So.... Now we wait..

My urologist took three biopsies and told me I had prostate cancer and wanted to remove the gland. Said I would be incontinent, wear "Depends" and would have
erectile dysfunction. So I told him, no way! I'll "watch and wait".

That was 20 years ago and I never did have any of those symptoms. SO ??? Ether it's a VERY slow growing cancer or it was misdiagnosed in the lab.

Lets hope that something like that is happening in your hubby's case.
 
That is such a dilemma.. There are so many schools of thought with prostate cancer.. You can do the "Watch and Wait" method.. You can have radiation seeds planted... you can have a prostatectomy. Now they do it with robotics and it is nerve sparing.. which means less of a chance of prolonged incontinence. I had surgery in 2010 with the Da Vinci robotic system and it's really very good.. So.. we have to wait to see what is offered.
 

QuickSilver said:
Hubby had his prostate biopsy today.. 5-7 days... we will know if he has cancer.
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QS, if I may ask, what alerted you two, other than the colored beets stuff, the CT was negative, to the fact that a malignancy was present? What was his PSA reading, if again, you don't mind my intruding into your privacy? Did a digital exam reveal something missed by the CT? A prostatectomy is rough business!

Hoping this all turns out to be a false alarm, for both of your well-beings! imp
 
Quicksilver a family friend had prostate cancer and had surgery and is doing very weel. I will hope and pray for the best for you and Dame Warrigal.
 
imp said:
QS, if I may ask, what alerted you two, other than the colored beets stuff, the CT was negative, to the fact that a malignancy was present? What was his PSA reading, if again, you don't mind my intruding into your privacy? Did a digital exam reveal something missed by the CT? A prostatectomy is rough business!

Hoping this all turns out to be a false alarm, for both of your well-beings! imp
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PSA levels.. 3.7.......4.5.......5.1.......5.4......8.4. The urologist did not feel any abnormality other than enlargment.
 
I can't imagine what it must be like with the possibility of bad news hanging over your families heads QS and DW! I sure feel for you. The advice 'try not to think of it' is probably the most impossible thing to do right now for all of you I would guess. How do you not think of it? Good luck to you all.
 
For me it's like the Schrodinger's cat thought experiment.

Right now the news is neither good nor bad. It is both.
When the box is opened, which will happen soon, we will know what we have to really worry about. Or not worry about.
 
I have a very different psychological approach to this waiting and wondering thing. In my life.. it seems as though most of the things I have worried the most about happening never happened. It's like that old saying.. " I have been through so much in my life.. most of which never happened". In fact... it's always been the things I never saw coming that have caused the most trouble.. So my approach is to worry and expect and prepare for the worst. That way... either it will not come to pass, and if it does.. at least I have a game plan. Make sense?
 
QuickSilver said:
I have a very different psychological approach to this waiting and wondering thing. In my life.. it seems as though most of the things I have worried the most about happening never happened. It's like that old saying.. " I have been through so much in my life.. most of which never happened". In fact... it's always been the things I never saw coming that have caused the most trouble.. So my approach is to worry and expect and prepare for the worst. That way... either it will not come to pass, and if it does.. at least I have a game plan. Make sense?
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That makes sense to me. I'm a worrier, and most things don't happen. Like you said, it's the things you didn't worry about that shock you.
 
Ameriscot said:
That makes sense to me. I'm a worrier, and most things don't happen. Like you said, it's the things you didn't worry about that shock you.
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Absolutely... there is nothing worse than being blindsided by something you never saw coming. Worrying may not help, however, it permits you to get ready and brace for the worst. THEN if it never happens... it's a bonus!!! Another bullet dodged.
 
QuickSilver said:
Absolutely... there is nothing worse than being blindsided by something you never saw coming. Worrying may not help, however, it permits you to get ready and brace for the worst. THEN if it never happens... it's a bonus!!! Another bullet dodged.
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Exactly! Those are the things that throw you totally off balance. My dh is always telling me that worrying about something doesn't change the outcome. True. But it does prepare you for the worst.
 
QuickSilver I know the waiting is rough. We went through this with my husband 3 or 4 years ago. He had a prostatectomy. He's doing pretty well now. I am sending positive thoughts your way. We are all waiting to hear the test results.
 

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