Two people I knew passed last week

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One was a next door neighbor in the house in which I grew up. Understandable since she was 87. The other was one of my high school classmates, who had just turned 65 in September. I believe the cause was some internal organ failure. Always depressing to hear of someone around my age passing.
 

Yes it is depressing Deb, but happening all the time. Eleven years ago my neighbor died and he was the same age as me at the time, 53. You never know when your number will be coming up, I'm grateful to be alive now at the age of 64, some of my close relatives never made it that far.
 
I think of that alot .... I'm 63 .....my best friend died at 62 and her husband at 63. That was the wake up call I needed to take better care of myself .
 

On Thanksgiving I was thinking about past holiday get-togethers with friends and the fact that I'm the only one still living.

It sort of reminds me of Agatha Christie's And Then There Were None!

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I'm not really concerned about how long I live as long as I'm still in pretty good shape when I die, LOL!!!

For me dying would be much better than languishing in the corner of some extended care facility.
 
I go to bed every night thinking I may not wake up come morning. But I've been thinking that for many years. Suppose I'll be surprised one of these days when I least expect it, when the grim reaper says, "Gotche."
 
Sorry Deb. It hurts to lose people. As we get older, it just makes us aware of our own mortality.
 
It only gets worse, Deb. Last year, I lost four friends. For those of us lucky enough to live to a ripe old age, that's part of the picture.

Although we mourn their loss and miss them, it's probably best to try to step back and see it all as part of the big picture. What else can we do?
 
This is not a topic to ponder during the holidays. Actually, I question the need to ponder it at all? We come in to this world knowing we have to go back out, so why not make the best of the time we're here. Do the things you enjoy doing, taking better care of yourself only makes sense if it is intended to enable one to do the things they enjoy doing. You can feel perfectly fine and still cross the rainbow bridge. So, my Friends, Live, Love and Laugh till your hearts content. The grim reaper will find you when it's time...
 
I lost several girlfriends at a very young age. It is depressing. My kids are settled in their lives and happy which was my only wish so I don't want to be the last man standing. It can be very lonely.
 
Macfan said:
This is not a topic to ponder during the holidays. Actually, I question the need to ponder it at all? We come in to this world knowing we have to go back out, so why not make the best of the time we're here. Do the things you enjoy doing, taking better care of yourself only makes sense if it is intended to enable one to do the things they enjoy doing. You can feel perfectly fine and still cross the rainbow bridge. So, my Friends, Live, Love and Laugh till your hearts content. The grim reaper will find you when it's time...
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Hard not to have these thoughts cross your mind when your friends and acquaintances are dropping like flies around you, though. I just try not to dwell on it.
 
Butterfly said:
Hard not to have these thoughts cross your mind when your friends and acquaintances are dropping like flies around you, though. I just try not to dwell on it.
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I agree, Butterfly, I see no good coming from dwelling on the inevitable. Live each day to the fullest and enjoy all life has to offer while we're here :love_heart:.
 
Butterfly stated;
"Hard not to have these thoughts cross your mind when your friends and acquaintances are dropping like flies around you, though. I just try not to dwell on it. "

I think you hit the nail on the head. It's not that folks are worrying about their own demise. It is the loss of longtime friends. Not those that you've recently met in a senior compound or some such place but friends from you childhood or young adult days. At 84 I have exactly one old friend left, that I see on a semi-regular basis. He was my "best man" at my wedding and we get together for breakfast every month or so.

Truthfully, surrounded by our family group, neither my wife nor I seek out new friends at this stage in life. I imagine, for those without close families nearby, it's a different story.
 
Death has no set schedule so living each day to the fullest in what ever way works for each person is the only way to think. Doesn't hurt to realize the inevitable and make arrangements to ease the grief of those left behind. Once that is out of the way peace of mind is a benefit not often thought about.


One thing we did in planning our retirement was to buy a home in a residential area that had a mix of ages & ethnic makeup. Reason to avoid a senior only retirement community.


In a closed community like that there are way more people you get to know that pass away, and that is depressing.
 

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