Some Basic Social Skills

I think one of the most harmful by-products of Facebook, Twitter, and the like is that since people are living in their own self-designed echo chambers there, out in the REAL world, they also think everyone is going to agree with them and their friends and that is the ONLY right way to live life.

But out in the real world, people simply do not see the world the same way.

The story, “The Country Mouse and the City Mouse” talks all about that. Don’t tell me your country life is perfect for everyone when some people hate it and are bored to tears there. Likewise, don’t tell me your city is beautiful when all I can see is dirty streets badly in need of repairs and 15’ tall graffiti everywhere.

In real life, we all have to try to get along and work together even when we disagree. In real life, these people you disagree with vehemently might be some of your best customers! How freakin’ frustrating is that?

Perhaps one key to having peace in life is knowing which battles to choose? I don’t mean to the point of lawlessness. There is far too much of that in my area. Corruption run amuck is not the answer. But accept the fact that people will disagree and it’s NORMAL. It’s not always a crisis.
 

VintageBetter said:
The story, “The Country Mouse and the City Mouse” talks all about that. Don’t tell me your country life is perfect for everyone when some people hate it and are bored to tears there. Likewise, don’t tell me your city is beautiful when all I can see is dirty streets badly in need of repairs and 15’ tall graffiti everywhere.
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The peace and beauty of the country; the friendly intimacy of city streets. It's a wonderful world and I'm happy and grateful to be in it.
 
gruntlabor said:
Civil behavior is a must in a civilized society. Respect must be earned.
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you are right. But how do you earn respect in the whole wide world? In a small group you do your job, respect others and hold your own. The others decide whether you are in or out. In the world you don't have those rules. My only response is that you do what's right, hold your position and let others determine who you are. In the mean time you hold to what you believe.
 
How does "never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor" work in online spaces?

It is fairly clear in person, for example if you have elatives who are doing less well then you. But what about spaces like Senior Forums where some people talk about struggling financially?

Does that mean you should never mention that you are doing well in those shared spaces? Is it rude or inconsiderate to mention I will be able to retire a couple years early, when others do not have the resources to do so?

I am not talking about mentioning specific dollar amounts. I mean things like general life circumstances or perhaps things you have bought.
 
Believe it or not Benjamin Franklin wrote a book about social behavior. I think it was "THE ART OF VIRTUE", If memory serves. Practical common sense, civilized traits for interacting with others.
Today we flip the bird, yell F_ _ _. Y_ U and move on. Then go home and wonder why the world is so cold, uncaring and everyone is isolated.
Go figure
bob
 
rbtvgo said:
Believe it or not Benjamin Franklin wrote a book about social behavior. I think it was "THE ART OF VIRTUE", If memory serves. Practical common sense, civilized traits for interacting with others.
Today we flip the bird, yell F_ _ _. Y_ U and move on. Then go home and wonder why the world is so cold, uncaring and everyone is isolated.
Go figure
bob
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In a challenging environment of which our specie is living in it has become increasingly difficult to be civil. You never know if the person you are dealing with is listening or are they just thinking of ways to respond to us. It feels like most people don't care too much about what you think/feel. In this world you have to be careful about trusting people. The world is not simple anymore. It is filled with doubts and lies.

Even when you find that things are going well, most of the time we are interrupted by some crisis. Wouldn't it be nice to go through a day that didn't have little/big crisis popping up? I don't blame others for being self-absorbed, but we have got to find a way "to bring some lovin' here today". (Marvin Gaye).
 
The Elevated Rail is the best way to go.
Why go beyond oneself. Blame it on something.
 

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