What drives people to be so hostile?

CallMeKate said:
Is this the Joseph Goebbels who was the propaganda minister for the Nazi Third Reich?! Or just someone with the same name?
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I think it is. The quote tells that he himself knew the lies the Nazi's told, he saw people believe them and as they did he too believed them, being swept away by the wave of madness.
 

"What drives people to be hostile?"

I am thinking about lack of satisfaction in life, need of control or dominance in a conversation, lack of communication skills and/or social behavior.
I have also noticed that some people are very passionate about certain subject and might manifest hostility if they feel there is a disagreement of their thinking.
 
Buckeye said:
Just for the sake of clarity, do you ever get combative with someone who disagrees with you?
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Hopefully I didn't come off as "holier-than-thou." People can and do aggravate me at times - but I wouldn't say I get combative (however, there are probably some historical posts here that prove me wrong :rolleyes: ). There are causes in life where I would take the fight to those who mean me or my family harm, but generally speaking I don't believe I keep poking at someone with differing views to keep the argument going or attempt to have the last word.
 
I try to pack my patience when I’m out in the world and be nice to people which includes driving. I have a few friends with opposing political and or religious views and we just don’t discuss those topics.

I never used to use the ignore feature on forums but since I have started it’s much better. Some people are purposely trying to start an argument or dislike an entire group of people and they are miserable. I enjoy dissenting views but only if done with respect and not attacking the other person.
 
Gardenlover said:
Pick your topic, but the sad truth is no matter the topic, people with opposite views tend to become combative fairly easily.
I've often wondered why, is it insecurity or a superiority complex? Why do so many demand that others hold the same beliefs?
Why is it easier to hate your neighbor rather than love them?
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I don't know. Personally I seek peace and avoid arguments in any circumstances.
 
Gardenlover said:
I have a close friend, we've been friends since the 70's, don't see eye to eye on most things, but have some really good conversations about some really deep things. We bounce ideas off each other and give each other sh!t. Things have never gotten heated or hateful. Maybe it's because, now-a-days, we only see each other once a year for a few days at a time.
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Might have a lot to do with it. "Familiarity breeds contempt"~ Geoffrey Chaucer
 
It's everywhere ….
…. after watching TWO football games erupt into mass fighting this weekend .. one college, one NFL …. I am upset with it all this morning.
 
I guess i would need a better definition of hostile ..... I think anyone can reach a point... of a sharp comment the rolling of eyes
Everyday things I come across can annoy and aggravate almost daily ......people who do not let others merge or worse in my area people who literally pull in between cars with out room to merge assuming you are just OK. People who seemingly can not wait or follow basic patience for their turn in line.

Examples: Driving/ how people seem to think everyone else is on their time or must have exact same thoughts as them.

I try to remember everyone has a level that crosses a line. Too many IMO follow group think and mob mentality in joining in fights to be "included" for their social media post.....
 
oslooskar said:
You attack their dissenting view, not them personally.
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Wow. When will this begin?

The brutal personal attacks fly fast and furiously here. My only explanation is that some people have sold their souls and tied their identities to views they have swallowed uncritically. I think they get so invested in those views because if accurate they'd confer some unearned set of privileges on them. Any countering opinion is experienced by them as an attack, thus the rabid lashing out that follows.

A more productive investigation might ask "What has made people so fragile?"
 
Gardenlover said:
Just start you own thread - Mr. Threadaus Deraileraus!!!! 😢😢😢
(Joking around of course - no hostility was implied, nor were fragile feelings purposely stepped on.)
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Oh dear.... don't get him started! Threadaus Deraileraus! :LOL::ROFLMAO:
I agree that some people just love hostility and plant it purposely... and I also agree that fragility is getting out of hand.
But at the same time, there are some folks who simply have a clashing personality with mine... I couldn't even name anything tangible that they do wrong... it's just gut intuition and I tend to stay away from those types both IRL and here. 🤷‍♀️
 
Whole books and university level courses address such broad complex issues that trying to address such by asking for advice from others limited to brief simple web posts is HOPELESS though worth asking bringing such into light. But since we now live in the Internet era unlike in the Western civilization past, effective enlightenment with answers is but a few computer keystroke Search clicks away for those that have patience to read and think. The below links provide excellent concise introductory essays on these issues.

Unfortunately those that need to do so most are the least likely to bother, instead preferring to remain in their dysfunctional emotional morass. Their patience is limited, and instead of being personally constructive, would rather amuse themselves in inane television and online media fantasy diversions, playing video games, and or pleasuring themselves with food, sex, pornography, and abusive drugs.

Aggression and Violent Behavior: Causes, Consequences, and Interventions

Assaultive Behavior: Causes, Consequences, and Interventions

Aggressive Behavior in the Workplace: Causes, Consequences, and Solutions
 
dilettante said:
Wow. When will this begin?

The brutal personal attacks fly fast and furiously here. My only explanation is that some people have sold their souls and tied their identities to views they have swallowed uncritically. I think they get so invested in those views because if accurate they'd confer some unearned set of privileges on them. Any countering opinion is experienced by them as an attack, thus the rabid lashing out that follows.

A more productive investigation might ask "What has made people so fragile?"
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Maybe you're just annoying. Loveably so, of course.
 
oslooskar said:
Uber was allowed by corrupt politicians to ruin the taxi industry. In fact, I can't help but wonder how much those politicos got under the table from Uber.
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Why shouldn't Uber be allowed? Capitalism is all about competition where the most fit rise to the top. Uber has provided better service or is more cost efficient than taxis, so they're what people choose. And within Uber, the drivers that are most reliable or that have the best vehicles often get the most business.
 
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