Those who were bullied in school

[Jazzy1]

Why were you bullied and what made it stop?

 

[Pinky]

I was bullied by a girl who had no friends. One day, she cornered me in the gym locker-room. When I asked her why she was picking on me, she said "I have no friends" .. so, I said "I'll be your friend". That's all it took for her stop.

 

[Rakaia]

I was taught boxing...

 

[Oldeagle66]

I was bullied probably because I was skinny. I came home crying and was told not to come home crying again, and go back and fight. I did.....and didn't exactly win, but the bullying stopped and one bully even became a good friend.

 

[stephenPE]

I was not bullied but I despise bullies. I tried to be vigilant as a teacher for that behavior. I think teachers and admins need to be more visible at schools especially when classes change. But now this online bullying is insane from what I hear. My little brother and I took out a bully one time at my uncles house. He would bully kids at the park. Flynn Moody. My uncle was so happy about it....His kids had to put up with the boy.....

 

[jimintoronto]

It took 45 years, but I finally got to urinate on the grave of the guy who bullied me in high school. George Semenko died an alcoholic nobody, after a life as a motorcycle gang member and habitual criminal. I happened to see his newspaper obituary with the details of his burial location. JIMB.

 

[officerripley]

I think the main reason I was bullied because I was a poor kid living amongst rich kids. the only thing that stopped it was I moved grew up and moved out of the area

 

[Pepper]

I was never bullied in my life. I'm afraid, if I need an aid, that she will bully me. I've seen this countless times. I'm afraid of being bullied now that I'm old and feel more helpless. I was always tough, don't know how I got myself so weak.

 

[Tom52]

I was rarely the target of a bully. When faced with confrontation it would usually result in a fist fight on the way home after school. My Dad told me early on to stand up to bullies, fight if you have to but don't back down. Win or lose the bully usually moved on to somebody that would not stand up to them.

I was fortunate that I tried to be friendly to all, so not many ever had a problem with me.

 

[MoBeans]

I grew up in a decaying urban part of the city. Got into my share of fights, which I never started, but gave as good as I got. They stopped when my parents joined the white flight to the suburbs when I was in the 6th grade. By then I was taller than most kids and looked like someone not to be messed with. I was a gentle giant though....lol

 

[officerripley]

It's too bad that seems to be the only solution to bullying that's ever offered is to physically fight back. Always with the violence.

 

[Rae]

I was bullied by a boy in school when I was about 12, he would try to run me over with his bike. My brother confronted him and threatened him and he quit. However, I met him as a teenager at a dance and he asked me to dance and said he only bullied me because he liked me.

 

[hollydolly]

As a small child I was bullied at school because I was a pauper kid.. I had a school uniform, but my shoes were tatty, my coat was the same.. I never got to go on school trips etc..........I was small for my age ... all the usual reasons kids get bullied.. at Primary school

I had brothers so I learned to fight.....

At age 12 in the first year of senior school, I was confronted by the older big bully, and her gang, ... everyone knew there was going to be a fight after school finished, and behind the bike sheds.. I knew that if I lost this fight, my life for the rest of my time in senior school would be hell.. she was hard faced, foul mouthed, and with a gang of mates the same.. even tho' they were only 14...

So... I fought like a champion boxer, and beat the crap out of her..

her gang at the beginning of the fight, were getting their little kicks into me as we both rolled around like animals ... until it was obvious BIG bully was losing.. then they all stood back , and watched....

By the time I let go of her I was exhausted but she was beaten to a pulp..her hair was everywhere on the concrete of the bike sheds... and I never got another bully come near me the whole rest of my time at school...


When my DD was still in primary school I sent her to self defence classes, just in case she ever became a victim of bullying.. and she ultimately in her 20's became a Champion Kick Boxer...

 

[officerripley]

I'm afraid, if I need an aid, that she will bully me. I've seen this countless times. I'm afraid of being bullied now that I'm old and feel more helpless.

I'm afraid of that too. I think that's why we're seeing more and more elderly who are unhoused; for too many elderly their only other option is to be in a facility (either shelter or skilled nursing) where they might well be bullied. Very sad and scary..

 

[Marcy Sheiner]

Why do you assume it stopped?LOL

 

[Marcy Sheiner]

Actually, I only remember one time of being bullied. I was 13 or 14, walking home from school bus, and this complete stranger got in my face with cursing and threats. But nothing came of it, except I was terrified to ever walk on that street again.

 

[Veronica]

I experienced bullying in school because of my height. Back then it seemed to be par for the course.
Didnt help that I was poor and skinny and had big feet.
And also got better grades than all the boys.
Boy I wish I was that thin again. But I digress.

No body beat me up. Just a lot of snide remarks and ostracizing. The usual stuff.
Didnt date. All the boys my height preferred the short girls and considered me unfeminine.
I did my own thing and never let it bother me. Participated in all the usual nerdy stuff.
Chess, debate, student council etc. That probably didnt help either.

There was no resolution. No angsty apologies. Im still me and theyre still them.
One of the benefits of being an only child and an introvert. Im perfectly comfortable with my own company.
If youre going to act like that I dont want you for a friend anyways. I have never understood why people suck up to people who treat them badly.

