The only thing worse than being alone is.....

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Rindee

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AfterMidnight.jpg Here I was at 2:45 am being held captive by a chess game, and a chatter that would not leave me alone lol! It has been said that the only thing worse than being alone, is wishing you were alone.
I have been on both sides of that coin, alone for long periods of time wishing I had someone to be with, and in relationships that were so bad I wished to be alone lol. The best thing I did was not just marry anyone to prevent from being alone the rest of my life. Marriage is a huge step, and for me to get married would require a man to be a combination of all the things I dreamed of having in my life.
No one ever filled that void in my life, so here I am at 62, single, and alone. Marriage is no longer an option, and rarely a thought. The serious dating scene, at least in my case, is becoming that way too. So, being alone is how I will spend my remaining days. With plenty to keep me busy, including 2 cats, I think I will be alright, I think I'm gonna make it. It is difficult, when going shopping or out to eat, seeing all the couples holding hands, laughing, having fun and enjoying each other's company,
and there I am eating at a table for one. Robert Frost told of 2 roads that diverged, and that taking the one less traveled made all the difference in his life. I never got that far; I never came to that point to where I could make that choice of which road to take......the choice was made for me, and now, life is a 1-way road, but Winston Churchill wrote "If you are going through hell, keep going", and keep going I will, until there is no more road left for me. Rindee
 

When I first moved to a new area when I retired, I had a get together with new neighbors. They were bragging about how much fun they have partying and spending all their money for the month. Some would be broke a day later, and they would spend the rest of the month borrowing and working part time jobs or hustling to get by. That's how they took care of each other and always in each others business. That is okay for them but not me. I saw where this was heading and keep to myself now.To me it's scary and irresponsible not to have anything set aside.
 
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Oldeagle66 said:
67 now and widowed twice. I haven't had problems being alone. I've always been fiercely independent and took it for what it is and moved on. I have no plans on even dating anymore. I am really enjoying my peaceful and quiet lifestyle. Sometimes I get bored, but never lonely.
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That's good! I am at that point in my life, and I, like you, am alone but never lonely. Many people don't realize the difference. As far as bored, I am never that lol!
 

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Marcy Sheiner said:
Worse than being alone is...not being alone. I was married quite young (18) had 2 kids then got divorced at 24. Been single ever since--I'm 78 now. There are some disadvantages to it, but not so many that I'd trade in the positives.
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Pretty much this ^^^ with a a few changes, lollol.

I was happily single 14 years. I did remarry for 21years. Husband passed from cancer this past April. Thank goodness I was raised on a farm and can manage this one alone. I have absolutely zero
interest in a companion or a house mate.
 
I'd rather be alone and lonely than married and lonely, like some people I know. Someone once told me, "When I get lonely, all I need to do is go to McDonald's for about 15 minutes and listen to all the screaming kids, and I'm good for another 3 months."
 
Sometimes I long to be alone. Don't get me wrong, I'm perfectly happy with my life. But there are days when I just want the dogs to stop following me around, my handicapped sister-in-law to not need constant looking after, and for my wife to do something...anything...without making a bunch of noise to do it. LOL.

What's it like to sit in total silence?
 
Dave03 said:
Sometimes I long to be alone. Don't get me wrong, I'm perfectly happy with my life. But there are days when I just want the dogs to stop following me around, my handicapped sister-in-law to not need constant looking after, and for my wife to do something...anything...without making a bunch of noise to do it. LOL.

What's it like to sit in total silence?
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It's beautiful. I live alone and sometimes will turn everything off and just sit near an open window with a good book. Or sit and think and work things out. Everyone requires some quiet time.
 
I grew up in a household of 8, but we were all taught early on how to entertain ourselves, not be bored, and to enjoy our own company.

I don't live alone but much of the time DH & I are not actually interacting despite having a great 40+ year marriage. Being alone doesn't bother me.
 
The only thing worse than being alone is not being alone and one's DH being a wussy about being sick with the flu.

He actually said to me this THRS morning, after having had an extended stomach flu puking session on TUES:

(Nearly crying) "My abs hurt! This must be what childbirth feels like". (Oh dear....)

Well honey, I've had four kids.

You can pick yourself back up off the floor after I smacked you!! LOL

F...ing wussy, puking Marine. ROFLOL

Next time he can clean up his own puke!

NOTE: Last month I was visiting the VA and they had an on the spot flu/pneumonia/Covid vac station set up. I did my thing and got the flu and pneumonia shots. When I got home, I reminded DH that "You may want to stop in and get your flu and pneu shots...before we go on this next trip". We went on a three day trip last weekend...he comes home with the flu. This is when my head is saying: Moron Marine Style.
 
CooCooforCoCoPuffs said:
The only thing worse than being alone is not being alone and one's DH being a wussy about being sick with the flu.

He actually said to me this THRS morning, after having had an extended stomach flu puking session on TUES:

(Nearly crying) "My abs hurt! This must be what childbirth feels like". (Oh dear....)

Well honey, I've had four kids.

You can pick yourself back up off the floor after I smacked you!! LOL

F...ing wussy, puking Marine. ROFLOL

Next time he can clean up his own puke!

NOTE: Last month I was visiting the VA and they had an on the spot flu/pneumonia/Covid vac station set up. I did my thing and got the flu and pneumonia shots. When I got home, I reminded DH that "You may want to stop in and get your flu and pneu shots...before we go on this next trip". We went on a three day trip last weekend...he comes home with the flu. This is when my head is saying: Moron Marine Style.
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(Was being being sarcastic and tongue in cheek about this scenario.....) Not angry, just reliving the week's interactions, thoughts in my head. I did not say anything outloud or negative to my DH or slap him....LOL ROFLOL He did say the thing about childbirth/abs, though. LOL. I just ignored his statement.
 
Rindee said:
That's good! I am at that point in my life, and I, like you, am alone but never lonely. Many people don't realize the difference. As far as bored, I am never that lol!
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I am 78 also widowed twice and totally agree with you. Three years ago my wife passed. For about two years I felt lonely and not interested in the dating scene (old saying "if you cannot bite do not growl" lol).

After a period of feeling sorry for myself I have found that being alone does NOT mean I am lonely. It means that I can devote more time and thought to contemplation, meditation, enjoying nature, my cat, and helping others.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
I'd rather be alone and lonely than married and lonely, like some people I know. Someone once told me, "When I get lonely, all I need to do is go to McDonald's for about 15 minutes and listen to all the screaming kids, and I'm good for another 3 months."
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Even tho I’m married I said To DH yesterday , let’s get most of Christmas shopping done today ( which was Friday in Australia ) cause its school holidays now and the shops will overflowing with screaming kids and parents from now …..to after Christmas when you see many taking gifts back to shops for refunds ( our shops are overflowing right out the doors ….at the service desks of most chain stores )
@MACKTEXAS
 
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I am a "people person" and enjoy all the company and fun of our social life. At times it gets to be a bit much, and I love the peace and silence of just closing the door of my apartment behind me and not having to talk or interact. I think that, for me anyway, that's the formula for contentment with my life.

When my husband passed away after 54 years of marriage, I wondered what it would be like living alone for the first time in my life. My kids, grandkids, and I are close (electronically if not physically) and we all see each other several times a year. But I'm basically alone now. I found to my surprise, that I actually enjoy it. And if I feel the need for human company, it's always easily available. I think that's the best balance for most people.
 
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