What do men regard as a perfect woman?

The term "perfect woman" is not something I've ever thought about anytime in my adult life. Your thread title topic premise over generalized towards the narrow scope of the facet you chose to discuss. Maybe titling as:

Do men regard those Stepford Wives movie personalities and behaviors as that of more ideal favorable women?

Obviously, some men indeed would prefer such. On the other hand, there is an enormous range of ways opposite human genders interact and feel about each other. In this person's case, the Stepford wives 1950s era upper middle class housewife behaviors, in a men's 1950s era formal suit work world and its attitudes, would not work at all for this person. Beyond that dated era lifestyle, I'm much too mental, expecting strong communication skills, preferring equals. I want a woman that can sometimes be curious, educated (especially science), intelligent, excited about life, communicate well, and be fun and lively. In other words, a woman to complement me in ways as I in her, to make both our lives as a senior with limited time remaining, more fulfilling, enjoyable, precious, and fun.

Some will no doubt respond, not to what you wanted to discuss per above but rather the broader topic, what to them personally is a more ideal woman. Most mature adults tend to be aware human adult gender relationships are much too complex to be thinking in terms of idealized perfectness. On the other hand most of we men can readily describe a spectrum range of facets about women we more or less like and value from trivial to important. From physical to mental to behavioral.

Oh course, some of that is indeed physical. I very much like a broad range of head to toe physical features of most adult women. Especially young adult women's faces of all types and levels of cultural attractiveness. And as a single male hopelessly and gladly attracted to women, I do want to look at single women in public. Maybe that is part of the reason I have fun in large event crowds. Being human and feeling a woman in a close contact relationship, is potentially an immensely vast and powerful perceptual experience far beyond how we everyday treat such. Especially with those we love.
 
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Rose65 said:
I was struck by a thought, about what a man regards as a perfect woman for an ideal relationship. Is it a woman who apparently has no needs at all? Certainly not ones she talks about.

Does anyone remember the novel The Stepford Wives by Ira Levin? It had a big impact on me in my youth.

In general, much male behaviour can be explained by thinking about this. They like women who are quiet, compliant and non-demanding. Similar to the family dog - who is loved so much by all for those very qualities!

Of course there are exceptions, plenty of men who wouldn't dream of that attitude, but I'm talking in general.

I remember laughing about Oliver Reed saying his ideal woman was a mute, nymphomaniac landlady. I think he made a telling point, in jest.
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A perfect woman is one who is beautiful inside and out.
 

Today, the man in front of me was checking out & was talking to the clerk. He mentioned that today was his wife's 91st birthday & they had been married 72 years. And he was 93.

WOW! The clerk & I talked while I was checking out & neither of us had heard of anyone married that long.

I wish I would have known this question, because it would have been interesting to ask him what he thought?
 
Since this thread has run its course, here is a list of modern era positive personality traits. I've included the brief descriptions of a few traits while will recommend going to the link below to read those I didn't include. Works for both male and female relationship perspectives. Valuable interpersonal social skill wisdom exercise to at least understand some structure of. More primary facets of an ideal woman beyond the below would be more gender specific about physical characteristics and behaviors. I have a strong natural non verbal attraction to feminine women.

