What are your thoughts? This is regarding a very close friend requesting distance.

[Ladybj]

Sometimes we all just need to be left alone to deal with something in our own way and sometimes that one thing is all we can cope with and everything else is just annoying noise.

Your friend simply may not have the emotional energy to deal with anything other than whatever thing she is now facing (I've been there) and IMHO the kindest thing you can do is let her have the space and peace she needs.

And that is exactly what I am doing
I understand some of the other post recommend I continue to reach out but I do not want to continue to over step my boundaries. When she is ready she will reach out.

 

[Ladybj]

UPDATE: I text her to check on her and she called me Thursday of this week. Long story short..she is doing fine. She was under the weather. Her husband is home and doing better. I let her know I understood she needed space but I felt a bit hurt because we are so close and I felt she could have reached out and let me know what was going on.. she understood. I will always love her dearly and I know the feeling is mutual but it changed a bit.. not in a bad way and not in a good way.

We are all different in how we handle life challenges but if I am going through something, I will reach out and talk with my closest friends... I will let them know what is going on but I will let them know I am not up for talking but I will reach out at some point...which I will, sooner than later.

I love being grown and mature...lol I have my days that I need and enjoy my alone time - not that anything is going on but nothing like "ME" time.

 

[mellowyellow]

Ladybj, I think you did the right thing leaving her alone but it still hurts like hell, she’ll come around when she’s ready and if she doesn’t. it’s not your fault, you made an effort to keep the friendship alive.

 

[SeaBreeze]

UPDATE: I text her to check on her and she called me Thursday of this week. Long story short..she is doing fine. She was under the weather. Her husband is home and doing better. I let her know I understood she needed space but I felt a bit hurt because we are so close and I felt she could have reached out and let me know what was going on.. she understood. I will always love her dearly and I know the feeling is mutual but it changed a bit.. not in a bad way and not in a good way.

We are all different in how we handle life challenges but if I am going through something, I will reach out and talk with my closest friends... I will let them know what is going on but I will let them know I am not up for talking but I will reach out at some point...which I will, sooner than later.

I love being grown and mature...lol I have my days that I need and enjoy my alone time - not that anything is going on but nothing like "ME" time.

Thanks for the update, good to hear she's okay and her husband is doing better. She's blessed to have you as a friend, I think you did what was best in that situation.

 

[Gary O']

What are your thoughts? This is regarding a very close friend requesting distance.​

Nothing to ponder

Whatever the circumstance, if a friend asks for some distance,
I give it to 'em

......and I never ask why

A friend will come around when they're ready

 

[peramangkelder]

I will try to keep this short as possible. I have a very close friend. We talked and/or text everyday. She was separated from her husband for almost a year and filed for divorce. - they were married for 11 years. She was dating here and there..did not find anyone special. She was talking of taking him back but she listed the things he had to change. I had a long talk with her. I shared with her it will not be easy, there would be work to do on both parts. She's more of a "take charge" person.

This was the 4th time they separated and got back together. I shared with her she will need to allow him to take the lead in some things in the marriage - and also accept him as he is because he will have to want to change. Well, she took him back. We continued to chat.. he got sick - hopefully he's better now. I text one day to check on her and she mentioned he went to the hospital - so I called her. She did not answer - she text me and stated she is being to herself for now. I am not sure what happened. This has been about 2-3 weeks ago. She has not called but I have texted her in between that time. I respect people boundaries - however, I felt her and I were closer than that. I have not text nor called in about a week or so. I figure once she is ready to talk she will reach out. I still love her dearly and this did hurt a bit because I felt we were closer than her distancing herself from me.

@Ladybj from my own experience there is no such thing as a trial separation because the partners have already gone their separate ways once the relationship ends. Leave her be and she will contact you when she is ready