Lawrence00
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With my memory not as good as it was, if I had 30, every 30 days I would have forgotten even their names, and it would be like having a first date, every day of the week.
Not all the women are "weak" and "subjugated". In fact, for men who are following the Islamic guidance given, they treat their wives fairly, lovingly and with respect. They are advised to consult them when important decisions are to be made. I always was very independent and my husband didn't dare try to subjugate me. In fact, the friend that had tried hard to get us together told me after my husband died that he thinks he was afraid of me. LOL I think so too. He had told at least one of his sons, who told me later that he said...don't get my wife angry! He'd seen me in action when someone upset me.Can't understand why a woman would put herself in a subjugated, subservient position, from either a church or a dominating male.
Don't watch the show,, so my opinion is from supposition. Perhaps the women are weak and need someone to take care of them.
Don't understand this way of thinking.
Oh you poor thing. What world do you live in?!! A huge number of men admit to having affairs, some only one night stands. I got to interview hundreds of men from all walks of life during my career in public health when they came to clinic or even went to their private doctors because they contracted or were exposed to sexually transmitted diseases. Most of the time the wives were clueless about what their husbands were doing. One man told me he'd had sex with several prostitutes without using a condom but used a condom with his wife. Not wanting to sound unprofessional I had to ask..."isn't that ass backwards?!" And guess what? He knew all their back stories and at least one was known to him as having HIV!!Why not allow Polygamy?
Because it goes against human nature - one man having sex with multiple women at once is gross. Those Sister Wives need a lobotomy.
However, as those who point to "And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth" fail to realize is that initial goal has been accomplished many times over.In actuality, it is believed that monogamy goes against human nature. This is an excerpt from Psychology Today:
"Looking at monogamy from a cross-cultural perspective suggests that monogamy isn’t a universal norm. Many cultures have legal polygamy as well as prostitution. In fact, most of the patriarchs and kings of the Hebrew Bible had multiple wives and concubines as was customary of ancient Middle Eastern cultures. The early Mormons believed they were just following the Old Testament in practicing polygamy." Here's the entire article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-the-sheets/201904/is-monogamy-natural
I agree with this, but it ain't just men. They were not alone on those one night stands. I don't think we are particularly faithful by nature.A huge number of men admit to having affairs, some only one night stands.
Yep, that is one of the reasons I believe it should be legal!
No doubt some do, but not all.
I have no desire for multiple wives, but I am careful not to judge the men and women who openly and as adults, enter into this kind of thing.
I suspect that is at least in part the result of abusive practices sometimes associated with polygamy. Like some of the cults here in Utah encouraging underaged girls to marry. There are other examples. I believe legalizing polygamy would bring it more out into the light of day, making it harder to hide these abuses. Fear of having the family broken up is one of the things that keeps some of our local women from speaking out. Giving these women the rights of legal marriage would also help those who want out to get out and be able to recover something from a divorce, right now they cannot.psychological findings reveal that wives in polygamous marriages experienced lower self-esteem, less life satisfaction and more mental health symptomatology than women in monogamous marriages. Many of the mental health symptoms were different; noteworthy were elevated somatization, depression, hostility and psychoticism.
I disagree that this applies mainly to women in abusive polygamous relationships.I suspect that is at least in part the result of abusive practices sometimes associated with polygamy. Like some of the cults here in Utah encouraging underaged girls to marry. There are other examples. I believe legalizing polygamy would bring it more out into the light of day, making it harder to hide these abuses. Fear of having the family broken up is one of the things that keeps some of our local women from speaking out. Giving these women the rights of legal marriage would also help those who want out to get out and be able to recover something from a divorce, right now they cannot.
And as I said I believe that how consenting adults lead their lives should be of little concern to the government, so long as other laws are not broken.
You are right most Muslims are not polygamous, it varies a lot by country. However the numbers are not great. I have spent time in both Kuwait and Saudi and know from experience there is a big difference, many Saudis are polygamous, though it is legal in Kuwait it is rare. I also spent time in Indonesia where polygamy is legal, but I never met anyone who practiced it.
One interesting fact is that in countries where polygamy is legal it is often practiced by members of all religions in those countries, not just Muslims. Even though most of those countries are predominantly Muslim. For example in Burkina Faso 24% of Christians live in polygamous families.
Here are some interesting statistics:
https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-ta...d-to-a-few-regions/ft_2020-12-07_polygamy_01/
Big changes in Hilldale/Short Creek/Colorado City. For the best I believe: https://www.kuer.org/arts-culture-r...ts-adapt-to-the-transformation-of-short-creekI don't know of their status for the last seven years
When I was younger made several trips to the Hilldale area mentioned above. They clearly didn't want me there, and I was closely watched until I left. But never threatened or anything...The people who live in these towns are friendly, but don't encourage visitors for obvious reasons.
Same here!https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/monogamy#:~:text=Reasons a person might choose,limited time or limited energy.
Monogamy is all I need, good grief, one mother-in-law is enough.
You answered it exactly as I would!Not only No, but Hell No!
Sorry Rob...just seeing your reply. You are right. When I was interviewing STD patients, I saw cheating husbands and cheating wives (or S.O.s of both). Several years ago I read a statistic that showed more wives than I imagined cheated on their spouses but the percentage of husbands doing so was still higher. According to this article updated April 2022 (an interesting read), the statistics are much lower than what I read years ago:I agree with this, but it ain't just men. They were not alone on those one night stands. I don't think we are particularly faithful by nature.
That is interesting, do you know how it works?Several years ago I read a statistic that showed more wives than I imagined cheated on their spouses but the percentage of husbands doing so was still higher