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Have you, or have you ever had, a very jealous, or suspicious, spouse or lover? If so, how did you overcome the trials and tribulations? imp
 

I am then, one out of five who must endlessly wear blinders while we take our River walks! imp
 
No.. as a matter of fact I take more notice of women around us than my husband does. Then I'll poke him and say "did you see her?? if someone looks really hot and he will say "Where?" so he either is not paying attention, or he is a really good liar. hahahaha.
 
No, but I should have been suspicious with my first fiancée. Instead, the demise of the relationship took me by complete surprise, leaving me with a wedding dress hanging on the back of the door and a boxful of wedding invitations. And I didn't even get to keep the ring......he actually gave it to the girl he married on what was to have been OUR wedding day (to add insult to injury). A "blessed event" followed a few months later for them, of course...
 
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QuickSilver said:
No.. as a matter of fact I take more notice of women around us than my husband does. Then I'll poke him and say "did you see her?? if someone looks really hot and he will say "Where?" so he either is not paying attention, or he is a really good liar. hahahaha.
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I think that he is discreetly dodging the bullet. :wink:
 
Yes, the first lover I had when I was nineteen would have done credit to stalkers R us. Sigh. In those days, law enforcement assumed that it was all a pigment of irrational, weak, hallucinatory,femine minds that just needed to calm down, and behave right! Ahem. If I had worn a burka, this dork would have called me a whore and threatened to beat me if I smiled at another man. I was fortunate he was stopped before any violence was meted out. l. After all sensible persuasion failed, unknown to me, one of my male buddies planted pot in his car, and called the cops. He did three years, and I never heard from him again! My buddy hid this setup from me for more than thirty years. Silly man was afraid I would be angry at his interference. Hardly, he may very well have saved my life/sanity.
 
Yes I have had a few jealous partners/boyfriends..they start off well enough..but it very soon becomes apparent . I cannot stand jealousy and mistrust, it's an illness suffered by those who are completely insecure. I'm a very independent person, and fortunately my husband isn't the suspicious or jealous type. he has no need to be, I'm an honest person..and a very chatty open person so I do on occasion get the evil eye from a jealous wife if her husband speaks to me, albeit that I may be chatting to them both, ..I don't let it get to me, because it's not my problem, .
 
I was going to say yes, but then I remembered it was my wife who called me to the window the first time a bra-less girl walked past in a tight sweater (way back in the sixties, the age of the of the conical circular stitched bra!) and it was she who, when I wasn't concentrating on a topless beach in France, dug me in the ribs and said "Your luck's changed" when a particularly attractive girl started to disrobe nearby!
 
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Laurie said:
I was going to say yes, but then I remembered it was my wife who called me to the window the first time a bra-less girl walked past in a tight sweater (way back in the sixties, the age of the of the conical circular stitched bra!) and it was she who, when I wasn't concentrating on a topless beach in France, dug me in the ribs and said "Your luck's changed" when a particularly attractive girl started to disrobe nearby!
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It's funny Laurie, because often if I see a young woman batting her eyelids at my o/h I'll say the same thing... altho' he says he never notices when women are giving him the eye.. :rolleyes:
 
It really works both ways, if one of the partners is constantly oggling and rubbernecking at other men/women when in the company of the partner something is wrong with the oggler and/or the relationship and maybe its time for some changes. Jealously is natural for both partners when they feel the relationship threatened but when it happens too often it means there is no trust.
 
There is a wonderful short story by Irwin Shaw, "Girls in Summer Dresses" that is from a woman's viewpoint. On a visit to NYC her husband just can'stop ogling the girls on the street. This was written in the forties and a masterpiece on male behavior...
 
I don't think it would bother me if hubby looked at an attractive woman.. Everyone looks... and I'm not really very insecure about that sort of thing.. Look all you want... don't touch.
 
Yes, I certainly do look and admire, but when I'm out with a boyfriend, I wouldn't ogle, stare at or flirt with another man as I consider it not just rude and disrespectful to the person I am with but also hurtful - and vice versa. Elementary my dear Watson.
 

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