I have been texting with a man from Plenty of Fish and right now he is pouting because I am not ready to meet him. He seems to think he can tell me xy and z and I will automatically trust him, fall in love and be his soulmate. Well that's not the way it works. I need someone to start out as friends first and see how we get along and then if that's good take it to the next level. Anyone know what I mean?
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fureverywhere
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"Mitzvah" can be debated into eternity. I interpret it as a daily random act of kindness. A customer today was buying two adorable toy dog sweaters. The third she put back...I threw it in, you have to dress your baby well ya know? A friend who lost his beagle recently found a new pup. I left a bag on his door with a " Happy Adoption Day" dog cookie. Something to make Daddy and his girl smile together
Of course I do Ruthanne. Use caution. I guess people search for different things, but what you're saying seems to be how a lot of women (seniors) feel the most comfortable. It's different when we're older, I think we care more about really getting to know someone, "unmasked". You're not wrong to feel this way. I am not interested in dating but if I were, that would be the only way I could approach it.
I'm glad someone understands how I feel. Thank you. It really is hard trying to make a relationship now a days for me, especially with meeting them online. This man said he is looking for honesty, love and respect and I said sure that is what we all want, isn't it? But then we shared some moments through text about personal feelings of being alone and wanting to have a relationship with a person and then he jumped the gun and started saying that he thinks I'm his soulmate and calling me his baby and things like that and I'm sorry but I am just not comfortable. We still are texting a little and he wants to call me. I'm going to have to tell him how it is with me and the things I am looking for. Like starting out as friends like many want now a days. It's important for me to really get to know a person although I'm not saying it has to take years but maybe several months. I'm not jumping into things with blinders anymore like I used to when I was young. I got hurt really bad that way. Now I am wiser and I can choose to have the kind of friendship/relationship that I feel will benefit me. I don't mean I am looking for lots of money either. The man I am talking to is in the same boat as me, on disability, and that's fine with me. I just want and need a meeting of the minds.
When he started speaking soulmate.....sounds like he is saying what he thinks a woman wants to hear. He may be seeking vulnerable woman, you're not that foolish. There is no time limit on getting to know someone, but if someone tries to feed you a line to hurry things along, I'd be careful. That doesn't sound sincere to me. Did you tell him what you wrote here? I would. It's more complicated as we get older--we sure know what we don't want at this point in life, right?
fureverywhere
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Ruthanne, I just read this and yes it's hard. Ten years and some ago...I had all my teeth and joints didn't hurt so bad. Bastards wanted someone who looked twenty at forty plus. I would just put it out there. This is me...If they don't like it you can do far better.
I haven't had a chance to tell him yet. But I am going to tell him. I know what I want and that did sound like a line to me, too. Even older men are looking to get in the sack fast.
So true fur...I am going to speak my mind, and he can like it or not. I'm getting to old not to be understood. Thanks.
Hi there! I bet you're glad you got the tree done! I have a small tree that needs more ornaments..That's real good of you to take the ornaments to the SA. Thank you, I will be careful and I have to say I have to go with my gut feeling about him and I feel scared. Going to tell him to back off.
Sorry, I didn't see this post till now Leslie. That was really sweet of you! Those daily random acts of kindness mean a lot in this world."Mitzvah" can be debated into eternity. I interpret it as a daily random act of kindness. A customer today was buying two adorable toy dog sweaters. The third she put back...I threw it in, you have to dress your baby well ya know? A friend who lost his beagle recently found a new pup. I left a bag on his door with a " Happy Adoption Day" dog cookie. Something to make Daddy and his girl smile together
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I think you are wise, Ruthanne. My warning bells are going off a bit? He seems kinda needy/pushy.
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I feel very full. Made mince tarts today. I make them in muffin tins--big muffin tins. Sadly, I ate four of them. Mmmmm. Then, five shortbread cookies, a lemon bar, and a chocolate cherry cream cheese brownie. Two glasses of spiked eggnog. Merry Xmas baking everyone!
