What do you think about nothing being the same?

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I've been reading these forums, to me, there seems to be one theme. Nothing is the same. When we were growing up, it was a different era. We did stuff that way, a long time ago. We didn't think x was bad, when we were kids. What do you think about nothing being the same?
 

Change is the price of progress!

I have many fond memories of simpler times but so did my mother, grandmother, great grandmother, etc...

I suppose we all have a safe comfortable place in our past memories where we like to spend a little time relaxing, licking our wounds, etc...
 

It is sad but true that nothing is the same. But we have our memories - children and grand children
being so excited about Christmas, 12 - 14 of us sitting down to dinner. To-day the grandchildren are
adults with their own families and busy lives, not so much time for grand parents. This we have to
accept, life goes on.
My hope is that everyone here will have some one to celebrate the holidays with!



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I like some changes very much. The internet is wonderful and cell/smart phones are great if you break down away from home and help. I hate the way we are no longer safe anywhere anymore. You never know if you'll get shot going to the shopping mall or if a vehicle will suddenly mow down pedestrians like it just did in Australia. Men treated women more respectfully and dare I say it, more chivalrously. That was better too.
 
I think most of the changes have been for the better. It's hard to think of anything that really was better back "in the day." If we feel that anything was, it's mainly rose-colored nostalgia.

For instance:
Cancer was usually a death sentence.
Women's career options were very limited.
A woman who remained single was mostly pitied.
My dentist never used novocain for ordinary things like fillings.
Free choice in religion, for instance, was much more limited.
People worried a lot more about "sinning," and carried huge burdens of guilt.
Animals were cruelly trapped and killed for their pelts. Fur coats were a big status symbol.
There was no civil rights movement for anyone.
Little or no concern was given to the environment.
Kids who were "different," such as autistic, were shunned and punished.
Women's required clothing was excruciatingly uncomfortable.
There was no air conditioning, so summer could be unbearable.
People died or were crippled by polio.
And that's only the start of my list!
 
Sunny said:
I think most of the changes have been for the better. It's hard to think of anything that really was better back "in the day." If we feel that anything was, it's mainly rose-colored nostalgia.

For instance:
Cancer was usually a death sentence.
Women's career options were very limited.
A woman who remained single was mostly pitied.
My dentist never used novocain for ordinary things like fillings.
Free choice in religion, for instance, was much more limited.
People worried a lot more about "sinning," and carried huge burdens of guilt.
Animals were cruelly trapped and killed for their pelts. Fur coats were a big status symbol.
There was no civil rights movement for anyone.
Little or no concern was given to the environment.
Kids who were "different," such as autistic, were shunned and punished.
Women's required clothing was excruciatingly uncomfortable.
There was no air conditioning, so summer could be unbearable.
People died or were crippled by polio.
And that's only the start of my list!
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I agree. I think we often gloss over the negative things when we reminisce about the past.
 
I enjoy change. It forces me out of my comfort zone, exercising “the little grey cells”, to quote Monsieur Poirot. While other children were immersed in the likes of Black Beauty, Old Yeller, etc, I grew up engrossed in the evils of the English countryside, circa 1930s, and the inimitable imagination of Dame Agatha Christie. According to some, that explains a great deal about my personality?? Cup of tea, anyone? ☕️
 
Most people don't like change because it's difficult to change our way of thinking; it disrupts our worldview and I think that's good.

I remember growing up on a small farm, living in a shack by modern standards, hard to keep warm in winter, sweltering in summer, no TV, radio only at night, a few books to read. Now I live in an insulated home comfortable summer and winter with a massive TV, four computers, hi-speed internet, the world at my fingertips. I kinda like it better now.
 
I love the present! I think the human race has done amazing things and will continue to - and hopefully get through some of the big challenges ahead. Maybe it won't but the ride will have been amazing.

I have mixed feelings about whether I would want to be around in 50 years time to see how things pan out.

Not that I have the choice!
 
