Weird visit this afternoon

MACKTEXAS said:
That's strange and would make me uncomfortable. I am very direct, and when she started mentioning people and l places you have in common, that's when I would have asked how she knew all this and where is she going with this. If that disturbed her, and she didn't give the right aswer, the visit would end (abruptly).
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correct says I
 

Kadee said:
That most certainly sounds like a weird encounter , wondering who may have given her info about YOU

@dusty

Sorta reading between the lines..what she said to you , was she TRYING to say …maybe you are related …via Your father ….her father on the boat ~ as well as your father …was she indicating that they were the same man …just maybe ?? ..Very odd she knows so much about you and your son …I’d be watching my back very closely ….
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I didn't think of the boat (ship) association.....
 
Well while I was in the kichen she started the knocking again! Fourth session today. I let it go on thinking she'd give up but she didn't. So I got pissed and called the police again as a 911 call. Two officers were here within a few and she was still at the door knocking! So they caught her. One took her to her apt and then returned and they told me they think she's "confused" and probably wants a friend.

I told them I did not know her but she knows all about me and my son...that got their attention. We decided she is stalking me but don't know why. Since they left all has been quiet. I sure hope it stays this way. If not I am not sure what I will do legally but it will be something.
 

I'm not dismissing the replies that tell you to be careful and find out more about her motives, but I had a different spin as I was reading the things she asked and told you. I wonder if this woman thinks that you two are somehow related and was working up to a possible common bond by sharing similarities in life events, as if she wants to ease into that possibility. I believe I would have come right out and asked her then and there why she was asking you the questions she did. But I understand how being so taken aback might have prevented that.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
I'm not dismissing the replies that tell you to be careful and find out more about her motives, but I had a different spin as I was reading the things she asked and told you. I wonder if this woman thinks that you two are somehow related and was working up to a possible common bond by sharing similarities in life events. I believe I would have come right out and asked her then and there why she was asking you the questions she did.
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That did not occur to me at the time. I don't think that's what she was thinking as she asked about my marriage and pets, comparing them. She also knew that my son had been working at art casually and had quit, while she said her son (same age) was a supreme watercolorist in NYC! I don't think we'll find the truth and if she leaves me alone that's good.
 
it all goes from totally deranged to sly and cunning ; or even badly trained investigator??- either the police need to be helping plus additional professional psycho help and in the end a restraining order?- for most ":normal enquirees" they would come right out and explain why they were making enquiries - no drama ; no hidden agendas etc?/
 
dusty said:
I told them I did not know her but she knows all about me and my son...that got their attention. We decided she is stalking me but don't know why. Since they left all has been quiet. I sure hope it stays this way. If not I am not sure what I will do legally but it will be something.
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What do you think they meant by "confused"? It seems to me that if Ms. 72 were all that confused she wouldn't have been able to acquire the info she has about you.
 
dusty said:
That did not occur to me at the time. I don't think that's what she was thinking as she asked about my marriage and pets, comparing them. She also knew that my son had been working at art casually and had quit, while she said her son (same age) was a supreme watercolorist in NYC! I don't think we'll find the truth and if she leaves me alone that's good.
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So, you and Ms. 72 share a birthday, and to add to the coincidences, her son was born the same year as yours and both are interested in art.
 
Interested to hear what you end up deciding to do about the situation, Dusty. I can in no way accept that she's just "confused" or "wanting a friend." She's in your building. She knows about your dad at Pearl Harbor. Claims to have the same birthday. Knows all about your son. He was an artist... lo and behold, she has an artist son, too. Knows where you lived as a kid... and people you knew. (Putting it in a nutshell in case someone hasn't read the whole thread.)

No, this is crazy. This is a stalker and that's not drama talking... this person has a whole dossier on you! It's creepy. How recently did she move into your building, by the way? If it's been relatively recently, it's even more frightening.
 
