The Extended family versus the Nuclear family?

Joey

Joey

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I'm sure we've all been in both and sampled them somewhere? I started off in "extended" and got disciplined in some way by parents and all aunts and uncles. Played with all my cousins and sometimes 'fell out' with them? Then we left for a better life??? and became nuclear.

We had turned our back on the extended and hardly saw them at all and so the rot set in? Now I know not where they abode or survive or die? - Wots it all about Alfie?? ps: then my own family started "falling apart" - is this the way of the world or just the dark side of the moon?
 

Joey said:
I'm sure we've all been in both and sampled them somewhere? I started off in "extended" and got disciplined in some way by parents and all aunts and uncles. Played with all my cousins and sometimes 'fell out' with them? Then we left for a better life??? and became nuclear.

We had turned our back on the extended and hardly saw them at all and so the rot set in? Now I know not where they abode or survive or die? - Wots it all about Alfie?? ps: then my own family started "falling apart" - is this the way of the world or just the dark side of the moon?
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Everything that is, could be otherwise.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
I knew my cousins but we hardly ever saw each other until several years ago, when we reconnected, and now they are the only family I have left. I'm so thankful they're back in my life and regret the years we lost.
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Thanks to my daughter and Ancestry, I am now making connection to some first and second cousins but my family since marriage has never been merely nuclear.
 
I'm an only child, but I had a large extended family when we lived in NC. All of my relatives were there. I was close to one female cousin and basically grew up with two male cousins. Sadly, after we moved to Florida I rarely saw them. I only reconnected with my female cousin when she moved to TX to take care of my ailing mother for a couple of years. We still keep in touch.

My extended family is now hubby's family. I'm close to my SIL and BIL and their spouses/partners. I was there for the birth of all my nieces and my nephew but as they've grown they have their own lives. I get it. I attended my SIL's courthouse wedding in December and will be attending my niece's wedding in August. I don't know what I'd have done all these years without them.
 
I'm divorced as not an easy person .
I have 2 daughters married in Ca and close with them .
Three married sisters one in Italy , one in NYC and the other in New Orleans all married but not that close to nieces who also married scattered all over .
 
Families are wonderful if they are closely knit, however many are not. I come from a large family - lots of cousins. As a child, we spent time together but once we were adults, it seems everyone went their own way. I don't grieve this as I now consider un-related people my family. As long as there is love, understanding, support without expecting anything in return, then it doesn't matter whether we are blood-related or not.
 
I once did some little research into Islamic ME families - and they were sorta goin the same way of separation and losing touch but at a much slower pace - haven't heard any accounts of Jewish family structure? My son's wife is Thai and comes from a small southern town that i have visited on numerous occasions and the family seem to be stuck together my intackto??
 
Joey said:
I once did some little research into Islamic ME families - and they were sorta goin the same way of separation and losing touch but at a much slower pace - haven't heard any accounts of Jewish family structure? My son's wife is Thai and comes from a small southern town that i have visited on numerous occasions and the family seem to be stuck together my intackto??
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Hubby's family is Filipino and they are as close as close can get. There are 3 siblings with a half brother and when their father passed away and left him their house they let their half brother live there rent-free until he decided to move out. All families should be so close and caring.
 
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