So grateful

Seeker

Seeker

Redneck Hillbilly
Location
Alabama
I just spent the past 2 days...Driving Miss Daisy.....

For those of you who don't know it's my 86 fixin' to be 87 year old mother...who can't drive, and lives 2 hours away.

I'm just grateful for time spent...

Going to the doctors visits and watching all that goes on around me...

My heart is full and depleted at the same time.

I set and watch others bringing their parents to their visits and how much they are so engrossed in their phones that they don't even see that their mother is cold, or that she had a very hard time getting to the bathroom on her own...

I am grateful that I am still able to be there..physically and mentally.....:love_heart: :apathy:
 

I bet your mother is extremely grateful that she has a loving and caring daughter like yourself to help her.

I know I certainly do appreciate my daughter and her husband who helps me out tremendously and I am only 79 going on 80 in May and I am still able to drive to appointments.
 
You're a good loving daughter Seeker, we helped my husband's mom and dad in the same way, then we had them move in with us because they were too ill to live on their own anymore. It's nice to help care for them when they really need us, like they cared for us when we were young. :sentimental:
 

SeaBreeze said:
You're a good loving daughter Seeker, we helped my husband's mom and dad in the same way, then we had them move in with us because they were too ill to live on their own anymore. It's nice to help care for them when they really need us, like they cared for us when we were young. :sentimental:
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Yes mam......My mother is VERY independent and she will hang on till the bitter end ....but we all know the day is coming.

She knows she has a bed here.
 
If I ever become dependent on anyone, to the point where I'd cease to exist without their help, I'd rather cease to exist. That does not mean that I view, negatively, those relationships where older people need younger people to help them in their everyday life. It's just that that kind of life is not for me.
 
treeguy64 said:
If I ever become dependent on anyone, to the point where I'd cease to exist without their help, I'd rather cease to exist. That does not mean that I view, negatively, those relationships where older people need younger people to help them in their everyday life. It's just that that kind of life is not for me.
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I can totally understand that way of thinkin'...

I never want to be in that position. When I get there I will decide.
 
Seeker said:
I just spent the past 2 days...Driving Miss Daisy.....

For those of you who don't know it's my 86 fixin' to be 87 year old mother...who can't drive, and lives 2 hours away.

I'm just grateful for time spent...

Going to the doctors visits and watching all that goes on around me...

My heart is full and depleted at the same time.

I set and watch others bringing their parents to their visits and how much they are so engrossed in their phones that they don't even see that their mother is cold, or that she had a very hard time getting to the bathroom on her own...

I am grateful that I am still able to be there..physically and mentally.....:love_heart: :apathy:
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Must have been a great feeling. Yes, people are often engrossed in their cell phones everywhere now a days. Glad you were there for her. :eek:
 
SeaBreeze said:
You're a good loving daughter Seeker, we helped my husband's mom and dad in the same way, then we had them move in with us because they were too ill to live on their own anymore. It's nice to help care for them when they really need us, like they cared for us when we were young. :sentimental:
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It is a very special blessing when we are able to care for our elderly relatives who nurtured us when we were young. Remember, it is not so much what we do in life that haunts us but what we neglected to do.

I retired early because I was the only person close enough to be able to support my mother, her unmarried sister and my mother in law. These three old ladies had each been a blessing to me as a child and a young woman and I loved them all. Mum and Auntie chose to enter a hostel together and mother in law moved into a small villa house almost across the road from our house. I was the one who drove them to appointments and later when they moved into nursing home care I shopped for them and bought them new clothes and shoes as needed. I was with each of them during their last week and have never regretted a moment of that time. I count it a privilege to have the opportunity to close the circle of loving care with each of them.

Seeker, what you are doing now, driving Miss Daisy, and what you will do in the next few years will be most rewarding for you and your mother. An attentive daughter makes all the difference when life becomes difficult and independence is lost.
 
Good for you Seeker, I bet your Mum was happy to be
sitting beside you and seeing the country pass by, I
know what it is like, I tried to help my mother too, but
she lived a long way away and I could only visit at the
weekend if I wasn't needed at work.

Keep going, she may not say so, but she is probably up
dressed and sitting waiting for your arrival for hours till
you get there.

Mike.
 
I know how you feel Seeker. I was there for my mother like that and kept up with her care until she was about 94. She went into a nursing home then since I was sometimes too sick with a heart condition to take care of her. She also requested that if she fell and wound up in the E.R. again, she wanted to go into a home. She reiterated that to my husband and her doctor; her doctor agreed. We were blessed in that she was so well taken care of in the home. I visited her daily, twice a day. My uncle was there every dinner time as long as he was feeling well. I requested changes periodically for her benefit and my requests were always granted.

Anyway, back to you. You can be proud of yourself that you are taking good care of your mom because even though we think it should be a "given", I've heard/read of so many who do not. You will receive blessings for being a good and faithful daughter. There is satisfaction that comes from knowing you are doing your best.
 
I was also able to care for my mother in her last illness and made it possible for her to die at home, as she wished. It was very painful for me, but at the same time a great blessing to be there for her as she had always been for me.
 

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