Stressed about health issues, sad about the past

[Pat888]

I have always been so healthy and at 59, I was made redundant from my 32-year job, ever since I have begun with health issues, heart issues, stress and now prostate issues with a current high PSA spike a great source of anxiety besides the breakdown of my marriage last year and family problems which have isolated me from my family. I do have a therapist, but they cannot solve all problems.

 

[officerripley]

Sorry for what you're going through. This is a good place to come to vent; welcome.

 

[Pat888]

Sorry for what you're going through. This is a good place to come to vent; welcome.

I am so sad of how my quality of life has declined so drastically in just one year. I keep thinking of the past and how good things used to be...I never thought I would be in this place at age 60. I have 2 beautiful teenagers and an older step-daughter but I refuse to stress them out by telling them how I feel, because they rely on me so much. I'm a bit of a wreck right now

 

[MACKTEXAS]

Thanks for your introduction, and welcome to the group. Even though we can't resolve these complex issues, you may find the forum a good source for support when you're feeling overwhelmed and isolated. Sometimes it helps just to be heard.

 

[Happy Heart]

I noticed that at certain age, things happened that I never expected but all we can do is roll with the punches and say the Serenity Prayer often.

 

[George1959]

Hi Pat! Welcome to this forum. You really are facing a lot of problems at one time. But you did already the first step, i.e. talking to us about your problems. I'm quite sure that you'll get some help from the members.

 

[Oldeagle66]

Thanks for sharing this, we all go through something and need to get it out. This is a good place to do just that.

 

[Coconut]

Welcome to Senior Forums @Pat888

 

[Delia]

Welcome to the forum, Pat. I'm so sorry for all you're going through right now. I'm pretty new here too. You will find people are kind and understanding here.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

Welcome to the forum
I’m not sure what else to say
Just keep talking to us
At least you can vent at any time and there will be others here to listen to you.

 

[Paco Dennis]

 

[Muskrat]

welcome. Now you are not alone anymore. There are people here day and night...quick to offer hugs or advice. Hope you stay and indulge.

 

[katlupe]

Welcome to our forum! Looking forward to getting to know you here!

 

[officerripley]

I can't find your post about feeling so alone and it sounded like you were blaming yourself for that but you shouldn't. I'm not saying you've never made mistakes--we all have--but loneliness is a problem a lot of people are having to deal with, more than at any other time in history. (Maybe because people have smaller families? IDK.) Anyway, I'm not trying to make light of your problems at all; what I'm trying to say is please don't beat yourself up so hard. (I wish I were better at saying these kinds of things.) There are a lot of us on here who understand and can relate. Hang in there.

 

[EmptyCup]

Everybody’s experience is different. Having said that, my marriage ended at age 60 and I retired not long after that. Those were a couple of years that I would rather forget. Just kept moving forward and the dark clouds eventually passed. It’s now nine years later and I am very glad I pushed through. Never did remarry or anything close to it. There are other ways to experience contentment plus I have the occasional chance to be a helpful influence in my three children’s lives.

 

[Muskrat]

I might add that actually knowing ehat your challenges are allows you to face them. Sort of like having the other shoe drop. Take small bites...little changes. We are all here cheering you on...

 

[Kaila]

Welcome to our forum, Pat.

 

[hearlady]

 

[oscash]

Welcome to the forum Pat888. We are a close-knit family and are always there to listen and offer advice. Hang in there because we all go through similar things. Worry doesn't get you anywhere.