I agree, he was too pushy and seemed like he could be possessive. I don't need that. I have let go of him. Thank you for your feedback.
I started an interior painting project a couple of days ago. I plan on selling this house in 2017 and wanted to go with a neutral color for the "public" areas. Gobi Tan. Blah. But the experts all say that bold/bright colors are a turn off to potential buyers.
Have you ever not bought a house you otherwise liked because of the color of the walls?
Have you ever not bought a house you otherwise liked because of the color of the walls?
That all sounds so good! I've been thinking of doing some baking..I'm just in the thinking part, though.
I've never bought a house. I have rented plenty, though. Never saw any walls that weren't boring white. I would like other colors but I would like to choose the color; that's probably how others feel.
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Better today. Haven't had a cold in years. Felt a raspy throat on Monday. Tuesday came down with a baaaadddd cold. Yesterday, pretty much stayed in bed all day and slept all night. Much better today!! Now, just sneezing/coughing. Us old geezers heal quickly!!!!
Sounds like you really had a bug there! Glad you are starting to feel better. I don't get colds much either.
One Michigan grandson supports MS & the other is a UM fan. When we were shopping in Traverse City they took me to a gift shop displaying a fan flag, they wanted, with Michigan State's logo & school colors on one side & University of Michigan's logo & colors on the other side & these words across both logos: "A House Divided."
Did a little shopping today at the mall. Went to the Bath & Body shop picked up stuff for the girls. Did some shopping at a shopping center, bought some ear phones for the little one that will plug into her iPod. Getting there, almost done. Stores aren't at all crowded during the day.
Problems Reconnecting My VCR/DVD Player to HD Cable Box
I am at my wit's end today! Cable company sent a technician for a required upgrade, replacing my tv convertor box with an HDTV one. The minute he left, the tv started turning itself off, I discovered our on-screen caller ID was gone & the kid had disconnected my VCR, making it impossible to use. When I called customer service they told me, their employees aren't permitted to reconnect anything that doesn't belong to the "company." I've been sitting here, coaxial cable in one hand & flashlight in the other but still can't figure out where this cable should go. If there are any tech savvy folks out there willing to help, I'd appreciate hearing from you!
I have a Sanyo VCR/DVD player model DVW -6100 about 13 years old.
I am at my wit's end today! Cable company sent a technician for a required upgrade, replacing my tv convertor box with an HDTV one. The minute he left, the tv started turning itself off, I discovered our on-screen caller ID was gone & the kid had disconnected my VCR, making it impossible to use. When I called customer service they told me, their employees aren't permitted to reconnect anything that doesn't belong to the "company." I've been sitting here, coaxial cable in one hand & flashlight in the other but still can't figure out where this cable should go. If there are any tech savvy folks out there willing to help, I'd appreciate hearing from you!
I have a Sanyo VCR/DVD player model DVW -6100 about 13 years old.
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jujube
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Went to the Dollar Tree today to get some Christmas doo-dads to deck ourselves with at the Christmas Parades (yes, we are going to TWO) on Saturday. The kids love all the holiday accoutrements ..... reindeer antlers, light-up necklaces, Santa hats, etc. And...well....I do, too. It's that 12-year-old inner child getting ready to embarrass the 69-year-old outer hag. I figure I can get by with it as long as I have a 3-year-old with me....maybe two.
Rest up! Sounds like a fun day. I say wear the antlers..
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Well, the day started OK. The guys working on the house are making good progress on the ramp outside. And they came in to start the tear down of the master bath, to replace the floor. Before I continue, I will add that I live in a manufactured home. Not top of the line construction going in. And it is 25 years old. Back to the story. They went to pull up the vanity, so they could also replace flooring underneath it. GLITCH ALERT--the cheaply made cabinet basically came apart. So, add to the list, buying a new vanity. **sigh**.