Sunny said:
I think most of the changes have been for the better. It's hard to think of anything that really was better back "in the day." If we feel that anything was, it's mainly rose-colored nostalgia.

For instance:
Cancer was usually a death sentence.
Women's career options were very limited.
A woman who remained single was mostly pitied.
My dentist never used novocain for ordinary things like fillings.
Free choice in religion, for instance, was much more limited.
People worried a lot more about "sinning," and carried huge burdens of guilt.
Animals were cruelly trapped and killed for their pelts. Fur coats were a big status symbol.
There was no civil rights movement for anyone.
Little or no concern was given to the environment.
Kids who were "different," such as autistic, were shunned and punished.
Women's required clothing was excruciatingly uncomfortable.
There was no air conditioning, so summer could be unbearable.
People died or were crippled by polio.
And that's only the start of my list!
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And you call yourself "Sunny".....:(

HDH
 
When I grew up there was no computers, no cell phones, no TV. We had friends, we had radio and we had books. Those were better times in many ways but many of today's changes are wonderful too. We must live within the time on the calendar.
 
Much of our perspective around the olden days is completely reliant on how pleasant those memories are. If pleasant, naturally reminiscing is fun, if not, we can be relieved those difficult times have passed, and learn what we can from the journey.
 
Shalimar said:
Much of our perspective around the olden days is completely reliant on how pleasant those memories are. If pleasant, naturally reminiscing is fun, if not, we can be relieved those difficult times have passed, and learn what we can from the journey.
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True, but Shali you've got to admit our parents and grandparents didn't have to worry about terrorism on a daily basis. This is a huge lifestyle change and a negative one. Kids used to be able to walk to school because the world was safer. Doctors made house calls and knew everyone in the family so there was no need to waste time with writing a medical history. And, they were so affordable only the poorest couldn't afford the $15.00 for a doctor in the U.S. That's also a negative change especially for the elderly or people with sick children. As for cancer, sure people got cancer back then but it was so much rarer than it is now. These days you can't swing a dead cat without hitting someone dying of cancer despite all the treatments we have available so it makes you wonder is it pollution, toxins in the environment or just our hectic multi tasking lifestyles that are killing us.

Don't get me wrong. I do like the present but there's a LOT I wish I could resurrect from the past.
 
'nothing is the same' is my mantra. Makes my life easier because as I age, I have come to realize there's a lot I don't understand but no need to get upset about it, can't change it anyway.
 
I hate change of any kind. I'm also happy I have my memories and have started a sort of diary. I am trying to remember things as far back as I can go. I'm pretty sure I'm remembering a few things that happened at the age of three. I jot down whatever comes to mind.Sometime just a phrase or a word or two that means something to me. I'm sure when my kids find it after I'm gone they will probably figure Mom lost her marbles long before we thought she did. Sometimes I try to figure out how the change even occurred especially when it pertains to family. Little things come to mind. I was discussing this with the hubby today. When having dinner at my daughters house it is very much frowned upon to not take your dish to the sink when you are finished eating. When I was a kid we ate,Dad retreated to his favorite chair and my Mom cleared the dishes. When I was old enough, I helped her. Same with my Grandma and i'm sure the women before them. I did the same with my daughter. All of a sudden there are new rules. Then we have the taking off of shoes at the door. I remember my Mom saying,are your shoes muddy? If so we took them off at the door, if not we left them on. Now everybody is running around with no shoes on. Some people are down right uncomfortable in just there stocking feet. When did that change take place? Having to have a bottle of water attached to you wherever you go. We took a drink at home and waited until we got to our destination for another drink. Nobody dried up and blew away because of it and I can think of dozens more. It certainly isn't saving more time. This younger generation seems to be more stressed out then many generations before them. So this Christmas Mom and Dad will remove their shoes, remember to bring slippers and I will poke old Dad under the table to bring his plate to the sink. I think I'll make a list. lol
 
I like change. Some are not good and some are. I think most changes have been for the better.

It's people who have passed away that I miss.
 

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