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dusty said:
That did not occur to me at the time. I don't think that's what she was thinking as she asked about my marriage and pets, comparing them. She also knew that my son had been working at art casually and had quit, while she said her son (same age) was a supreme watercolorist in NYC! I don't think we'll find the truth and if she leaves me alone that's good.
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Do you have a friend in the building with which you've shared personal information? Maybe that person is a gossip that shared your business and this lady is "confused" not realizing this is creepy.
 
I keep trying to think of how this could possibly be an innocent (albeit obnoxious and pushy) person. I occasionally go to my high school reunions and have someone I don't recognize come up to me knowing all about my once popular brothers, my beautiful mother, my funny father, and all the teachers and events I don't remember at all.

They are just people who peaked in high school, stayed in the area, read the local paper, gossiped with others and kept meticulous track of everyone else. Facebook kept up the information loop.

So just hypothetically, this person could have known a little about you and then found out more and finally came to your place hoping to connect over similarities and become good friends. Seeing the police at your door may have made her natural nosy qualities flare up and she kept coming back over and over, to quiz you about why they were there.

Right now she may be on some message board talking about her mysterious neighbor who she went over to talk to, was secretive and evasive, and now is in trouble with the police!

I heart you, (((Dusty! )))
 
How long has the lady lived there? Talk to other tenants and learn what you can about her past behavior or if she has family. It's easy enough to find her last name, Google her and check her history, or since the police are involved ask them if she has a criminal background.

My take.......she is the building busy body, she wants to know about everyones business so researches and asks personal questions. She could be surfering mental decline so her brain is creating realities (my brother does this), she could be confusing your background into her own, creating similar histories and believing every bit of it.

If she has no criminal history and was a tenant before you moved in it's hard to imagine at 72 she's turning into a criminal. If she has a criminal history and moved in after you then I would be more concerned.
 
If you have ever visited a clairvoyant or mindreader of any type you would find them very adept at getting us to divulge personal information. Persons skilled at listening and asking leading questions can find out a lot . Then there is the one upsman personality…you are an airplane mechanic…they are a pilot. You are a pilot…they own an airport. This can manifest simply because they are lonely and want to interact…
 
After reading more posts about her persistent and bizarre behavior, I believe she has serious mental issues. She may be harmful, she may not. Likewise, a restraining order may not be effective. She probably needs help. Since the police are already involved, I would ask them if a mental health professional could reach out to her family. [Privacy laws and state laws on this duty vary.]
 
I remember seeing a news item showing a new tech device you can wear to identify a stranger's name and personal information while simply passing by the person. As we all know, our personal information is constantly being gathered through our phones, etc.

So I brought up this AI Overview to share but not sure if it's up to date. This device may be available now to some. She is probably just a nosey busy-body and harmless but I would avoid her for sure.

While not available as a commercial product, the technology to identify strangers' names and personal information in real-time exists, as recently demonstrated by students at Harvard. The functional components include AI-powered wearable devices, facial recognition software, and the ability to scrape publicly available online data.

AI...
A project called I-XRAY, developed by two Harvard students, serves as a high-profile proof of concept. The tool works by combining existing off-the-shelf technology in the following steps:

Capturing faces: The system uses a pair of Meta's Ray-Ban smart glasses to capture live video of people. An indicator light turns on to signal that the device is recording.
Using a facial recognition search engine: The video stream is processed by a facial recognition search engine like PimEyes. This tool scours the public internet to find matches for the detected face.

Cross-referencing with data brokers: Once matches are found, the system uses large language models to scrape information from publicly accessible databases, including "people search" websites like FastPeopleSearch.
Retrieving personal data: These data brokers can use a person's name to find other personal information, such as home addresses, phone numbers, and relatives.

Displaying information: All the retrieved information is automatically sent to an app on a connected phone for the user to view.
The creators of I-XRAY have explicitly stated they are not releasing the tool for public use. Their purpose was to raise awareness about significant privacy concerns. Data broker sites used for this technology often have an "opt-out" process that allows individuals to request their information be removed from searches.
 
She's now been made aware that her attentions are not welcome. She may leave you alone now, or she may place a letter at your door. Or maybe some sort of angry response?
She might be very upset and unhappy and frustrated but unfortunately a show of kindness is out of the question.
 

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