What do men regard as a perfect woman?

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I was struck by a thought, about what a man regards as a perfect woman for an ideal relationship. Is it a woman who apparently has no needs at all? Certainly not ones she talks about.

Does anyone remember the novel The Stepford Wives by Ira Levin? It had a big impact on me in my youth.

In general, much male behaviour can be explained by thinking about this. They like women who are quiet, compliant and non-demanding. Similar to the family dog - who is loved so much by all for those very qualities!

Of course there are exceptions, plenty of men who wouldn't dream of that attitude, but I'm talking in general.

I remember laughing about Oliver Reed saying his ideal woman was a mute, nymphomaniac landlady. I think he made a telling point, in jest.
 

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There's an old saying which goes...

"A woman marries a man hoping to change him...and a man marries a woman hoping she'll never change."

I think there's a grain of truth to this. But men/ women are much different in middle age than they are in their early 20's. Relationships change over time. I think it goes lust, love, friendship, companionship.

Just my thoughts on the subject.
 
Rose65 said:
In general, much male behaviour can be explained by thinking about this. They like women who are quiet, compliant and non-demanding. Similar to the family dog - who is loved so much by all for those very qualities!
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Oh my. Sorry, Rose... I can't agree with this statement at all. Especially comparing a "good woman" to the family dog? :unsure: No, I think "the perfect woman" would be one who can think for herself and know how to help make important decisions with intelligence. I can't see that a man would enjoy having a little mousy "yes dear" person around because he'd never know her true feelings. (Note that I'm not talking about a combative woman... totally different from being a strong ally and equal partner.)

Compliant? Non-demanding? Nah, I think maybe that guy you're talking about *should* just adopt a dog. 🐶🐕
 

Thinking about it I'm inclined to think that we were drawn to one another by physical attraction. We have spent all of our adult lives together. Some ask, what's the secret? Why should a long relationship be thought of as secretive? Love, respect and fidelity has been the adhesive that's bound us together, simple as that. As for perfect, there has only ever been one perfect person and we crucified Him.
 
horseless carriage said:
We have spent all of our adult lives together. Some ask, what's the secret? Why should a long relationship be thought of as secretive? Love, respect and fidelity has been the adhesive that's bound us together, simple as that. As for perfect, there has only ever been one perfect person and we crucified Him.
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Yes, right there. ⬆️ And I can guarantee that the lovely and talented Mrs. Horseless appreciates those qualities greatly. @horseless carriage
 
horseless carriage said:
Thinking about it I'm inclined to think that we were drawn to one another by physical attraction. We have spent all of our adult lives together. Some ask, what's the secret? Why should a long relationship be thought of as secretive? Love, respect and fidelity has been the adhesive that's bound us together, simple as that. As for perfect, there has only ever been one perfect person and we crucified Him.
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Been married to my dear wife for over 50 years, and I'd say you nailed it @horseless carriage. (y)

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." -1 Corinthians13:4-7
 
CallMeKate said:
Yes, right there. ⬆️ And I can guarantee that the lovely and talented Mrs. Horseless appreciates those qualities greatly. @horseless carriage
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Tommy said:
Been married to my dear wife for over 50 years, and I'd say you nailed it @horseless carriage. (y)

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." -1 Corinthians13:4-7
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Thank you both, such kind compliments. In that quotation of St. Paul there's a brief mention that goes: "It keeps no record of wrongs." We would both readily admit that we have had our spats, but when tempers have cooled, just reaching out and touching finger tips always ends in the most loving embrace and a showering of kisses, it's what couples who love one another do.
 
Ok, here goes...

I don't have any checklist. Sure, I have images in my head about physical "packages" - different sets of attributes - height, hair, eyes, and such. Those are superficial, though I do think they can serve to draw one in. It might be the nose, chin, hair, shoulders, voice, or whatever.

But when daydreaming it's about the feeling I'd get, or hope to have. This is hard to put into words. A lot has changed at this stage in my life, but I can still feel the core of earlier relationships that I valued most. That wasn't about the superficial, it was about the... "fit" between us.
 
There's an ancient Greek story where humans were first created with two heads, four arms, and four legs. Zeus feared the power such a being would have, so he tore them all in half before birth, and each one would spend their lives looking for their other half.

Even Aristotle said that “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies”. In yet another work Plato felt that you may have several soul mates in life, but only one "twin flame".

My own opinion is that the very idea of a perfect woman is a rather imponderable concept. At best, there would simply be one that is perfect for you, and perhaps that may just be someone who doesn't see all your flaws, or maybe she does, and it just doesn't matter to her. Searching for that special one may be a fool's errand, yet so many of us do.

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C50 said:
It's silly to ever place people in a box thinking we're all the same.
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Exactly
Tommy said:
Been married to my dear wife for over 50 years, and I'd say you nailed it @horseless carriage. (y)

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." -1 Corinthians13:4-7
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If the above is the definition of true love, then no human on this earth has it. Maybe this is heavenly love which IS attainable
 
Met my wife in 1953. We were both in our teens. Married in '56 and this coming February (if we're still above ground) it'll be our 68th anniversary. We've also been blessed with a large and close family, all but one couple living within a two hour radius.

It's been a wonderful life and I don't think i could have found a better gal to spend it with. Ironically, in contrast to those who have always done things together, we have had widely different hobbies ( or interests). I spent quite a few years traveling throughout the Eastern states with a friends sprint car team, sometimes accompanied by my son. In contrast, my wife was active in the costuming of local theater groups and made many trips to NYC to arrange for costume rentals for different productions.

"Different strokes for different folks", as the saying goes, but true love trumps them all.

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