Sometimes I lose the meaning of life.

.If I ever accomplish or achieve all of my dreams, if ever they all come true, I hope that I'll never be so cynical that I won't dream new ones. The goalposts may get moved or as Lucy always does to Charlie brown, the ball may get pulled away but by golly, I'm still in the game! 😊
 
Ilya said:
Sometimes I lose the meaning of life.
In high school, the goal was to finish the training. At the university, the goal was similar. In adult life, it was more difficult, but I set myself virtual goals in my work. In addition, creating and strengthening a family was also the goal.
But now I feel that the children have grown up, the work is over, and raising grandchildren is not the same as raising children. In addition to the moments with travel (which I love very much) and conversations with people, I became bored with life. I have read all the books that interest me, and using endless entertainment also gets boring over time.
I feel like my mental health is getting worse. How do you find the strength to have fun, find meaning in life every day, and do you succeed?
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Just know, that this is just a momentary thought. There will always be ways to tell yourself, I am glad I got up today! Not every day is welcomed with thoughts like I lost my interest in life. Pets are great at perking you up, or a nice walk in the evening or morning when it is cool. Or do something you haven't tried yet. I joined a senior center and they had line dancing. That sounded like fun and it is. So, just keep on keepin' on.
 
Chet said:
I get where you are coming from. The problem is that as retirees we have no meaningful goals. What to do about it, I don't know. Things that had to be done before to have a successful and comfortable life are now finished.
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I still like to feel like I can make a difference. So, I joined a senior center and became a board member, and president of a club. I also love leading (semi-leading) line dancing. Don't give up. Us seniors aren't done yet, no sir!
 
For me my mid life was used mainly for taking care of my family and having close friends, who also helped a lot when the time came for it. So most of my time was used "nurturing" others. Sure I did "please" my self with interesting stuff, but I wasn't nurturing to myself. Since retiring I have increasing realized to stop being hard on myself. I let things go that bother me, or cause unneeded stress. I have the freedom now to wander to what interests me, and that lasts awhile, then onto another flower to absorb some nectar. :)
 
Amenan said:
Mental Health Benefits of Exercise.
Exercise is not just about getting fit and building muscle. However, people who exercise regularly tend to do so because it gives them a sense of well-being. And they feel more energetic throughout the day, sleep better at night. And have sharper memories. Consequently, they feel more relaxed and positive about themselves and their lives. Also, it’s a powerful medicine for many common mental health challenges.

Exercise Helps Fight Depression.​

Studies show that exercise can treat mild to moderate depression as effectively as antidepressant medication. But without the side effects. So then, exercise is a powerful depression fighter for several reasons. Most importantly, it promotes all kinds of changes in the brain, including neural growth, and reduced inflammation. And new activity patterns that promote feelings of calm and well-being. Also, it releases endorphins, powerful chemicals in your brain. These energize your spirits and make you feel good. Finally, exercise can also serve as a distraction. So then, allowing you to find some quiet time to break out of negative thoughts that feed depression.

Exercise is an Anti Anxiety Treatment.​


Some exercise is a natural and effective anti-anxiety treatment. Because it relieves tension and stress and boosts physical and mental energy. And enhances well-being through the release of endorphins. So then, anything that gets you moving can help. However, you will get a bigger benefit if you pay attention to your body instead of zoning out. Furthermore, try to notice the rhythm of your breathing or the feeling of the wind in your face. Besides, by really focusing on your body and how it feels as you exercise, you will not only improve your physical condition faster. But you may also be able to interrupt the flow of constant worries running through your head.

Exercise Helps to Relieve stress.

You may have noticed how your body feels when you’re under stress? So, your muscles may be tense, in your face, neck, and shoulders. And leaving you with back or neck pain, or painful headaches. Also, you may feel a tightness in your chest, a pounding pulse, or muscle cramps. Consequently, you may also experience problems. And insomnia, heartburn, stomachache, diarrhoea, or frequent urination. As a result, the worry and all these physical symptoms can, in turn, lead to even more stress. Besides, creating a vicious cycle between your mind and body. So then, exercising is an effective way to break this cycle. As well as releasing endorphins in the brain. So then, physical activity helps to relax the muscles and relieve tension in the body. Since the body and mind are so closely linked. And when your body feels better, so will your mind.


Exercise and PTSD or Trauma.​


Mental Health Benefits of Exercise. Evidence suggests that by really focusing on your body and how it feels as you exercise. So then, you can actually help your nervous system. And begin to move out of the immobilization stress response that characterizes PTSD or trauma. So, instead of allowing your mind to wander. Also, pay close attention to the physical sensations in your joints and muscles. And even your insides as your body moves. Also, exercises that involve cross movement that engages both arms and legs such as walking. Coupled with running, swimming, weight training, or dancing are your best choices.