I still get crap. I was at Home Depot loading blocks in the back of my minivan and some old biddy called me an Amazon. #WTH.

 

[hollydolly]

I experienced bullying in school because of my height. Back then it seemed to be par for the course.
Didnt help that I was poor and skinny and had big feet.
And also got better grades than all the boys.
Boy I wish I was that thin again. But I digress.

No body beat me up. Just a lot of snide remarks and ostracizing. The usual stuff.
Didnt date. All the boys my height preferred the short girls and considered me unfeminine.
I did my own thing and never let it bother me. Participated in all the usual nerdy stuff.
Chess, debate, student council etc. That probably didnt help either.

There was no resolution. No angsty apologies. Im still me and theyre still them.
One of the benefits of being an only child and an introvert. Im perfectly comfortable with my own company.
If youre going to act like that I dont want you for a friend anyways. I have never understood why people suck up to people who treat them badly.

My thoughts exactly, I would never suck up or be friends with anyone who has either bullied, or attemped to bully me ..in any way... never would I have a friend that has that mind set.. and when I've had friends and discovered that they have that bully mindset, I drop them like hot bricks...

I am very capable of looking after myself as an adult...probably too much tbh... and I don't stand for bullying in any of its forms,.. so anyone who tries bullying me comes out the loser every time...

 

[KSav]

I was bullied, for being a nerd and a "priss," according to my bully, a girl in my class. She and her cronies made my life miserable for several years in middle school and the first two years of high school. It was never anything physical, just mocking comments that made me feel like crap. I never fought back (i.e., verbally). I probably should have. I didn't have any parental support at home, so at the time I just suffered through it.

My self-esteem grew by leaps and bounds after I got into my late teens, but I still have a level of hate for that girl.

 

[officerripley]

Why do you assume it stopped?LOL

That's actually a fear I have of when I'm in the nursing home, the staff and other residents will be like the mean girls in school.

 

[officerripley]

I still get crap. I was at Home Depot loading blocks in the back of my minivan and some old biddy called me an Amazon. #WTH.

So she didn't say it admiringly then? If I said it, it def would be admiringly; I hate being short; I'd've loved to have been an Amazon.

This thread has just now reminded me of something; science and science fiction writer Isaac Asimov said he was appearing somewhere sometime after he'd become famous and a male former classmate came up to him and apologized for being a bully to him back in the day. Asimov said he truthfully said to him along the lines of, "No need to apologize, I guess I never noticed your bullying because frankly I never noticed you that much since you bored me." That seemed to depress the bully. Saying something like that (truthful or not) wouldn;t work in every situation of course, but might be tempting.

 

[Veronica]

I was bullied, for being a nerd and a "priss," according to my bully, a girl in my class. She and her cronies made my life miserable for several years in middle school and the first two years of high school. It was never anything physical, just mocking comments that made me feel like crap. I never fought back (i.e., verbally). I probably should have. I didn't have any parental support at home, so at the time I just suffered through it.

My self-esteem grew by leaps and bounds after I got into my late teens, but I still have a level of hate for that girl.

I dont know why people do that. My thoughts are that its a flaw in their character.
My bullies were never successful. I never fought back but thats because I didnt care. And still dont.

Im glad you got your self esteem back. You really shouldnt hate that girl though.
Shes unimportant and youre giving her space when she doesnt deserve it.
Theres nothing wrong with being a nerd. Never been able to pull off being a. "priss".
When youre my size people will give you the side eye.

 

[Dave03]

I never got bullied. I did, however, get suspended for punching a bully in the smoking area after he hit a freshman with a snowball.

 

[KSav]

I dont know why people do that. My thoughts are that its a flaw in their character.
My bullies were never successful. I never fought back but thats because I didnt care. And still dont.

Im glad you got your self esteem back. You really shouldnt hate that girl though.
Shes unimportant and youre giving her space when she doesnt deserve it.
Theres nothing wrong with being a nerd. Never been able to pull off being a. "priss".
When youre my size people will give you the side eye.

You're right, @Veronica! I shouldn't give her any space in my head. I don't think of her often—almost never, actually, only when something prompts a memory, like this thread.

I was too unhappy of a teenager to muster the spunk to stand up for myself. At my age, though, and after the stuff I've been through, I'd confront a bully in a second.

You sound like you had a healthier attitude!

 

[Veronica]

So she didn't say it admiringly then? If I said it, it def would be admiringly; I hate being short; I'd've loved to have been an Amazon.

This thread has just now reminded me of something; science and science fiction writer Isaac Asimov said he was appearing somewhere sometime after he'd become famous and a male former classmate came up to him and apologized for being a bully to him back in the day. Asimov said he truthfully said to him along the lines of, "No need to apologize, I guess I never noticed your bullying because frankly I never noticed you that much since you bored me." That seemed to depress the bully. Saying something like that (truthful or not) wouldn;t work in every situation of course, but might be tempting.

It wasnt admiringly.
I considered acting surprised and saying "Dang there really are Trolls and they speak."
But I remembered my manners and behaved myself.

Asimov is one of my favorite science fiction authors. I can totally see him saying that. I feel the same way about bullies.