What Are Your Biggest Fears?

Ruthanne

Ruthanne

Caregiver
Location
Midwest
I have fear about several things but the main ones are:

1. Being homeless

2. Losing my BFF

3. Becoming severely ill

What are yours?
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Not having the finances to see me through to the end and becoming dependent on my children. Dying in pain. Out living my loved ones.
 

Sassycakes said:
My biggest fear is losing a loved one.
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I can understand that. I have experienced that before. We do get through it but it's very difficult. Having support helps a lot.

Ruth n Jersey said:
Not having the finances to see me through to the end and becoming dependent on my children. Dying in pain. Out living my loved ones.
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Oh, yes, I fear those things, too. I think they will give someone in pain medicine as I know several who have been in hospice and got a lot of meds. for pain. I don't know if everyone wants pain medication but if I had severe pain I'd want it. Being dependent is scary but maybe they will be helpful and help us through it, too. I wonder how long I will live and if I'll live longer than my loved ones, we are all old now and I fear what will happen in the end. Yes, you have some very scary concerns but hopefully you'll get through them. I have always thought of you as a strong woman and I think you will be okay.
 
My biggest fear is suffering an illness that leaves me bedridden and helpless for an extended period of time. When my time comes, I hope it is quick.
 
Don M. said:
My biggest fear is suffering an illness that leaves me bedridden and helpless for an extended period of time. When my time comes, I hope it is quick.
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Hi Don, that is the biggest fear of many. I have it too as I have a couple of illnesses that could progress that way. There are a lot of good people in healthcare that hopefully will help us through that who know what they are doing to make it bearable.
 
Fear or scared?

I’ve been so scared I damn near lost control of myself.
You know, when yer sphincter pops uncontrollably.
Been there too many times.
Been awhile, but unforgettable

Fear

Hmmmm

Of late, I’ve been concerned with my mental abilities
I still feel mentally sharp, but there’s a back of the head niggling feeling

I console myself that it’s normal old age creeping in

Still…..
 
I'm with C'est Moi, my biggest fear is either me or my husband getting Alzheimer's, not remembering who we are, who each other is, where we are or how to do anything for ourselves. If I am physically suffering, I have the option to make the decision to end my life, if it's dementia, I won't be able to make any decisions. My aunt on my mother's side died from the disease.
 
Gary O' said:
Fear or scared?

I’ve been so scared I damn near lost control of myself.
You know, when yer sphincter pops uncontrollably.
Been there too many times.
Been awhile, but unforgettable

Fear

Hmmmm

Of late, I’ve been concerned with my mental abilities
I still feel mentally sharp, but there’s a back of the head niggling feeling

I console myself that it’s normal old age creeping in

Still…..
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You seem pretty sound to me Gary, there is a lot of negative things said about elders sanity but if you feel concerned I think consulting a good geriatric doctor would help. Good luck to you.
 
C'est Moi said:
Dementia.
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Not everyone gets it but it is a big fear for many because it happens in older age mostly although some somewhat younger get it. Keeping on track with a good doctor may help. There now are medicines that slows its progression. Wish there was a cure!:love_heart:
 
SeaBreeze said:
I'm with C'est Moi, my biggest fear is either me or my husband getting Alzheimer's, not remembering who we are, who each other is, where we are or how to do anything for ourselves. If I am physically suffering, I have the option to make the decision to end my life, if it's dementia, I won't be able to make any decisions. My aunt on my mother's side died from the disease.
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Big fear, yes, definitely. There are now many programs to help keep a person active mentally to help with the brain health. You probably would not get it at the same time so one would need to care for the other. It's a heartbreaking illness that's for sure. All I can say is that good geriatric healthcare could help this be more bearable. It's important to keep up with your doctor about any signs you feel you need to report. There are now medicines to help slow the progression. I wish you all the best.
 
All of my fears revolve around end of life issues.

Not a fear of death, fear of all the possible indignities leading up to my death.

With my luck, it'll happen someday when I'm busy worrying and I'll miss the whole thing. :):playful::eek:nthego:
 
Ruthanne said:
You seem pretty sound to me Gary, there is a lot of negative things said about elders sanity but if you feel concerned I think consulting a good geriatric doctor would help. Good luck to you.
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If my feelings become in any way justified, I'll do just that, even though I'd hate to open that can of worms
 
I don’t think that I can ever be more afraid of anything than I was when I spent my first month in Vietnam. After graduating basic training, I then spent 2 months at Camp Lejeune before being shipped out. Next thing I knew, I was walking through a jungle with gun and artillery fire all around us. I grew up quick that morning.
 
My greatest fear is "the international communist conspiracy to sap and impurify all of our precious bodily fluids."

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I see a lot have fears of dependence on others at the end of life and dementia. Keeping on top of our health issues now is essential and seeing a Geriatric Doctor can do some good I believe. I don't know if all areas have those kinds of doctors, not even sure if they are in my area but they know more about these kinds of issues.
 

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