In Conclusion.​

The best doctor in many cases is exercise, do not be afraid to try it. Exercise at home may suit you better than going out into the public area. So then there will be no one watching you, as you exercise. Do not be afraid to use exercise for gentle healing. It works so trust it. I hope you take this on board before you allow what you are feeling to morph into something more serious, I wish you the best. Amenan
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Very true, great post. Exercise turned my life around, I feel healthier and more physically capable now(age 69) than when I was in my mid forties.
 
When I was working. I see older people retire. Some just sat at home doing nothing. They were gone in 6 months to a year. Then I saw others that got a hobby, learned to fish, play a musical instrument in old-timers bands. Travel & see places on their bucket list. They are still around.

I had a bucket list till my wife died as we mowed 30 lawns here in town, now I'm living alone & learning new things on my computer. Since years ago I built computers for people.

It's all about how you look at life & if your willing to try new things.
 
@Ilya - I missed one of my goals. I wanted to teach history but I dropped out of college to take care of my family (3 children).

I'm 66 now, but it's not too late. I could go back to school and get at least a teaching credential. I could at least be a teacher's assistant, and I could keep going to school, too.

Technically, I didn't miss that goal, I changed it because my kids became a higher priority. Ever have that kind of experience?
 
Pepper said:
I want to learn to thrive while doing almost absolutely nothing.
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I feel like I'm doing that.

I do housework on the daily but that's not interesting, and now I do it with the Missus, which makes it a little more fun but no more interesting. Kids come over to stay the weekend; the 2 youngest grandkids and/or Paxton. That livens things up quite a bit, but it can get exhausting.

To "thrive" I study stuff. History, global politics and cosmic sciences are my favorites. And all I have to do is sit in my recliner and read or watch videos.
 
Sorry to go so off topic But..................you introduced Michelle to us as someone plotting marriage on you, you were scared and now you're married?

You're weird.
 
Amenan said:
Mental Health Benefits of Exercise.
Exercise is not just about getting fit and building muscle. However, people who exercise regularly tend to do so because it gives them a sense of well-being. And they feel more energetic throughout the day, sleep better at night. And have sharper memories. Consequently, they feel more relaxed and positive about themselves and their lives. Also, it’s a powerful medicine for many common mental health challenges.

Exercise Helps Fight Depression.​

Studies show that exercise can treat mild to moderate depression as effectively as antidepressant medication. But without the side effects. So then, exercise is a powerful depression fighter for several reasons. Most importantly, it promotes all kinds of changes in the brain, including neural growth, and reduced inflammation. And new activity patterns that promote feelings of calm and well-being. Also, it releases endorphins, powerful chemicals in your brain. These energize your spirits and make you feel good. Finally, exercise can also serve as a distraction. So then, allowing you to find some quiet time to break out of negative thoughts that feed depression.

Exercise is an Anti Anxiety Treatment.​


Some exercise is a natural and effective anti-anxiety treatment. Because it relieves tension and stress and boosts physical and mental energy. And enhances well-being through the release of endorphins. So then, anything that gets you moving can help. However, you will get a bigger benefit if you pay attention to your body instead of zoning out. Furthermore, try to notice the rhythm of your breathing or the feeling of the wind in your face. Besides, by really focusing on your body and how it feels as you exercise, you will not only improve your physical condition faster. But you may also be able to interrupt the flow of constant worries running through your head.

Exercise Helps to Relieve stress.

You may have noticed how your body feels when you’re under stress? So, your muscles may be tense, in your face, neck, and shoulders. And leaving you with back or neck pain, or painful headaches. Also, you may feel a tightness in your chest, a pounding pulse, or muscle cramps. Consequently, you may also experience problems. And insomnia, heartburn, stomachache, diarrhoea, or frequent urination. As a result, the worry and all these physical symptoms can, in turn, lead to even more stress. Besides, creating a vicious cycle between your mind and body. So then, exercising is an effective way to break this cycle. As well as releasing endorphins in the brain. So then, physical activity helps to relax the muscles and relieve tension in the body. Since the body and mind are so closely linked. And when your body feels better, so will your mind.


Exercise and PTSD or Trauma.​


Mental Health Benefits of Exercise. Evidence suggests that by really focusing on your body and how it feels as you exercise. So then, you can actually help your nervous system. And begin to move out of the immobilization stress response that characterizes PTSD or trauma. So, instead of allowing your mind to wander. Also, pay close attention to the physical sensations in your joints and muscles. And even your insides as your body moves. Also, exercises that involve cross movement that engages both arms and legs such as walking. Coupled with running, swimming, weight training, or dancing are your best choices.


