And I think twice before helping anyone.
Years ago, I was with a group of friends at a restaurant/bar. One woman in the group was a heavy drinker. Since I rarely drink, I don't have much knowledge about alcohol content. I counted 11 times the waiter brought her drinks that I later learned were "Brandy." I saw how little of it was in the bottom of each big glass, so i didn't think she was drinking much.
When we got up to leave around 1:00am, I saw that she was stumbling & having trouble walking & talking. Since I've seen what drunk drivers can do, I told her I would drive her home & take her to the parking lot tomorrow to get her car. Her home (where she lived with her parents) was 10 miles away.
A few minutes into the drive, she went wacko - accusing me of "trying something" with her. At first, I ignored her, but she got louder & louder & then started screaming "RAPE" out the window. I sped up to get to her parent's house faster. By the time we got to her parent's place, she had torn her blouse & scratched herself & was screaming hysterically. Neighbors started looking out their windows & two people started coming outside.
Thankfully, her parents (in their 60's) woke up & came & dragged her into the house & nodded "Thank you" to me; they had obviously gone through this many times before with her.
I sped away, worried that someone called police. I'm very lucky she was probably too sick the next day to file a police report, or I could have ended up bankrupt defending myself against an Attempted Rape charge.
I also later learned that I was even more lucky than I thought; there are men who spent YEARS in prison due to a rape conviction that was later proved to be false when the woman admitted she lied.
I NEVER let any drunk into my car again & never will.
And I think twice before helping anyone.
Kaila
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Wow, at first read, I thought you were going to say that they weren't careful or gentle, and that therefore, items inside your bags were broken.
But missing? Gosh.
Kaila
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Kaila
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Even worse , I 've had them grab the handles of the wheelchair and push it. Terrible idea. I wish that more people would generally be taught that this is truly not helpful, to the person in it!
That one reminded me of a couple of so-called-friends in my 20's.
Thanks for that one!
One of them said a guy owed him $100.00 & he wouldn't pay him. So, he tells me, "Hey, come with me & Steve to the guy's house & bring your gun just to scare him so he pays me."
That ended our...... "Friendship."