Oh you poor thing. What world do you live in?!! A huge number of men admit to having affairs, some only one night stands. I got to interview hundreds of men from all walks of life during my career in public health when they came to clinic or even went to their private doctors because they contracted or were exposed to sexually transmitted diseases. Most of the time the wives were clueless about what their husbands were doing. One man told me he'd had sex with several prostitutes without using a condom but used a condom with his wife. Not wanting to sound unprofessional I
had to ask..."isn't that ass backwards?!" And guess what? He knew all their back stories and at least one was known to him as having HIV!!
In actuality, it is believed that monogamy goes against human nature. This is an excerpt from Psychology Today:
"Looking at monogamy from a cross-cultural perspective suggests that monogamy isn’t a universal norm. Many cultures have legal polygamy as well as prostitution. In fact, most of the patriarchs and kings of the Hebrew Bible had multiple wives and concubines as was customary of ancient Middle Eastern cultures. The early Mormons believed they were just following the Old Testament in practicing polygamy." Here's the entire article:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-the-sheets/201904/is-monogamy-natural
I agree. I do think that monogamy goes against human nature. Had I known and understood about polygamy, when I was younger, I think I would have been interested. I actually think, in the right situation, it’s an excellent ideal; whether there is a religious component or not. And a better situation for the children regardless if the adults involved are sane, caring, individuals; or nut cases-like the adults in all my childhood.
My father married, and divorced, at least 5 times and possibly more. There are 10 known half siblings. One child, first marriage, one child second marriage, two children third marriage, two children fourth marriage, four children fifth marriage. How much better for us to be in a polygamous family where we, the children, KNEW and supported each other.
Instead we grew up in our individual families. I was the only sibling, in the early years, who knew about the others, due to certain circumstances. I have met 7 of them, written on a limited basis to 2 others, and never met or interacted with the tenth one.
It is interesting to note that my brother, son of the third wife, refuses to acknowledge his half siblings. My fathers second son acknowledges half siblings, and looks exactly like his dad. The last son of my father also refuses to acknowledge any but his full siblings.
Serial marriages, serial divorces are very bad for children.