In Conclusion.​

The best doctor in many cases is exercise, do not be afraid to try it. Exercise at home may suit you better than going out into the public area. So then there will be no one watching you, as you exercise. Do not be afraid to use exercise for gentle healing. It works so trust it. I hope you take this on board before you allow what you are feeling to morph into something more serious, I wish you the best. Amenan
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Oh my dear friend. I found different pets one time. I decided to feed outside birds, since I wouldn't have to pick up any poop or have any veterinary bills. I love sunrises and sunsets. Your emotions are getting in the way. Don't let them win. Pick up yourself, dust yourself off and start all over again. Listen to that song. Get joy back on purpose. There are always ways to count your blessings, look on the other side of things. Do ancestry, another puzzle, go outside and enjoy the birds singing or sunrise. Please, don't give up.
 
Amenan said:
Mental Health Benefits of Exercise.
Exercise is not just about getting fit and building muscle. However, people who exercise regularly tend to do so because it gives them a sense of well-being. And they feel more energetic throughout the day, sleep better at night. And have sharper memories. Consequently, they feel more relaxed and positive about themselves and their lives. Also, it’s a powerful medicine for many common mental health challenges.

Exercise Helps Fight Depression.​

Studies show that exercise can treat mild to moderate depression as effectively as antidepressant medication. But without the side effects. So then, exercise is a powerful depression fighter for several reasons. Most importantly, it promotes all kinds of changes in the brain, including neural growth, and reduced inflammation. And new activity patterns that promote feelings of calm and well-being. Also, it releases endorphins, powerful chemicals in your brain. These energize your spirits and make you feel good. Finally, exercise can also serve as a distraction. So then, allowing you to find some quiet time to break out of negative thoughts that feed depression.

Exercise is an Anti Anxiety Treatment.​


Some exercise is a natural and effective anti-anxiety treatment. Because it relieves tension and stress and boosts physical and mental energy. And enhances well-being through the release of endorphins. So then, anything that gets you moving can help. However, you will get a bigger benefit if you pay attention to your body instead of zoning out. Furthermore, try to notice the rhythm of your breathing or the feeling of the wind in your face. Besides, by really focusing on your body and how it feels as you exercise, you will not only improve your physical condition faster. But you may also be able to interrupt the flow of constant worries running through your head.

Exercise Helps to Relieve stress.

You may have noticed how your body feels when you’re under stress? So, your muscles may be tense, in your face, neck, and shoulders. And leaving you with back or neck pain, or painful headaches. Also, you may feel a tightness in your chest, a pounding pulse, or muscle cramps. Consequently, you may also experience problems. And insomnia, heartburn, stomachache, diarrhoea, or frequent urination. As a result, the worry and all these physical symptoms can, in turn, lead to even more stress. Besides, creating a vicious cycle between your mind and body. So then, exercising is an effective way to break this cycle. As well as releasing endorphins in the brain. So then, physical activity helps to relax the muscles and relieve tension in the body. Since the body and mind are so closely linked. And when your body feels better, so will your mind.


Exercise and PTSD or Trauma.​


Mental Health Benefits of Exercise. Evidence suggests that by really focusing on your body and how it feels as you exercise. So then, you can actually help your nervous system. And begin to move out of the immobilization stress response that characterizes PTSD or trauma. So, instead of allowing your mind to wander. Also, pay close attention to the physical sensations in your joints and muscles. And even your insides as your body moves. Also, exercises that involve cross movement that engages both arms and legs such as walking. Coupled with running, swimming, weight training, or dancing are your best choices.


In Conclusion.​

The best doctor in many cases is exercise, do not be afraid to try it. Exercise at home may suit you better than going out into the public area. So then there will be no one watching you, as you exercise. Do not be afraid to use exercise for gentle healing. It works so trust it. I hope you take this on board before you allow what you are feeling to morph into something more serious, I wish you the best. Amenan
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I love exercise, it is the making myself get out and do it. So, I found line dancing at a senior center and I love it! I also adopted a new young dog and she loves to go for morning walks. Long ones!
 
Murrmurr said:
@Ilya - I missed one of my goals. I wanted to teach history but I dropped out of college to take care of my family (3 children).

I'm 66 now, but it's not too late. I could go back to school and get at least a teaching credential. I could at least be a teacher's assistant, and I could keep going to school, too.

Technically, I didn't miss that goal, I changed it because my kids became a higher priority. Ever have that kind of experience?
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No, because I chose an education and a profession that I love. Not immediately, it was a second education and only then I started a family.
 
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