Was watching Sister Wives. Just for fun,no judgement..could you live a polygamous life?

I have been divorced for a long time now and never re-married. During my single life I adopted a son and dated several men. Never even in my dating life has it ever crossed my mind to date more than one man at a time so I highly doubt I would do very well with more than one man in marriage.
 
I have never put any thought into it.....
The show sister wives seems the whole thing is falling apart and that guy looks creepy to me...I am not sure if it was the going so public with the situation that made it seem to go bad...
some of the wives said they did not have any relationship with the husband etc .... seems like it would be a recipe for disagreements and resentments.
I wonder how the kids feel growing up with all the step parents and half siblings.
 
The HBO series Big Love (https://www.hbo.com/big-love) was fictional, but it was a pretty accurate representation of some of the Polygamous sects in this area. Both the good and bad are shown. It was very well researched, most of what is shown actually happened in one way or another, just not to the fictional characters in the show. Even the relationships shown between the modern Mormon church and the polygamous sects was pretty accurate.

For anyone with an interest in the subject it is worth watching. It is also a pretty good story.
 
Used to be a running joke among my group of older, unattached female friends - a Husband 6-Pack that could be stored in the closet. Each of the 6 individuals had different talents .... one cleaned well, one was chef, one was good dancer, one movie-star handsome (arm candy), one chauffeur/errand boy and one a good lover. Take each out as needed and return to closet when done. Unfortunately not available at WallyWorld.

It was fun to rank new acquaintances in girls only sessions later.
 
I've mentioned this before. I was in a polygamous marriage but not like the one on Sister Wives. That show actually turned me off with the disrespect that I saw in one of the episodes. My husband had one other wife and we didn't all live in the same house. I stayed in the apartment I've owned since I was 24 years old, 20 years before I started seeing the man who was to become my husband. I never, repeat never would have married if the union was to be a "traditional" one. In fact, I said I'd never marry again after divorcing my first husband. I was a busy career woman with an aging mother and the arrangement worked perfectly for me. I'd read a few books about polygamy and one about man sharing which was not written by a Muslim. I realized that the practice is not as weird as I'd thought and that other career women found it to be a viable option to traditional marriage. I also realized from my work that many men cheat anyway and it's either justified somehow or swept under the rug. Being a wife/co-wife commands respect in Islam that mistresses don't get.

At first I kept the marriage secret (not supposed to in Islam). I loved him enough to take the step but I didn't know anyone else who had done it and thought we'd be shunned. Turns out my folks loved him and loved us as a couple. I later found out that my sister wife had actually suggested that if he took another wife, it should be me. Years before we finally got together, a good friend of mine who was his old army buddy and knew he had a wife, kept trying to hook us up. He said he noticed "sparks" when he first introduced us at my (future) husband's store and felt from that moment we should be together. I noticed no such sparks. Years later we got together on our own and there was quite a psychic element to it. That's a story in of itself so I might share that later.

My sister wife (SW) helped me with some of my projects, including getting labels and cover jacket ready for my demo tape and I helped them out with some of theirs. My husband was well known in town and always involved with some social or political events. SW and I eventually became friends and our families accepted and respected us and our arrangement. Her sisters invited us to their events (most of them sang in a group together) and one of them even took a day trip with my husband and I to his timeshare in Pennsylvania. My SW did not like to travel so accepted when our husband and I would take vacations, mostly one week at a time. Our families socialized together a few times.

I finally agreed to marry him after he'd been asking for about 3 years..the first year, literally daily. We took a road trip to S.C. then VA, where we married. Our marriage was a religious one, not a "legal" one. Muslims who enter into a religious marriage also have certificates of marriage but they are not issued by their states. The marriage satisfied all the Islamic requirements. two witnesses, one of whom was his best friend and were married by a Sheik my husband had known for years. The marriage took place in a masjid (mosque), which is not necessarily a requirement.
 
Can't understand why a woman would put herself in a subjugated, subservient position, from either a church or a dominating male.
Don't watch the show,, so my opinion is from supposition. Perhaps the women are weak and need someone to take care of them.
Don't understand this way of thinking.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
I've mentioned this before. I was in a polygamous marriage but not like the one on Sister Wives.
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Thanks Diva, that is interesting. Sounds like it worked for you!

In Saudi I met several men in polygamous relationships, but never a wife. That seemed to be a no no. I went to dinner at the house of one of the men once. It was a very nice multicourse meal, prepared by the wives. However we had to leave the room when they came in to serve, never saw them. Your relationship sounds very different.
 
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Have to say I do find it all too repulsive. Cannot understand the mentality of a woman these days agreeing to this sort of arrangement. Of course polygamy is illegal in the US, so there is basically no financially security for the woman.
I feel women with this mindset need counseling!
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Shero said:
Of course polygamy is illegal in the US, so there is basically no financially security for the woman.
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Yep, that is one of the reasons I believe it should be legal!
Shero said:
I feel women with this mindset need counseling!
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No doubt some do, but not all.

I have no desire for multiple wives, but I am careful not to judge the men and women who openly and as adults, enter into this kind of thing.
 
Shero said:
Have to say I do find it all too repulsive. Cannot understand the mentality of a woman these days agreeing to this sort of arrangement. Of course polygamy is illegal in th US, so there is basically no financially security for the woman.
I feel women with this mindset need counseling!
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It certainly is not for me also, but in Utah although it is still illegal it is no longer a felony. It is now considered an infraction. Somewhat like getting slapped with a traffic ticket.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I always think of dumb things. I've always, wondered about polygamy. If there's about an equal population of males, and females, and some males have a bunch of wives, that has to deplete the supply of eligible mates for a lot of males. Say 50 men & 50 women, and 10 guys have 4 wives, that leaves 40 guys to fight over 10 women. Somebody is getting screwed..........or not.
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In most of the Polygamist sects they chase off most of the young men, theres a group in Alberta that make every effort to help the teenage boys who have been thrown out of the local sect. They try to help them get an education, and jobs. That leaves the older (old) men in the sect to "marry" the teen girls!
 
mrstime said:
In most of the Polygamist sects they chase off most of the young men, theres a group in Alberta that make every effort to help the teenage boys who have been thrown out of the local sect. They try to help them get an education, and jobs. That leaves the older (old) men in the sect to "marry" the teen girls!
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Same here, the few men they allow to stay are the ones they know will tow the line.

They have to marry the girls young and get them pregnant as quickly as possible to make them stick around.

Awful thing, but not all polygamists are guilty of this. Too many however are.
 
This is part of the FLDS I was referring to. (Fundamentalist Latter Day Saints)

https://www.nelsonstar.com/news/witness-testifies-on-growing-up-in-polygamous-b-c-community/

Here is part of the article.

The only honourable way to leave the FLDS is to die and I’ve known that since I was a baby,” said a Crown witness, who asked not to be identified fearing reprisals from FLDS members.

She left the religion in seven years ago but still has family, including children, who remain in Bountiful.

“I knew there was no one in the world who could help me,” she said. “There wasn’t a lawyer, there wasn’t a policeman, there was no one that could help me leave Bountiful and still be able to have my children.”

Jim Oler, a former religious leader associated with Bountiful, is accused of removing his underage daughter from Canada in order to facilitate a marriage to an American member of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FLDS) in 2004.

The witness was born in community and raised in the FLDS doctrine, which included religious training in school, church and in the family home.

She said she was taught by religious leaders to fully obey the family priesthood head — her father as a girl, and her husband after she was married.
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