Valentine's Day.........Love It Or Hate It???

ClassicRockr

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Yep, one of those days, like New Year's Eve, that many singles detest and wish just wouldn't happen. I really felt that way when I was single.

Now, that I'm married, LOVE those days! Yes, the cute Valentine's Day card, little Valentine's Day gift for my wife, Red Roses and dinner out makes the day.

Now, the solution to disliking-to-hating it.........find someone to celebrate it with! Or, should I say, "If I can do it (which I FINALLY did), you can do it!"
 

My daughter was born on Valentine's Day. I thought that was pretty great.

But it didn't take long for her to grow sick of the red gifts and Valentine cards and people exclaiming over her "good luck".
Now no one dares equate her birthday and Valentine's Day. A Valentine's card is okay. But separate completely from the real occasion ... her birthday.

Don't blame her.

Have a grand-daughter who was born on July 4th. She's getting a bit sick of the routine as well.

Rocky
 

I neither love it nor hate it. When we were first married, it wasn't done by anyone we knew [Valentine's Day being for singles.]So we have never bothered with cards and the whole chocs/roses thing.We have our wedding anniversary for all of that.
 
When I was young (I was young once), I bought my wife a beautiful dress and candy and roses on our first Valentine day. She never wore the dress. I was married to her for fourteen years and never tried to buy her clothes again. My now wife and I have been married 42 years and I bought her several things to wear for Valentines day, she wore them all. I don't know if she liked them or didn't want to hurt my feelings but either way I love her for being who and how she is.
 
We still "celebrate" it but not so much the way we used to anymore. Ever since our first Valentine`s Day together,there was flowers and candy and dinner out. But dinner out became a daily routine during the 18 years we were commuting a long distance and we got tired of paying inflated prices for mediocre meals and rushed,inattentive service. So we tend to cook at home now and go out the following night. Truth is though,pretty much every day is Valentine`s Day around here. My husband is a mushy,romantic kind of guy.
 
The second time I married my first wife, which happens more than I thought, was on Valentine's Day at a Wedding Chapel off of a freeway in So Calif.. Before the next Valentine's Day happened (following year), she left me w/our 7 month old daughter. Valentine's Day that year was fairly emotional for me, but I got over it the day after. Was going to drop a nice Valentine's Day card off at her parents house, where she was staying, but found out from her mom (over the phone) that she was seeing someone else. Her mom said to me "I wouldn't if I were you! You know that you two married more for physical attraction than love." After thinking about it, her mom was absolutely right. I had no problem signing the divorce papers!
 
That's the way it is for us as well! (In red below)

We still "celebrate" it but not so much the way we used to anymore. Ever since our first Valentine`s Day together,there was flowers and candy and dinner out. But dinner out became a daily routine during the 18 years we were commuting a long distance and we got tired of paying inflated prices for mediocre meals and rushed,inattentive service. So we tend to cook at home now and go out the following night. Truth is though,pretty much every day is Valentine`s Day around here. My husband is a mushy,romantic kind of guy.
 
It's a bittersweet day for me. We were married on Valentine's Day. This year would have been our 26th anniversary; he died three weeks before our 20th.

That's gotta be extra tough GeorgiaX, sorry for your loss....hugs. :rose:

When we were younger, my husband would get me a card and flowers, etc. But I told him long ago that wasn't necessary, like other holidays, IMO, they are just ways for corporations to rake in more money. They've invented all kinds of 'holidays' over the years, secretaries day, etc.

We show each other our love every day of the year, don't need a special holiday reminder.
 
My Valentine daughter will be 56 years old on that day, how can that possibly be?

Isn`t that the truth,Lon! My niece is 56 as well,and is very ill with cancer. Currently hospitalized,waiting for a bed to open up at Stanford Hospital where she will have surgery (again). I think of her constantly but it`s so hard to get the picture out of my mind of her as my very own perfect little babydoll that Santa brought me when I was 8. I might even concede to her being 30-after all,she does have 5 kids- but 56??? No way.
 
I hate Valentines Day since my husband died. He always bought me a big box of chocolates.I send Grandchildren Valentines emails and that helps get through the day.

I hear that Linda.
As time has passed I've began to hate it less. Now I just dislike it.
Hang in there
 
We don't spend the money anymore. My hubs is not an old romantic.
We did get married on the 4th of July. Thought that would make a difference somehow, it didn't. We do go out to dinner however.

And my sons? LOL, they do not want a V-card from the mom....been told not to send anymore.
 
Love that chocolate - good to stock up after valentine's day to enjoy before the easter bunny arrives.

Welcome back April, glad you had a good time.:)
 
I think it would be awesome to have a mate to have Valentines day with:) I would do it up right with special dinner, or out to dinner, and definitely a card saying "will you keep on being my valentine":)
 
From reading the comments, it sounds like whether you like Valentine's Day or not depends on your marital status. I'm divorced, and I hate the day because it reminds me of what I don't have. The same seems to be true for those who are widowed. It's too bad that advertisers don't think about the many people who are single, either their own choice, or someone else's, or by death.
 


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