The truth about women who Live Alone without a man

Nathan said:
I stopped at 0.0.25 seconds. A gender specific generality that you can simply substitute a "she" for a "he", and "her" for a "him" in the narrative.

For years I lived quite happily by myself, having no woman in my life, not dating- notta problem.
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Yep and Same.

I was ...I think, 26, 27 when my first wife ran off and left me with the kids. I didn't marry again until about 4 years ago.

Wait. Actually, I think we'll celebrate 5 years next month. I'm not sure; I'll ask my wife. šŸ˜

Anyway, I was a bachelor for over 40 years (if my math is correct), and if I could go back, I wouldn't change it. Naturally, I dated and I was in and out of relationships, both great and difficult, and by the time I met my current wife, I knew what kind of woman she was within minutes.

But that's neither here nor there - any well-adjusted person can enjoy the single life, and it can be fulfilling and interesting up to a point.
 
Its a bit challenging to formulate what is being said in the video because to me its repetitive, loaded, and somewhat pseudo-intellectual. Typical, in my mind, of AI-generated psychology that is usually just a blend of published thoughts from real-world psychologists, repackaged into something that sounds deep without really saying very much. So is the video in the OP.

As for what I think of the general subject, Its the same for both men and women. I think people can live perfectly fulfilled lives alone or in relationships depending on their own personal circumstances, and depending on their own personality. There isn't a one size fits all with this type of thing, and therefore it can't be applied to everyone equally. Everyone wants something different from life.

The video seems less interested in understanding people, and more interested in stretching broad emotional statements into a unnecessarily over long monologue.

It feels less like somebody genuinely expressing thoughts, and more like content assembled to maximise watch time. And so rolls in the advertising revenue.
 
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Magna-Carta said:
Its a bit challenging to formulate what is being said in the video because to me its repetitive, loaded, and somewhat pseudo-intellectual. Typical, in my mind, of AI-generated psychology that is usually just a blend of published thoughts from real-world psychologists, repackaged into something that sounds deep without really saying very much. So is the the video in the OP

As for what I think of the general subject, Its the same for both men and women. I think people can live perfectly fulfilled lives alone or in relationships depending on their own personal circumstances, and depending on their own personality. There isn't a one size fits all with this type of thing, and therefore it can't be applied to everyone equally. Everyone wants something different from life.

The video seems less interested in understanding people, and more interested in stretching broad emotional statements into a long monologue.

It feels less like somebody genuinely expressing thoughts, and more like content assembled to maximise watch time.
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Could be to maximise watch time as most videos tend to be. But the emotional side of this for women is very much like what is described in this video.

I often look back at both marriages and wish I had stayed single to begin with. For me being able to manage to live alone and take care of myself and not NEEDING someone else has empowered me. I am certain if I allowed another man into my life I would be miserable again.

On the flip side there are folks who lose spouses and they just can't stand being without someone in their life. People hafta do what they hafta do. The problem is when people think they shouldn't manage without a man. I don't get it. What difference does it make if we take care of ourselves?
 
Magna-Carta said:
Its a bit challenging to formulate what is being said in the video because to me its repetitive, loaded, and somewhat pseudo-intellectual. Typical, in my mind, of AI-generated psychology that is usually just a blend of published thoughts from real-world psychologists, repackaged into something that sounds deep without really saying very much. So is the the video in the OP

As for what I think of the general subject, Its the same for both men and women. I think people can live perfectly fulfilled lives alone or in relationships depending on their own personal circumstances, and depending on their own personality. There isn't a one size fits all with this type of thing, and therefore it can't be applied to everyone equally. Everyone wants something different from life.

The video seems less interested in understanding people, and more interested in stretching broad emotional statements into a long monologue.

It feels less like somebody genuinely expressing thoughts, and more like content assembled to maximise watch time. And so rolls in the advertising revenue.
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There has been a recent rash of AI videos being targeted to older people and they all bring that same delivery. When you first watch them, they seem helpful and introspective but on second consideration you realize how vacuous they are. So by the time I watched this one, I was experienced enough to see it.
 
MarciKS said:
Could be to maximise watch time as most videos tend to be. But the emotional side of this for women is very much like what is described in this video.

I often look back at both marriages and wish I had stayed single to begin with. For me being able to manage to live alone and take care of myself and not NEEDING someone else has empowered me. I am certain if I allowed another man into my life I would be miserable again.

On the flip side there are folks who lose spouses and they just can't stand being without someone in their life. People hafta do what they hafta do. The problem is when people think they shouldn't manage without a man. I don't get it. What difference does it make if we take care of ourselves?
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Yeah. I'm more puzzled by the type of woman who exhibits a kind of clinginess that doesn't make sense. Someone like @hollydolly makes a lot of sense to me.
 
OldFeller said:
There has been a recent rash of AI videos being targeted to older people and they all bring that same delivery. When you first watch them, they seem helpful and introspective but on second consideration you realize how vacuous they are. So by the time I watched this one, I was experienced enough to see it.
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Likewise. And I think one of my earlier points was about it feeling like an AI video with no personality. Give me a real person with their own genuine thoughts. I don't even have to agree with them -- thatā€™s fine. But at least make it feel real.

