Sologamy... Is There a Purpose?

I even read or saw a news story about a woman who went on a honeymoon...by herself. I thought she got left at the alter but she didn't. She just wanted to treat herself to the "honeymoon" experience and I believe she was tired of waiting until she found a husband to do it with. I guess she could be considered to have been indulging in sologamy. First time I've seen that terminology BTW.
 
So is there sologamy registry? A sologamy shower? Save-the-date notifications sent? Invitations to the ceremony? Who walks the solo down the aisle? And about that first dance at the reception. How's that handled?

If solo has kids, whose surname is used?

If there are kids, then a divorce, how is custody determined and who pays child support?
 
Murrmurr said:
And they get to keep everything, too.
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No they don't. This is from an Islamic site:

Couples are encouraged to try to work things out before divorcing, including arbitration, if necessary with a member from the groom's side and the bride's side of the family.
"Islam allows different levels of freedom for men and women when they divorce. Husbands are allowed to divorce whenever they wish, while the rights of wife to divorce depend upon her sect. Sometimes, the rules regarding the return of pre-marriage dowries are different for men and women, with women being allowed to keep marriage gifts and to give them back if they so wish."

"Wait three months. After a divorce is final, the couple must live together for three months. The wife is financially dependent upon her husband during this time, and he is responsible for her welfare and caring for her in general. The main reason for this is to verify that the woman is not pregnant. It also serves as a cooling-off period and a reconciliation period, giving the couple the chance to make amends."

"Care for the children. Children typically stay with the mother after the divorce is finalized, while the father must continue to financially support the children."
 
Living alone, traveling alone, solitary life, ; pretty normal for many.
Why the pomp?
I guess they want to tell the world they are self-sufficient.
So, It's an expression of their strength and that they need nothing from anyone?
I guess that's OK.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
No they don't. This is from an Islamic site:

Couples are encouraged to try to work things out before divorcing, including arbitration, if necessary with a member from the groom's side and the bride's side of the family.
"Islam allows different levels of freedom for men and women when they divorce. Husbands are allowed to divorce whenever they wish, while the rights of wife to divorce depend upon her sect. Sometimes, the rules regarding the return of pre-marriage dowries are different for men and women, with women being allowed to keep marriage gifts and to give them back if they so wish."

"Wait three months. After a divorce is final, the couple must live together for three months. The wife is financially dependent upon her husband during this time, and he is responsible for her welfare and caring for her in general. The main reason for this is to verify that the woman is not pregnant. It also serves as a cooling-off period and a reconciliation period, giving the couple the chance to make amends."

"Care for the children. Children typically stay with the mother after the divorce is finalized, while the father must continue to financially support the children."
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I worked with a few Muslim men back when I co-owned a grocery/liquor/convenience store; Noor, Shadi, and Ghulam. Shadi was from Syria. Noor and Ghulam were brothers and I don't remember where they were from...I wanna say Pakistan, but I'm not sure that's right. Anyway, they told me that wives of divorce are indeed allowed to keep gifts given to her at their wedding, which is usually gold in the form of jewelry, but if her husband demands that she leave some or all of it for the future care of his parents, she almost always complies. They also told me that the husband usually gets custody of children over a certain age. Shadi said 7 years old. Noor said 10.

Do some rules or guidelines vary from region to region? Maybe different religious leaders have different interpretations. I know that's true with Christianity.
 

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