The Worst Thing to Happen to Me Today

DebraMae said:
My dad was like that. It is common in people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
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the things is people often ask me if my soon2Bx is a nnarcassist... I never saw what Iunderstand to be narcassitic tendencies in him.....

However he was etremely self centered ( is ).. and never..ever takes responsibility for his own actions.. if he choked on his own food it would be the faukt of the person who cooked it,..if he knocked someone down in his car..it would be the vctimss' fault, and or the person who asked him to go to the store for example..

he starts the problem.. then if a person retaliates .. then it's the victims fault...
 

hollydolly said:
the things is people often ask me if my soon2Bx is a nnarcassist... I never saw what Iunderstand to be narcassitic tendencies in him.....

However he was etremely self centered ( is ).. and never..ever takes responsibility for his own actions.. if he choked on his own food it would be the faukt of the person who cooked it,..if he knocked someone down in his car..it would be the vctimss' fault, and or the person who asked him to go to the store for example..

he starts the problem.. then if a person retaliates .. then it's the victims fault...
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You pretty much described some to the traits of someone with NPD
 

hollydolly said:
yes but the big difference is..he never tells anyone what to do.. he never talks over anyone and he never looks for the limelight... which is archetypal NPD
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Hmmmm, maybe he gets some benefit from that. One of the first things people usually say when meeting someone with NPD is they are "charming". Seriously, you will hear the word charming come up often about someone with NPD.
 
DebraMae said:
Hmmmm, maybe he gets some benefit from that. One of the first things people usually say when meeting someone with NPD is they are "charming". Seriously, you will hear the word charming come up often about someone with NPD.
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he's very charming... even at the checkout he will hold the gaze of the cashier or the waitress..or barmaid ( always irritating to me ) .. but he's quiet.. he doesn't talk much he's not loud like all narcs that I've ever known...
 
Rae said:
Yes, I decided to use garden gloves when out watering the Gardenia plant and picking up small branches. Yesterday I must have hit my arm on a slanted door handle as it punctured my arm. You are so nice, thank you.
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I suffer from this same issue. The slightest scrape or bump will cause a bruise at minimum, more often I end up bleeding. The doc said it's due to old age causing my skin to weaken and get thinner, combined with blood thinners (cholesterol drugs). It's not normally painful but it's incredibly annoying.
 
hollydolly said:
he's very charming... even at the checkout he will hold the gaze of the cashier or the waitress..or barmaid ( always irritating to me ) .. but he's quiet.. he doesn't talk much he's not loud like all narcs that I've ever known...
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A personality disorder is not the same thing as just being a narcissist. We all have narcisistic behaviors but the person with NPD doesn't look at all like the loud guy at the pub being obnoxious. The person with NPD will never change, it will just get worse. It is a very complicated disorder and they say you should not go to a therapist who does not have specific training in the disorder. That would do more harm than good. You will never win with this guy. They are kind of pathetic when you start to understand their motivation. Think about yourself hollydolly, and do what is right for you - please.
 
This hasn't happened yet, but it will today: I have to cancel my health insurance for the third year in a row. I'm self-employed and just can't afford the premiums, even on the marketplace. The lack of insurance makes my anxiety skyrocket. One of the reasons I can't afford insurance, ironically, is that I'm in a lot of debt from cataract surgery I had a few years ago. I had to put it—ugh—on a credit card.

It's so hard to stay afloat.
 
You know, it's nice when I really have to wrack my brain for a worst thing. :)

Worst thing was probably husband and boyfriend being at work at the same time. But really, I was fine in my own company. It's nice to have time on my own. Okay well, son and daughter were here, but doing their own things.
 
Learned a neighbour had passed away a week or two ago. Guess news doesn’t travel too fast in this subdivision. They had just moved in a few months ago and had the place redone with new floors, fresh paint, etc. Too bad she never got to enjoy it. Now he’s alone in a large, empty house.

Adding: they were both in their 80s, so a new house didn’t seem logical.
 
hollydolly said:
I was pretty poorly again for the first half of the day...well more than half..right up until late afternoon....

Did too much too early yesterday I think
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I hope you're feeling better now, @hollydolly.

Today started out OK but quickly deteriorated. For one thing, I completely smashed one of my side view mirrors when I pulled out of the garage too quickly. Ugh! (I hate when there's nobody to blame but myself. ;) )

It just turned out to be a crappy day overall. I'm actually heading to bed.

Here's hoping tomorrow will be better and I can post something cheerful.
 
KSav said:
I hope you're feeling better now, @hollydolly.

Today started out OK but quickly deteriorated. For one thing, I completely smashed one of my side view mirrors when I pulled out of the garage too quickly. Ugh! (I hate when there's nobody to blame but myself. ;) )

It just turned out to be a crappy day overall. I'm actually heading to bed.

Here's hoping tomorrow will be better and I can post something cheerful.
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thanks feeling better but still not right unfortunately... however smashed mirrors ..not good... I hope you're not superstitious... 🤞
 
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If the phone numbers aren't in my list, I don't answer either. Big 100 mile + circle of Cities here.
Tons of Scam and BS Junk calls, many blocked too. Calls from places I never been too.
 
I thawed one mozzarella stick (I made several from melted shredded mozzarella) to have as a snack. The container I had it in was open on the counter. My son's coffee and tea boxes from the third shelf above that area of the counter suddenly fell down. That never happened before. The boxes knocked my cheese on the floor. I was going to have it with a couple of crackers. I had Ritz and cream cheese instead.
 
Jules said:
Learned a neighbour had passed away a week or two ago. Guess news doesn’t travel too fast in this subdivision. They had just moved in a few months ago and had the place redone with new floors, fresh paint, etc. Too bad she never got to enjoy it. Now he’s alone in a large, empty house.

Adding: they were both in their 80s, so a new house didn’t seem logical.
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You didn't have any contact with them (him)? It would be insightful for all of us to know how he is coping.
 

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