25 Good Character Traits List To Live A Happy Life

41 Good Character Traits List Essential For Happiness
  • 1. Integrity
  • 2. Honesty
  • 3. Loyalty
  • 4. Respectfulness
  • 5. Responsibility
  • 6. Humility
  • 7. Compassion
  • 8. Fairness
  • 9. Forgiveness
  • 10. Authenticity
  • 11. Courageousness
  • 12. Generosity
  • 13. Perseverance
  • 14. Politeness
  • 15. Kindness
  • 16. Lovingness ...This character trait has the ability to be loving toward those you love means showing them through your words, actions, and expressions how deeply you care about them. It includes the willingness to be open and vulnerable.
  • 17. Optimism
  • 18. Reliability
  • 19. Conscientiousness
  • 20. Self-disciplined
  • 21. Ambitiousness
  • 22. Encouraging
  • 23. Forgiving ...The ability to forgive yourself and others reveals that you have a balanced perspective of human nature and the flaws inherent in all of us. You are able to let go of grudges and resentment which in turn frees you and anyone who might have offended you. It is an advanced trait that is an act of courage and commitment.
  • 24. Considerate
  • 25. Thoroughness
  • 26. Patience
  • 27. Decisiveness
  • 28. Tactfulness
  • 29. Reasonableness
  • 30. Observantness
  • 31. Conviction
  • 32. Adventurousness
  • 33. Sophistication ...Those exhibiting sophistication appreciate and contribute to cultural excellence, whether in cuisine, art, intellect, or etiquette. Their discernment arises from varied exposure aimed at broadening perspectives beyond superficialities. Seeking out life’s finer stimulations helps sophisticates nurture critical faculties and refine their sensibilities gracefully. In the process they carry civilization a bit further toward its highest potentials.
  • 34. Individuality
  • 35. Attractiveness ...Attractive people have magnetic qualities that make others notice and feel pleased by their presence. They project confident charisma blended with physical appeal based on how they creatively self-express. But attractiveness also conveys deeper qualities like compassion and emotional intelligence through charming behaviors. Overall attractiveness signals vibrant self-acceptance that the rest of us find inspiring.
  • 36. Wittiness
  • 37. Heroism
  • 38. Punctuality
  • 39. Assertiveness
  • 40. Articulateness
  • 41. Tenaciousness
 
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dilettante said:
Quite a list, but what I really need is for a woman to really punch me in the gut.

Er, not literally if you take my meaning.🦆
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I know what you mean. I've been really “punched in the gut” and trust me, it's not all that it's cracked up to be. The next guy who tries punching me in the gut will be lucky if he can crawl away.
 
David777 said:
Since this thread has run its course, here is a list of modern era positive personality traits. I've included the brief descriptions of a few traits while will recommend going to the link below to read those I didn't include. Works for both male and female relationship perspectives. Valuable interpersonal social skill wisdom exercise to at least understand some structure of. More primary facets of an ideal woman beyond the below would be more gender specific about physical characteristics and behaviors. I have a strong natural non verbal attraction to feminine women.

25 Good Character Traits List To Live A Happy Life

41 Good Character Traits List Essential For Happiness
  • 1. Integrity
  • 2. Honesty
  • 3. Loyalty
  • 4. Respectfulness
  • 5. Responsibility
  • 6. Humility
  • 7. Compassion
  • 8. Fairness
  • 9. Forgiveness
  • 10. Authenticity
  • 11. Courageousness
  • 12. Generosity
  • 13. Perseverance
  • 14. Politeness
  • 15. Kindness
  • 16. Lovingness ...This character trait has the ability to be loving toward those you love means showing them through your words, actions, and expressions how deeply you care about them. It includes the willingness to be open and vulnerable.
  • 17. Optimism
  • 18. Reliability
  • 19. Conscientiousness
  • 20. Self-disciplined
  • 21. Ambitiousness
  • 22. Encouraging
  • 23. Forgiving ...The ability to forgive yourself and others reveals that you have a balanced perspective of human nature and the flaws inherent in all of us. You are able to let go of grudges and resentment which in turn frees you and anyone who might have offended you. It is an advanced trait that is an act of courage and commitment.
  • 24. Considerate
  • 25. Thoroughness
  • 26. Patience
  • 27. Decisiveness
  • 28. Tactfulness
  • 29. Reasonableness
  • 30. Observantness
  • 31. Conviction
  • 32. Adventurousness
  • 33. Sophistication ...Those exhibiting sophistication appreciate and contribute to cultural excellence, whether in cuisine, art, intellect, or etiquette. Their discernment arises from varied exposure aimed at broadening perspectives beyond superficialities. Seeking out life’s finer stimulations helps sophisticates nurture critical faculties and refine their sensibilities gracefully. In the process they carry civilization a bit further toward its highest potentials.
  • 34. Individuality
  • 35. Attractiveness ...Attractive people have magnetic qualities that make others notice and feel pleased by their presence. They project confident charisma blended with physical appeal based on how they creatively self-express. But attractiveness also conveys deeper qualities like compassion and emotional intelligence through charming behaviors. Overall attractiveness signals vibrant self-acceptance that the rest of us find inspiring.
  • 36. Wittiness
  • 37. Heroism
  • 38. Punctuality
  • 39. Assertiveness
  • 40. Articulateness
  • 41. Tenaciousness
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Same could be said re: a woman search for the perfect man. When someone finally finds one who is perfect, please phone me in heaven.
 
