Things I've Learned

Something I've learned...but forgotten....too many times;

I get easily caught up into an argument fray

Its a bit of a trap (I love it so)

Thing is
Folks....mean folks...are lacking
Lacking love, compassion, caring, kindness

Sharing, giving love to these folks oftentimes seems fruitless

I don't mean doting, or complimenting
I mean basic kindness....genuine

Seems to bounce off 'em
When, in fact, they are sponges
Can't soak it up fast enough
Its not readily evident
Sometimes it takes years....even a lifetime to fill that void
But
Its not a waste
Never a waste
 

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Gary O' said:
Something I've learned...but forgotten....too many times;

I get easily caught up into an argument fray

Its a bit of a trap (I love it so)

Thing is
Folks....mean folks...are lacking
Lacking love, compassion, caring, kindness

Sharing, giving love to these folks oftentimes seems fruitless

I don't mean doting, or complimenting
I mean basic kindness....genuine

Seems to bounce off 'em
When, in fact, they are sponges
Can't soak it up fast enough
Its not readily evident
Sometimes it takes years....even a lifetime to fill that void
But
Its not a waste
Never a waste
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My mother often told me that kindness is never wasted.
 
sometimes kindness can feel like a waste when you're giving it to people who don't know how to accept it because they're so full of hate. it's sad.

hi Gary. hope you're doing well.
 
Experience is a strict teacher, as Gary O' says. Yet, we are lousy students of life. When we were young others pleaded with us to amend our ways, and to avail ourselves to their history, and experience. So, we ignored them, went our own way, then regretfully we came to the same truths, after many errors. What is worse, our life's experiences are ignored by the young, flailing away on the road to their search for truth.
 
HipGnosis said:
I learned from TV and movies that children and hookers are the most honest people. Maybe the only honest ones.
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"Not necessarily so" I'd guess, (oops, I've been taken in by your ironic post! :) )!
Who are the "most honest ones" I wonder?

The old line about "Not believing anything I hear, and only half I see" jumps to mind, as to the level of scepticism often needed, (though I don't really believe it, "ironically"!). :)
 
Gary O' said:
I recently found out something about myself
I don't miss anybody
Not friends
Not family
Not anybody that's passed

I feel a bit odd about that
Like, maybe I'm lacking a gene or hormone
I see threads where someone posts how much they miss someone
I'm not there....can't get there

I do think about folks
…..and write about 'em
I sometimes even talk about missing someone.....but, really....I don't

Can't say I ever have....ever

Am I the lone duck on this?
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We certainly miss you if you don't post anything for a while, a recent thread being ample evidence for this, (apologies for taking years to respond to your original comment btw!).
 
OneHalf said:
Never let an opportunity to express your love for friends or family pass without expressing that love in some way. A kiss good night or good bye. A hug. Telling them you love them on the phone or before they go out the door. You never know, young or old, when you may get that chance again.
I have lost too many, too soon to let any opportunity pass.
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Doing plenty of loving is good advice all around! :)
 
One thing (100 yr old )my father told me told me,,,"Do the best you can."

Shortly after that he fell & broke his hip,, didn't live much longer after that.

Yes, that's when the thoughts of ,"IF I had done this differently , he would have lived to seen 101 ."
Or I wasn't a good daughter thoughts strike .

At my age you really realize ,,'life happens & we have little or no control over the out come.'

Its not one day or minute at a time but 1 second,, that may change life as we know it.
 
Sliverfox said:
One thing (100 yr old )my father told me told me,,,"Do the best you can."

Shortly after that he fell & broke his hip,, didn't live much longer after that.

Yes, that's when the thoughts of ,"IF I had done this differently , he would have lived to seen 101 ."
Or I wasn't a good daughter thoughts strike .

At my age you really realize ,,'life happens & we have little or no control over the out come.'

Its not one day or minute at a time but 1 second,, that may change life as we know it.
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i mostly agree, except that i think what control we can exert is worth the effort. Mainly because what we do have control over is how we respond to difficulties, how we can mold initial in the moment seemingly overwhelming feelings into lessons learned without berating ourselves for anything we view as mistakes that led to the difficulty. Blame, except where the person responsible can actually fix the problem or prevent a repeat of the mistake, is a fruitless endeavor--that includes blaming self for things that might really have been up to someone else.

Totally agree with last sentence, much experience with those life-changing seconds. They served to make me more adaptable, because much we try we can not prepare for every option so we have to stay quick-witted and mentally flexible enough to shift gears and deal with uphill climbs as they come along.
 
MarciKS said:
sometimes kindness can feel like a waste when you're giving it to people who don't know how to accept it because they're so full of hate. it's sad.

hi Gary. hope you're doing well.
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IMO, Kindness is never wasted. Firstly because of what Gary said, that we often don't know what impact our kind behaviors or words have had on others. i have felt truly the blessed the handful times i found out (in one case over a year later) how something i said or did had helped someone else despite how it seemed at the time. Secondly because there are studies that show that being kind, 'doing good' actually has health benefits for the kind do-gooder.
 
feywon said:
Totally agree with last sentence, much experience with those life-changing seconds. They served to make me more adaptable, because much we try we can not prepare for every option so we have to stay quick-witted and mentally flexible enough to shift gears and deal with uphill climbs as they come along.
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I learned this lesson many times when living in the mountains at our off grid cabin
One prepares, best they can
Increase the odds of survival
Stlll.....things happen
Nature has a way of changing one's plans, priorities

One day yer feeling snug as a bug

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Next day, yer digging out

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