What if you were given a "do over"

I've said before that I would start at the beginning and choose different parents. We just never understood each other and I wonder how if might have been if we had been on the same wavelength. My siblings were all different too with little in common with each other.
Still, here I am and I continue to try and make the best of my life.
 

Alligatorob said:
Do you think it would have worked? Just imagining you had the chance?
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Yes, I really do.

I mean, I am where I am in this way and I'm dealing, but yes, had I done a few things differently, consistently differently, over the last couple decades, recognized things sooner, and done things differently, I would be in a better mental/physical place now.

Having said that, I am doing those things now, so that's something.
 
Yes. After a couple of "exes", I found that 'forever' may last a few years. So, instead of searching for that one person , who checks off all the boxes in my perfect mate ideal, it might have been better to go with the one who made me happier. I'm not talking about just hopping in bed with anyone, but it wouldn't have hurt either. :)
 

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I would have needed the do-over around age 8. I had a medical condition I had no power over; it affected every aspect of my life, maybe even to this day. So, I wish it never happened to me; if I could start again without it my world would have been different. Oh well...
 
rbtvgo said:
Suppose you could begin again at some point in your life. Where would it be and what would you do different?
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Small community, about 3 acres, cultivate garden, plant trees and take care of any deceased trees on property, have ginnies, and a few angora goats! The Connie’s ray insects, ticks, and guard their territorial range. The goats keep down grass and are good food supply. Live off grid if possible.
 
Katelivewire said:
Small community, about 3 acres, cultivate garden, plant trees and take care of any deceased trees on property, have ginnies, and a few angora goats! The Connie’s ray insects, ticks, and guard their territorial range. The goats keep down grass and are good food supply. Live off grid if possible.
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Gianni’s are a breed of dark meat hens sort of like grouse but domestic
 
I would only want to go back if I could have the benefit of hindsight, otherwise I would probably just make the same mistakes again! Actually, I guess "mistakes" might not be such a bad thing if we learn from them, which I did, eventually!

The thing is though, maybe it doesn't matter what decisions we made anyway, perhaps we all end up just where we were supposed to be, one way or another 🤷‍♀️ :)
 
CallMeKate said:
Ya know, @rbtvgo , that's a good question and I'm going to have to answer that I wouldn't do anything differently. Why? Because I'm thinking of It's a Wonderful Life and realizing that if I'd change the things that weren't perfect, or hurt me, or turned out wrong, etc. there'd be no way to know what *other* things would have been affected and different now. Nope, I'd keep things just as they were because I don't know what I'd be missing now if something had been different.
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i agree
 
I got married young at 18 and then started my family. If I had made another choice I wouldn’t have my 3 sons and 2 of them have been a huge blessing. We are very close and I love them so much. I can’t imagine my life without them even though I have wonderful friends and a full life.
 
mrstime said:
I guess if I didn't run away from home at 30, I'd for sure quit smoking!
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Does that mean you are still smoking? No judgement, I only quit recently/. I am coming up for a two year celebration. I never thought I could do it but I have.

Things I would change. Make my husband go to the doctor for check ups a couple of times a year. Have another child but my husband did not want anymore treatment after our son was born. These things weigh heavy on my heart, there is nothing I could about it.

That said, I should have kicked up a fuss, I did not. I still feel blessed to have my son. I still feel guilty that something was wrong but I could not make him go to the doctor. I finally betrayed him and told the MIL. She got after him to go to the doctor. That is when they found the cancer.

The whole thing could have been prevented if he would have gone to the doctor sooner.
 
Too much news. Too much garbage in the news. The 2% get the headlines.
Most of us live quiet lives. Go to work, raise the kids, invest in the future and go to sleep every night knowing that we did our best.
Then we read the news and wonder whether we are paying attention or really know what is going on.
Yeah....we do.

Washington..........you better be damn glad we have your back!

just my thoughts
rbtvgo
 
Capt Lightning said:
I've said before that I would start at the beginning and choose different parents
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Same here. In fact, I read an article a few years ago: the head bartender of a fancy cocktail lounge inside a large, fancy hotel (in New York city IIRC), said that every year the American Psychiatric Association had their annual convention there. And he said that every year, he would hear at least a couple of psychiatrists/therapists/counselors, etc. confess to each other that they wondered if they had gone into the wrong line of work since the only real help they could offer anybody was, "Go back in time and choose different parents to be born to." :(
 
There was a period in 1980 where I was the best I'd ever been. I was exercising and taking care of myself. I was in great shape. I lived in a wonderful apartment building with an indoor pool. I had a wonderful dog who'd kept me happy for 9 years at the time.

In a couple years I fell for a woman at work, and moved into the city to be closer to her. That was a huge mistake. My life fell apart, and I was never able to get it back together. Well, over the past few years I have made great strides in taking care of my mental health. That is at least some consolation.
 
Blessed said:
Does that mean you are still smoking? No judgement, I only quit recently/. I am coming up for a two year celebration. I never thought I could do it but I have.

Things I would change. Make my husband go to the doctor for check ups a couple of times a year. Have another child but my husband did not want anymore treatment after our son was born. These things weigh heavy on my heart, there is nothing I could about it.

That said, I should have kicked up a fuss, I did not. I still feel blessed to have my son. I still feel guilty that something was wrong but I could not make him go to the doctor. I finally betrayed him and told the MIL. She got after him to go to the doctor. That is when they found the cancer.

The whole thing could have been prevented if he would have gone to the doctor sooner.
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I quit about 20 years ago, but it wasn't soon enough to save me from COPD and oxygen! Believe me hauling an oxygen hose around is a pain in the arse!
 
This is a no brainer for me. I would go back to the day my son (age 4) had a bad accident and watch him better so it didn't happen.

But that's the big serious thing I would change.

A small thing just popped into my head that I've never thought of before. If I had several changes, I would go back to the day I was 13 and came home from camp. While I was gone my nice parents had redone my bedroom. My mother had made a new bedspread and curtains to match and my father had painted the walls blue. He had also hung a big full length mirror on the wall and painted a big ribbon over it to look like it was holding it. Very pretty.

I would like to go back to that day and ask my father to take the mirror down and hang a painting under the ribbon instead. The room was so small that there was no place to walk or sit without being reflected back from that mirror. I became a little obsessed with my appearance and was constantly finding flaws or combing my hair when I should have been studying or doing just about anything else.

I just now realized this!
 

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