bobcat said:
There's an ancient Greek story where humans were first created with two heads, four arms, and four legs. Zeus feared the power such a being would have, so he tore them all in half before birth, and each one would spend their lives looking for their other half.

Even Aristotle said that “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies”. In yet another work Plato felt that you may have several soul mates in life, but only one "twin flame".

My own opinion is that the very idea of a perfect woman is a rather imponderable concept. At best, there would simply be one that is perfect for you, and perhaps that may just be someone who doesn't see all your flaws, or maybe she does, and it just doesn't matter to her. Searching for that special one may be a fool's errand, yet so many of us do.

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Right (about the concept) Bob! Love the photo BTW. There is no perfect woman nor perfect man.

 
Buckeye said:
I recall a limerick from my youth:

I've found the perfect woman
Can't ask for anything more
She's deaf, dumb, and oversexed
And owns the liquor store

Sorry
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And ro think that when meeting my present wife, back in the early 1950's, I thought she was perfect. Now, after reading the above, I can see that I was badly off the mark.

She was neither deaf nor dumb and didn't own a liquor store ! Oh well, she had one of the attributes leading to the "perfect woman" status so I won't complain.
 
Lilac said:
Today, the man in front of me was checking out & was talking to the clerk. He mentioned that today was his wife's 91st birthday & they had been married 72 years. And he was 93.

WOW! The clerk & I talked while I was checking out & neither of us had heard of anyone married that long.

I wish I would have known this question, because it would have been interesting to ask him what he thought?
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A couple in my retirement community just celebrated their 75th wedding anniversary! I was honored to be invited to the celebration. The gentleman is a World War II veteran.
 
I don't remember courting a girl that was totally compliant. First of all I don't require anyone to be compliant with me. There has to be differences. Didn't we go over this same material when "Barbie" hit the big screen? I just read some thoughts on why fertility rates are dropping. I will post some of it, because it is relevant to what a perfect woman "IS". :)

Women don't have sex without a reason. That is a fact of life. It is more complicated for women to have it. Going without is something women in general are comfortable with and consider normal. Some young women have a brief period when they desire a lot of sex, but that time is short and does not last long.

Worldwide women have gained economic parity with men in first world countries. I don't care to quibble about women still making less than men do on average and in America I am not so sure that is true anymore. The point is women are screaming 'I don't need a man' like they were being forced to have one which if they were, they could not scream 'I don't need a man'. It is confusing NONSENSE, but nonsense that signals women wear pants and men can piss in the wind.

The fact is women don't need men the way they use to. There is no reason to scream this obvious fact, but it does EMPHASIZE the need to give it up is gone. This to be true in general, and it is more pronounced in Korea because it turns out.
 
Falling fertility was a side effect of urbanization. Kids weren't needed to run the farm, and having lots of kids became a liability rather than an asset. We're now in something new where pair bonding and even gender itself are being erased in megapolitan culture. As that trend developed reproduction fell below replacement levels.

I sometimes wonder if classical Rome went through something similar before it collapsed giving rise to the great reset of the "dark ages."

But I think we've drifted off topic.
 
It's a misnomer that a woman can change a man, and vice versa. Good relationships allow companions who respect each other to evolve into what the other needs. Nobody's perfect when you meet them. (good hygiene helps considerably) :giggle:
 

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