What have you finally made peace with in your life....?

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I saw this as a topic elsewhere, and I realised that we seniors must have something that we have come to make peace with in our lives..or not , as the case may be...

For me I have made peace with the fact that after a falling out 30 years ago, that fences can never be mended with one of my brothers...

I've made peace with the fact that my mother died long before her time.. and that's how God took her away from a toxic situation from which there was no other escape



What about you , what have you made peace about..?
 

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I've made peace with the fact that my son and I will never have a relationship. I've tried hard over the last 25+ years but he has resentments that he won't let go of. All of the resentments he has manufactured in his mind and aren't true. No matter what I've said, it doesn't change the situation between us. I've worried about it enough. I'm 75 and don't intend to dwell on it one minute more.
 
hollydolly said:
I saw this as a topic elsewhere, and I realised that we seniors must have something that we have come to make peace with in our lives..or not , as the case may be...

For me I have made peace with the fact that I will after a falling out 30 years ago, that fences can never be mended with one of my brothers...

I've made peace with the fact that my mother died long before her time.. and that's how God took her away from a toxic situation from which there was no other escape



What about you , what have you made peace about..?
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Excellent question but there are a few areas that I am still working on.
 

I have forgiven my first husband for his mental and physical abuses on my two children and myself. I've forgiven him for his multiple infidelities, his thefts, his lies, his continual cheating because he had not grown or evolved into a man of worth.
I not only forgave him, but I bless him and hope he grows spiritually in this life. No one I know needs blessings more than him and thank God I'm not living his life!
 
I have a sweet little cactus in the hallway. It stabbed me once, so I gave it hell. I've finally made peace with it.
Now, whenever I barely touch it on passing, I say ouch and pretend it hurt to encourage it's confidence.

Seriously though, I seem to be trying to make peace more often here of late. But nothing significant really.
 
I have made peace with the fact that my son, at 51, even though he is mentally disabled, cannot be forced to accept medical help or anything else that he does not seek on his own. I love him and I know he loves me. I see him almost daily and I accept him as he is. His condition could be worse and possibly it will be. But many others' children are worse off than mine.
 
Colleen said:
All of the resentments he has manufactured in his mind and aren't true. No matter what I've said, it doesn't change the situation between us. I've worried about it enough. I'm 75 and don't intend to dwell on it one minute more.
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I have two sons like that. One accuses me of giving my sons fetal alcohol syndrome, among other crazy things that never happened. One accuses me of being an opioid addict and of catching me stealing his lithium because I thought it was an opioid. None of this ever happened.

These sons are very much mentally ill (diagnosed for years by professionals). I don't get mad or particularly sad ... I just feel frustrated.
 
What or Who have I finally made peace with? Sylvester the Cat, Porky Pig, Road Runner, and Wily Coyote to name a few. I used to watch these characters on Saturday morning TV. I made peace with the fact if they don’t interfere with my life I won’t interfere with them unless they are summoned by my imagination.
 
I have made peace with the fact that I am not near perfect and I will always be a work in progress. As far as other people I was told by a group of people who as one are a lot wiser than me that resentments will kill me. That I should pray for the people I have resentments towards that they should receive all the things that I wish for myself. In response to some of the posts above.
"How sharper than a serpents tooth is it to have a thankless child"?
William Shakespeare

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What about you , what have you made peace about..?
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In my early adult years, I hurt many people.

Life deals folks some pretty bad hands

I

....was the dealer.

After awhile, it gets tough to go back to those still living, and say 'hey, by the way, you know that shit I pulled a few decades ago?....well, I'm sorry'

Then I became a Christian


Bible sez go to those you've harmed, and settle up before going to God.


I ran to them

Could not believe the reactions.

These folks should have hated me to the core.

Every one of them whole heartedly forgave me.

Lotsa tears, all around


Peace.......is invaluable
 
I had to give this question a lot of thought. Because life is fluid we all change and with change nothing is off the table. I've been hurt by people but have never not spoken to those people I thought I hated for wrongs done to me. Not since I was a teenager anyway.

The only thing I have had to come to terms with is that I will never jog again. My knee says "no" and I have to listen to my body in this. It's a painful decision, but I am accepting that high impact sports are out for me now. :(

I think this is the only thing I have come to terms with. Everything else is possible. 😊
 
I don't really know because I do not bear grudges, so I do not think I have to make peace with anyone. World events however, I am still trying to do a tiny bit, eg climate change etc. and what is impossible, I have no choice but to make peace with it and hope the Universe steps in and takes action.
 
Bill Maher had a brilliant editorial on his show last night. He said he was talking to a cab driver originally from Bosnia, and he said the condition this country is in, and the level of hatred between people based on political beliefs, is exactly what he saw in Bosnia in the early 1990's, before that country became a hellish wasteland. Recent surveys have shown that the majority of Americans, on both sides of the political aisle, would be in favor of having half the country secede.

Maher said he gave the matter some thought and realized the guy was right. We've got to stop hating the "other side," especially over trivial differences of opinion. If America is to survive, we have to remember that there will always be differences of opinion, but we are all basically on the same side. There has to be less hatred and contempt for people we just disagree with. I have made peace with that idea.
 

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