Thereā€™s a difference between somebody expressing an actual viewpoint, shaped by their own experiences and personality, and something that feels algorithmically assembled from fragments of psychology articles, relationship discussions, and motivational content. As far as I'm aware, I don't think an AI model has actually ever been in a relationship.

The strange thing is that these videos often imitate depth rather than actually having it.

UPDATE: I suppose what I'm saying is, in summary, it's genuine insight from real people that i'm more interested in. Its a discussion forum after all. Not a dumping ground for AI.
 
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Magna-Carta said:
.... Everyone wants something different from life.

The video seems less interested in understanding people, and more interested in stretching broad emotional statements into a long monologue.

It feels less like somebody genuinely expressing thoughts, and more like content assembled to maximise watch time. And so rolls in the advertising revenue.
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I agree about the video, but I think everyone wants the same thing in life. Basically, anyway. And I'm talking about most people. We all want to be content. That looks different for one person than another, but not radically.

I mean aside from people with radical ideas or philosophies about what makes one feel content. Octomom, for example. :eek:
 
The growth of AI videos has been scary. I suspect these are originating in countries where there are some desperate people needing US dollars. Nigeria, North Korea, Cambodia, etc. You donā€™t need to speak English very well to make these, since the AI is reading from a script. But they are easy to spot if you look for a few things. AI tends to get hands and fingers wrong. Also, human movements are just off a tad. Backgrounds are too smooth. Also, sentences with numbers in them sound like a robot reading it. All of it gives that ā€œUncanny Valleyā€ feeling. And so many of them use that ā€œGeorge Clooneyā€ voice. The voice styles available are limited and one can start to recognize them after a while.
What I dislike though are the real content creators who use AI thumbnails. Thats just laziness. Greed and laziness.
 
Magna-Carta said:
Likewise. And I think one of my earlier points was about it feeling like an AI video with no personality. Give me a real person with their own genuine thoughts. I don't even have to agree with them -- thatā€™s fine. But at least make it feel real.

Thereā€™s a difference between somebody expressing an actual viewpoint, shaped by their own experiences and personality, and something that feels algorithmically assembled from fragments of psychology articles, relationship discussions, and motivational content. As far as I'm aware, I don't think an AI model has actually ever been in a relationship.

The strange thing is that these videos often imitate depth rather than actually having it.

UPDATE: I suppose what I'm saying is, in summary, it's genuine insight from real people that i'm more interested in. Its a discussion forum after all. Not a dumping ground for AI.
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True but, where do you think the AI gets its information from? Humans are the primary source of info for AI. So there really is genuine information in there. Not just made up willy nilly.
 
MarciKS said:
True but, where do you think the AI gets its information from? Humans are the primary source of info for AI. So there really is genuine information in there. Not just made up willy nilly.
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I get what you mean -- obviously AI has to get its information from somewhere, which is human-made, mostly, at the moment.

Here is the thing though, there is more and more AI content being added to the internet, writing and videos. Humans get things wrong, and we know that AI can too. We are already in a situation where AI isn't just looking at human content in the internet, its also looking at the mass of AI content, along with it's mistakes, inaccuracies, pseudo, and all. Then it regurgitates it, and so it goes on. AI training AI.
 
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MarciKS said:
@StarSong... I don't know about Holly's situation but, my father seems convinced I need someone in my life to help take care of me. Like I'm supposed to go running out the door looking for a 3rd husband to take care of me when I'm older and need help. Why on earth would I wanna do that? If I can't take care of myself so be it. But I'm not gonna look for a man just because my father thinks I NEED one. Mom did the same thing telling me I needed a man. Why? What's wrong with being alone and being happy?

Some people really believe that a woman isn't complete without a man. I couldn't be happier at the moment. I can live for myself and not hafta spend all my time tryna make someone else happy while I get neglected. Not angry just sayin. ;)
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Really? My mom and dad were like: For goodness sakes stay alone. My son: Mom you have a horrible taste in men. Give us a break and stay single. We don't want a man here with a new set of rules.

After the last creep who was so creepy that my dad walked away and ate pizza alone at the couch, he couldn't pretend anymore and play nice, oh lol he said: Are you another one of these jerks who's after her money? Gotta love Dutch directness. People warned me and sent me a pic of him and his other gf in Indonesia. He went to her with my money and gave her my phone.

When I broke up my dad said: No wonder you always come home with weirdo's. You're not attractive. Thanks m8. You have 3 small kids, an ex. No normal man wants that. Oh you mean that. Yeah I guess you're right. There were 2 decent guys with a job who showed interest though, but I didn't want to ruin their life and warned em to go find someone without kids and without an ex.

Now I'm happy. I just went to the pet shop, paid 30 euro and bought Flip. Give him a bag of hay and he's happy. The kids love him. He doesn't whine when it's a mess. He attacks me when I want to clean his mess.
 
hollydolly said:
for me it's nothing to do with that...

