Ronni
The motormouth ;)
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- Nashville TN
It began as an obscure book by Gary Chapman in 1992. "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate" is the title. It is very simply written, easy to read, simplistic examples. Mr. Chapman says: My conclusion after thirty years of marriage counseling is that there are basically five emotional love languages—five ways that people speak and understand emotional love. In the field of linguistics a language may have numerous dialects or variations. Similarly, within the five basic emotional love languages, there are many dialects....The important thing is to speak the love language of your spouse. Typically people tend to have a primary and also a secondary love language.
"The five love languages describe the way we feel loved and appreciated. Depending on our individual personality types, we may feel loved differently than how our partners do. Understanding and decoding these different ways of showing love will help take the guesswork out of your partner’s expectations and needs. The idea is: we all express and feel love differently, and understanding those differences can seriously help your relationship. In fact, it’s one of the simplest ways to improve it. The term "Love Languages" was coined by longtime relationship counselor Gary Chapman. His book, The Five Love Languages, is admittedly full of cheesy truisms (“keep your love tank full”), and it sounds like a bad quiz you’d take in a magazine. It’s a pretty fluffy read overall (and some notions are kind of antiquated), but there’s a reason this whole love language thing has taken off: it makes a lot of sense, and it works. "
The five languages are pretty straightforward, but here’s a brief description of what each of them mean:
It's been fun figuring out what Ron's love language is.
My daughter and her husband are someone what opposite in their love language for each other, which has created some conflict (he wants a LOT of quality time, but she is way more interested in Acts of Service) but because they've both read the book and embraced its concepts, they have a much better understanding of what makes the other person tick and so they're able to work stuff out between them more easily.
Have you guys ever heard of this book? Do you know what YOUR Language is?
"The five love languages describe the way we feel loved and appreciated. Depending on our individual personality types, we may feel loved differently than how our partners do. Understanding and decoding these different ways of showing love will help take the guesswork out of your partner’s expectations and needs. The idea is: we all express and feel love differently, and understanding those differences can seriously help your relationship. In fact, it’s one of the simplest ways to improve it. The term "Love Languages" was coined by longtime relationship counselor Gary Chapman. His book, The Five Love Languages, is admittedly full of cheesy truisms (“keep your love tank full”), and it sounds like a bad quiz you’d take in a magazine. It’s a pretty fluffy read overall (and some notions are kind of antiquated), but there’s a reason this whole love language thing has taken off: it makes a lot of sense, and it works. "
The five languages are pretty straightforward, but here’s a brief description of what each of them mean:
- Words of affirmation: Expressing affection through spoken affection, praise or appreciation.
- Acts of service: Actions, rather than words, are used to show and receive love.
- Receiving gifts: Gifting is symbolic of love and affection.
- Quality time: Expressing affection with undivided, undistracted attention.
- Physical touch: It can range from having sex to holding hands. With this love language, the speaker feels affection through physical touch.
It's been fun figuring out what Ron's love language is.
My daughter and her husband are someone what opposite in their love language for each other, which has created some conflict (he wants a LOT of quality time, but she is way more interested in Acts of Service) but because they've both read the book and embraced its concepts, they have a much better understanding of what makes the other person tick and so they're able to work stuff out between them more easily. Have you guys ever heard of this book? Do you know what YOUR Language is?
