What if you were given a "do over"

Alligatorob said:
Do you think it would have worked? Just imagining you had the chance?
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I read all the post and realize that most of the talk is just being able to express yourself. That's great! I read them all. We are more alike then you all may think. Same stories.....different names.
In a world that makes us feel isolated it's nice to know that we are not alone. We just don't talk about these things to strangers.
Here we can express are self and find out that, we are far from alone.
Countries, race, religious beliefs all matter but beneath it all is that we are ALL THE SAME.
I enjoy all the post. Have to find more questions to ask.
rbtvgo
 

In answering the thread's question - I would not change a thing, although so many things have happened to me (injury, loss of loved ones, etc.) because each time I lived through adversity or loss, I became stronger as a person. My character became better. These were life's lessons and I had to experience them. You adjust and move forward. That has been my life.

Your question also reminded me of the movie Back to the Future where they go back in time and then forward in time, and how things changed because of certain actions changing. That is a fascinating movie about change.
 
rbtvgo said:
I have so many questions. How do you deal with the fact that you are no longer the person you thought you were? not to say you don't try, just that you can't do the things that you use to do.
rbtvgo
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I kind of like myself more now than earlier in life.
I’m more patient with myself and more kind to myself.
I’ve forgiven myself of past mistakes.

When I was younger I always put others before my own needs. A lot was expected of me.
I lived in the survival mode most of my life.

I guess you could say I’m at peace with myself now.
 
officerripley said:
I wouldn't bother trying to do anything different since I'd still be the same old me doing things wrong and rubbing people the wrong way or boring them. There's some things I never should've said but even if I could go back and not say them, I'm sure I'd still say something wrong.
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Still trying to figure out why some members found this funny...I guess it's funny if it's happening to somebody else? :unsure:
 
officerripley said:
Still trying to figure out why some members found this funny...I guess it's funny if it's happening to somebody else? :unsure:
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Now I'm wondering about it, too. Is it the slightly wry overall tone in the last few words? I think there's a lot of skimming going on when people read these forums and we miss the real meaning sometimes.

Anyway, I didn't find it funny but sad that you remember the times you put your foot in your mouth (something we all do) and not all the many times you've been really nice (something I see you do here all the time.)
 
Hopeful1 said:
I kind of like myself more now than earlier in life.
I’m more patient with myself and more kind to myself.
I’ve forgiven myself of past mistakes.

When I was younger I always put others before my own needs. A lot was expected of me.
I lived in the survival mode most of my life.

I guess you could say I’m at peace with myself now.
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good for you:)
 
I sat outside earlier whilst the dawg moved around and had a coffee and thought " today is my chance with lottery to win a million or two dollars or perhaps more and then how can I become more happy? - can I buy my parents back NO ; will my grandkids talk and visit more - only if I give them money - that's not real then just bribery ; can I bring back deceased good friends NO ; would I buy a big mansion in the countrside with 100 rooms NO ; would I travel all over the world URGH NO ; would I have big parties and even invite strangers around NO - money really can't buy true happiness and real honest companionship it just pretend friends - so today I may buy a lottery T but keep it secret for quite some time!
 
Hmmmm. Yep I would if given the chance. One bad decision leading to another than another. BUT only if I had a healthy family of origin to kick start me on the new redirected journey.
 
"healthy family of origin" I understand the 'origin' that's an orange and gin isn't it but what I don't quite understand id healthy family?? = can you elucidate? please!
 
Pre-conception and I would want to be made from the gametes without autoimmune genes ...but since that wouldn't be me, I'm not sure if that counts.
 
well there is healthy physical health and healthy mental health both are different from each other and do not necessarily come together and the beatles once sang? there was in fact some fascinating research done and I've lost the connections ; about looking back into your family geneologies genetically like - going back several generations if you can and checking out medical records seeing what you may have inherited from your great great great and so on - it was done re the earlier studies of checking out dna's etc and came up with some interesting stuff about if your ggggg grandfather had had this disease then the chances of you getting it where very high?? funny heh?
 
I would like a do-over so I could be more kind.

I think this would have required better understanding of myself early on, and getting away from bad influences. Not sure if I could go back as far as 10 years old and change much, or maybe 15, or 20. And I do have a reputation for being kind. Still, my biggest regrets now are in this department.
 
davey said:
"healthy family of origin" I understand the 'origin' that's an orange and gin isn't it but what I don't quite understand id healthy family?? = can you elucidate? please!
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I guess “healthy” family of origin would be parents that didn’t walk around with a belt. Parents that would let me leave the front porch. When I met my husband and watched how they interacted and did family things and laughed and talked. To me that’s a healthy family of origin
 
yes families full of positives - helping one another ; nurturing one another ; none are absolute no selfishness ; willing to give and share ; mentoring kindly ; gentle protection ; little about self more about everyone else - now let me see who in history can we remember who walked the earth and did these things? hmm??
 
My understanding at this point in life is that you can change circumstances but if you don't even think about changing yourself, the results are going to be the same.
 
The more I think about it, if it were possible somehow to keep some of the relationships I have, I wouldn't strand myself in such and old-fashioned, rural, traditional area...so tired of this country-fried living.
 
CallMeKate said:
Ya know, @rbtvgo , that's a good question and I'm going to have to answer that I wouldn't do anything differently. Why? Because I'm thinking of It's a Wonderful Life and realizing that if I'd change the things that weren't perfect, or hurt me, or turned out wrong, etc. there'd be no way to know what *other* things would have been affected and different now. Nope, I'd keep things just as they were because I don't know what I'd be missing now if something had been different.
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Another movie that covers this well in more modern way is 'The Butterfly Effect'.

I agree with you.
 
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