I just personally at this time in my life prefer to live alone, and not have to answer to anyone else as to why or what I might be doing..or to consider another person before I do anything.. I've done that for all of my life until the last few years... I'm 71 years old...time for ME time... ..
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My post was a bit tongue in cheek as they say. No one needs to explain why they prefer to live alone, we get to decide what's best for ourself, and living alone lets you make those choices.

I'm a good person to live with but the truth is living with someone is hard on me personally, I'll spare you the explanation. It took me a long time to realize that. I may be a man but my reasons for living alone likely aren't much different than yours Holly, or so different than anyone who chooses to live alone.
 
Messy said:
Really? My mom and dad were like: For goodness sakes stay alone. My son: Mom you have a horrible taste in men. Give us a break and stay single. We don't want a man here with a new set of rules.
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As a young child, my dad, family relatives, friends of the family at gatherings, would say to me, "Don't ever get married, stay single."
 
MarciKS said:
@StarSong... I don't know about Holly's situation but, my father seems convinced I need someone in my life to help take care of me. Like I'm supposed to go running out the door looking for a 3rd husband to take care of me when I'm older and need help. Why on earth would I wanna do that? If I can't take care of myself so be it. But I'm not gonna look for a man just because my father thinks I NEED one. Mom did the same thing telling me I needed a man. Why? What's wrong with being alone and being happy?

Some people really believe that a woman isn't complete without a man. I couldn't be happier at the moment. I can live for myself and not hafta spend all my time tryna make someone else happy while I get neglected. Not angry just sayin. ;)
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ooh... I don't think i would react well to being told that. regardless of being a man or a woman.
 
C50 said:
My post was a bit tongue in cheek as they say. No one needs to explain why they prefer to live alone, we get to decide what's best for ourself, and living alone lets you make those choices.

I'm a good person to live with but the truth is living with someone is hard on me personally, I'll spare you the explanation. It took me a long time to realize that. I may be a man but my reasons for living alone likely aren't much different than yours Holly, or so different than anyone who chooses to live alone.
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I think this is one of the most important points made so far. Non of us have to justify the chooses made regarding this type of thing. By all means, with close friends at least, an explanation could be fine. But to justify, and defend, no.
 
MarciKS said:
I love it when people ignore me. It's faaaaaaantastic.


Anyway, Magna I fail to see where the misinformation was in that video but regardless...thanks for the discussion. :)
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Who is ignoring you? Could you be interpreting what might be people just trying to keep up -- 68 posts so far. There is more that one person here after all, with a few tangents, and a lot to potentially things to respond to from others. Responses don't need to be immediate. Nor should there be an expectation of such -- that would be rude.

And then, some here might have other things to deal with outside of the forum, so will have to come back later.
 
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Magna-Carta said:
Who is ignoring you? Could you be interpreting what might be people just trying to keep up -- 68 posts so far. There is more that one person here after all, with a few tangents, and a lot to potentially things to respond to from others. Responses don't need to be immediate. Nor should there be an expectation of such -- that would be rude.

And then, some here might have other things to deal with outside of the forum, so will have to come back later.
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Yes, I have been in and out.
 
There was a time when a woman couldn't get a credit card. Her salary and chances for advamcement were slim compared to his. My employer paid for college courses for the guys but I was told "No,you are just going to get married". It sounded more like an order tham a prediction.
 
My brother always stayed single. I was so jealous of him after my 2nd divorce. He just chills and does what he wants. He's friendly, shy, so what he attracted were domineering women who tried to boss him around. LOL His former boss said he had to go out with his daughter and he couldn't say no.

He got stuck between the door and the plants, trying to be a gentleman and keeping the door open for her. She just ordered something to drink herself. When he said he was not interested she said it was his task to find someone else for her. Unbelievable. Then that former boss wanted him to date another one, cause he had a load of daughters, but he could say no. He said to me: I'm so used to being alone. I couldn't live with someone now. I can't anymore either. You get so used to your freedom.
 
Messy said:
My brother always stayed single. I was so jealous of him after my 2nd divorce. He just chills and does what he wants. He's friendly, shy, so what he attracted were domineering women who tried to boss him around. LOL His former boss said he had to go out with his daughter and he couldn't say no.

He got stuck between the door and the plants, trying to be a gentleman and keeping the door open for her. She just ordered something to drink herself. When he said he was not interested she said it was his task to find someone else for her. Unbelievable. Then that former boss wanted him to date another one, cause he had a load of daughters, but he could say no. He said to me: I'm so used to being alone. I couldn't live with someone now. I can't anymore either. You get so used to your freedom.
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I think this is it with this type of thing, most of us humans seem to think that most of everyone else has got it better. A single person my think that married people have it better, and vise versa.

There is a hell of a lot for potential 'better' in both circumstances. And some might have experienced both and neither has been any better for them. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. What might be 'greener' is how we see and interpret our own thoughts and experiences of it all. The 'greener' side could just be about how we recognizes our personal situations, what we can hold on to and learn from, and how we allow or dismiss those things that can or have affected us.

Sometimes, i just smile at the not so good past experiences.
 
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